My MoH and I have been friends for five years now. She told me recently that she is going to join the military sometime in the next year, and will likely be in training or stationed at a non-local base for my wedding. I am conflicted on this. On one hand, I am SO HAPPY for her! She has spent her whole life taking care of other people and now she is doing something for herself, and I am supporting her decision fully. On the other hand (And will never tell her this next part) I am crushed. She never made mention of enlisting when I talked to her about being my MoH (She may not have been considering it at the time) and now I am likely going to be short a MoH at the wedding, as well as short a BM.
I don't have many friends, which is why two mof my BMs are my aunt and my cousin. I have a few friends I could ask to be a BM, to keep it even with the GM (I would like it even), but I feel it would be rude to "promote" a BM to be my MoH, just because Lizzy is enlisted. I'm certainly not going to "fire" her, or make her feel bad about improving her life. I'm just not sure if it would be proper to "promote" someone in her absence, or go on as though she were at the wedding and do some of ther MoH duties myself, or not at all? Thanks in advance for any help.