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Giving the bride away
Ok, so I'm a bit concerned with the whole 'giving me away' issue and I would like your opinions on it.
My biological father left my mother while she was still pregnant with me and didn't bother to get in touch with me until I was 10 years old. That was 13 years ago and since then we have gotten a bit closer, but no where near the way a father and daughter should be.
My mother met my stepdad when I was 3 and I grew up calling him Daddy for the next 20 years. Last year during Christmas, he said something to me that I cannot get past (I doubt anyone would be able to get over what he said if he said it to them), and now I don't even look at him, not even if we're in the same room.
My mother's dad, my grandpa, has been there since before I was born and has spoiled me and taken care of me the way a father should take care of his daughter. He can't stand my stepdad and can't believe that my mom married him, so in his mind, I have replaced my mom and I am his little girl.
Mrs. Parker
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Re: Giving the bride away
Good luck!
There are also other options, though. Many modern brides walk alone, or with their FIs. As Maire said, you could also ask your mom to accompany you.
I'm sorry to hear about the falling out with your stepfather. That's brutal.
Really, so long as you're happy with who walks you down the aisle, that is all that matters!
[QUOTE]I can't help but be nosey wondering what was said to you. I<strong> picked your Grandpa, he seems to be the constant in your life</strong>. Otherwise, I would choose walk down alone. Good luck!
Posted by scrpio421[/QUOTE]
this, or you could get your mom to walk you down the aisle
I agree that it sounds like you answered your own question by the way you worded the choices in your poll.
[QUOTE]That's a tough one. Grandpa is the obvious choice and I'm sure you're pissed (for good reason) that your dad left. But he did come back. <strong>Was he trying to be a part of our life for the past 13 years or just floating in and out?</strong>
Posted by scorpgirl1120[/QUOTE]
<div>No he's just been in and out. He has tried to be there for me, but it's like he doesn't exist most of the time. After I had the fallout with my stepfather, my mother decided that being standing behind her husband was more important than supporting me, her firstborn child and only girl. That's why I would rather not have her give me away. She gave that right away when she chose to stand behind him instead of me. I know it sounds like I'm being petty and childish, but if you knew the whole story, you would understand.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Giving the bride away : No he's just been in and out. He has tried to be there for me, but it's like he doesn't exist most of the time. After I had the fallout with my stepfather, my mother decided that being standing behind her husband was more important than supporting me, her firstborn child and only girl. That's why I would rather not have her give me away. She gave that right away when she chose to stand behind him instead of me. I know it sounds like I'm being petty and childish, but if you knew the whole story, you would understand.
Posted by jessicarc11[/QUOTE]
How do you think your biological dad would take it if you had your grandfather give you away? If you truly want to repair your relationship with him, and you think that doing this might make the relationship even more strained, then it might be best to just walk down the aisle alone.
I picked your grandfather. If he makes you happy, he deserves to give you away regardless of who is biological or who you call father.
Your grandfather seems like the only stable caring parental voice for you. Or as the others have said, yourself. You're the only one who has been there for yourself through it all! You would have to be a confident strong women in my eyes to handle these relationships.
I wish you all the best in your marriage...
Good luck!