Ways to include my mom?

Izzygrim · March 2010

I'm fortunate enough to be really close to my mother. She's really pretty much my best friend. I'd really like to give her a bigger role in the wedding ceremony itself than the average role a MOB has because she is so important to me (ie, more than just lighting one of the candles for the unity candle).

I like the idea of the MOB and FOB both walking the bride down the aisle, but my dad is pretty sentimental, so I'm leaving that as his thing. I told her I'd like to have her move involved in the ceremony than is typical, and she said she is up for whatever I decide. I'm just not coming up with anything besides doing readings or the candle lighting, and I want her to do more than that. I do want to see if I can work it out were FI walks both his mother and then my mother down the aisle before the ceremony, but I've got nothing besides that.

Have any of you or do any of you plan on involving your mom more in the ceremony than is usual? Any ideas?? TIA!

ssminy79 · March 2010

I don't know what kind of bridal party you are having but could she be your matron of honor?? Our parents are standing up for us, although I am not calling them a 'bridal party' they are going to be at our sides for the ceremony.

hkiesling · March 2010

Have you ever heard of a wine box? There's more detail in the link below, but basically you and your FI write a letters to each other about why you fell in love, blah, blah, blah and don't read them. At the ceremony, you put the letters, two wine glasses, and a bottle of wine into the box. Your mothers/wedding party/eachother/whoever seals/nails the box shut. If at any time in your marriage you feel like you want to give up, you open the box with your DH, drink the wine and read the letters. It's supposed to remind you of why you fell in love in the first place. If you haven't opened it by your X anniversary, then you get to open it then. I've also read where every anniversary you open the box, drink the wine, read the letters, replace the wine and add new letters or momentos (so it turns into a keepsake box).

You could have your mothers do that.

http://www.weddingofyourdesire.com/unique_ideas.html

Izzygrim · March 2010

Thanks for the input!!! This board is always so helpful!
ssminy - I already have 4 BM and FI has 3 GM, so it might not work for us to add just her as MOH. Honestly though, I wish I would have thought it out more before I picked our WP because I'd really like her to be my MOH. I really like your idea, I think it will be special and extra meaningful to have your parents standing up for you.
hkiesling - I love that wine box idea! FI hates wine though, so we'd maybe have to modify it somehow. I like the idea though, so I'll have to think about how we can maybe modify it. I think he's ok with champagne, so maybe we could do that instead.
Thanks for the ideas, and I welcome any more ideas!

veijes · March 2010

During the ceremony, after we light the unity candle, we will be giving both of our moms roses. My friend did this and it was really sweet, they hugged both sets of parents and it thought it was a really special moment!

Bimbi284 · March 2010

Also, I've been to several weddings where the bride has both a matron of honor AND and maid of honor, so this would still be a possibility.

veijes · March 2010

I agree with Bimbi, I'm having both!

Brianne09 · March 2010

We are doing the roses after the unity candle too. The plan is to wrap a white and red rose together as a symbol of unity. I like the idea of having your fiance or maybe even a brother (if you have one) walk your mom down the aisle. That's what I would have done, but my mom is walking me down the aisle since I'm not close to my dad.I really like the wine box thing, definitely going to have to look into that!

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