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btrflykate1230
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So, the wedding is off.
Hey All,
Just thought I would give you a head's up as to why I was on a lot, and then not at all. We just went through a lot of shiit and realized that we're not right for each other. It's basically irreconcilable differences.
I don't know if I will GBCK or not, since I do like a lot of women on here. I do feel kind of weird hanging around a wedding board when I'm not getting married though. We'll see.
I almost didn't even post this, since I didn't want to seem like an AW, but I didn't want the people here who I'm FB friends with to go, "WTF?" so, I figured I'd just post a brief thing here.
So, that's that.
Also, now that the wedding is canceled, should I reimburse the BM for their dresses or just let it go? I just don't know what the right thing to do is.
Just thought I would give you a head's up as to why I was on a lot, and then not at all. We just went through a lot of shiit and realized that we're not right for each other. It's basically irreconcilable differences.
I don't know if I will GBCK or not, since I do like a lot of women on here. I do feel kind of weird hanging around a wedding board when I'm not getting married though. We'll see.
I almost didn't even post this, since I didn't want to seem like an AW, but I didn't want the people here who I'm FB friends with to go, "WTF?" so, I figured I'd just post a brief thing here.
So, that's that.
Also, now that the wedding is canceled, should I reimburse the BM for their dresses or just let it go? I just don't know what the right thing to do is.
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Re: So, the wedding is off.
I would encourage the girls to try to return the dresses and if that's totally not possible, then yeah if you can afford it, it would be great if you could pay for the dresses, even in part.
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Don't GBCK! There are plenty of non-engaged/married people around these parts, and we can be a pretty good sounding board for people going through a tough time. We're here for you. (big hug)
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as far as the dresses go, i agree with dani - see if they can return them, and if not, i'd probably offer to pay for them. if i was your friend, i would decline taking the money knowing all you went through. so, hopefully they will think the same way.
Aw, Kate, I'm sorry to read that. I had wondered where you'd been.
Please don't GBCK - there are other women here whose engagements ended, and you're a nice addition to the boards.
I really don't have any words, but I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. I do know that this board was a pretty amazing source of support for me when I had a rough time; I'm sure it would come through for you, too, if you want to get stuff off your chest.
Good luck in figuring things out.
For those of you who have done it, how did you do it? Any tips?
And thanks so much for all the support. It really means a lot to me.
I hope you stick around though. Don't chu dare go anywhere.
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I think you are incredibly strong and I think that it was a great thing that you called it off. So many people would get married anyway. Especially with a child involved. Kudos girly! ANd lots of hugs.
I would reimburse the girls, yes. They might not want you to though. If it was my best friend, I would refuse the money. I'd just tell her to take me for lunch or to buy me a drink or something.
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As far as BMs dresses, FSIL called off her wedding last year and for those bridesmaids who had already purchased their dresses, FIs parent's reimbursed them.
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In every instance someone offered to pay for the dress. In every instance, I or they said no.
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So sorry, girl. And I agree that you should stick around, if you feel comfortable doing so. Lots of us are here for the company and not weddings at all!
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You are such a strong person for calling it off, and I know you will be a great single mom. Just keep your chin up and let your son help you, even with little things.
If you need to leave I understand, but we will really really miss you around here. You have a great personality and we love having you around.
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As for the dresses, I'd also see if the girls could return them. If not, I'd offer to pay for them. Who knows, maybe they'll decide to keep them if they can wear them again.