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Spill the beans already!
Hi everyone, I need advice...
My boyfriend and I are in love and have decided that we want to marry next October. We've been looking into wedding venues, rings, invitations, etc. but he wants to do the traditional thing- ask my father for my hand in marriage. I've been so excited about everything that I've told my grandma everything! But I haven't said anything to my parents. I've sworn my grammy to secrecy, but its killing me! My mother is very traditional and I know would be funky about me doing all this planning and not having been formally proposed to. My babe wants to save up for this "perfect" ring and the whole bit. Far be it from me to deny the man of his wishes! But how do I approach it from my family's perspective? On one hand, I know she's old school, but on the other hand, if she found out my grandmother knew, I'd have a whole other issue on my hands. Do I spill the beans??
My boyfriend and I are in love and have decided that we want to marry next October. We've been looking into wedding venues, rings, invitations, etc. but he wants to do the traditional thing- ask my father for my hand in marriage. I've been so excited about everything that I've told my grandma everything! But I haven't said anything to my parents. I've sworn my grammy to secrecy, but its killing me! My mother is very traditional and I know would be funky about me doing all this planning and not having been formally proposed to. My babe wants to save up for this "perfect" ring and the whole bit. Far be it from me to deny the man of his wishes! But how do I approach it from my family's perspective? On one hand, I know she's old school, but on the other hand, if she found out my grandmother knew, I'd have a whole other issue on my hands. Do I spill the beans??
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Re: Spill the beans already!
[QUOTE]Hi everyone, I need advice... My boyfriend and I are in love and have decided that we want to marry next October. We've been looking into wedding venues, rings, invitations, etc. but he wants to do the traditional thing- ask my father for my hand in marriage. I've been so excited about everything that I've told my grandma everything! But I haven't said anything to my parents. I've sworn my grammy to secrecy, but its killing me! <strong>My mother is very traditional and I know would be funky about me doing all this planning and not having been formally proposed to.</strong> My babe wants to save up for this "perfect" ring and the whole bit. Far be it from me to deny the man of his wishes! But how do I approach it from my family's perspective? On one hand, I know she's old school, but on the other hand, if she found out my grandmother knew, I'd have a whole other issue on my hands. Do I spill the beans??
Posted by BeauTEEfulBride13[/QUOTE]
Your mother sounds like a brilliant woman! It is crazy to plan your wedding before being engaged, and has nothing to do with "traditional" or "non-traditional". What exactly did you tell dear old Granny? That you've been planning a wedding but aren't engaged? So no, don't spill the beans because there are no beans to spill. It seems like you don't consider yourself engaged so you have nothing to tell. When you get engaged you can spill the beans and start planning, until then, enjoy your relationship where it is at.
Also, you do NOT need a ring to be engaged... just food for thought.
[QUOTE]Uhm.... don't plan your wedding until you're engaged. Period. Problem solved!
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
This!
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[QUOTE]Hi everyone, I need advice...<strong> My boyfriend and I are in love</strong> and have decided that we want to marry next October. We've been looking into wedding venues, rings, invitations, etc. but he wants to do the traditional thing- ask my father for my hand in marriage. I've been so excited about everything that I've told my grandma everything! But I haven't said anything to my parents. I've sworn my grammy to secrecy, but its killing me! My mother is very traditional and I know would be funky about me doing all this planning and not having been formally proposed to. My babe wants to save up for this "perfect" ring and the whole bit. Far be it from me to deny the man of his wishes! But how do I approach it from my family's perspective? On one hand, I know she's old school, but on the other hand, if she found out my grandmother knew, I'd have a whole other issue on my hands. Do I spill the beans??
Posted by BeauTEEfulBride13[/QUOTE]
<div>but guys, they're in looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove, so they're obvs gonna get murried, duh.</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Spill the beans already! : but guys, they're in looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooove, so they're obvs gonna get murried, duh.
Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh duh, how foolish of us! </div><div>
</div><div>Also, her name reminds me of that episode of Bridezillas where the bride demanded everyone call her "The Most Beautiful Bride"</div>
Do the crazies always come out during the summer or is this a year-round entertaining event?
[QUOTE]Just curious for those who have been on TK longer than me... Do the crazies always come out during the summer or is this a year-round entertaining event?
Posted by minskat30[/QUOTE]
<div>Year-round. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Spill the beans already! : Year-round.
Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]
But stick around during the holidays... it gets REALLY interesting then.
[QUOTE]My first post experience and I'm labelled a crazy. Thanks, you all have been most helpful.
Posted by BeauTEEfulBride13[/QUOTE]
Well, when the shoe fits...
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Spill the beans already! : Year-round.
Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]
Oh good. :) Wouldn't want to miss the show if it was a seasonal thing.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Spill the beans already! : But stick around during the holidays... it gets REALLY interesting then.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
Good Lord, I can only imagine. Especially around Christmas and V-Day I would assume. Looking forward to it.
[QUOTE]My first post experience and I'm labelled a crazy. Thanks, you all have been most helpful.
Posted by BeauTEEfulBride13[/QUOTE]
<div>Perhaps not act crazy then?</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Spill the beans already! : Well, when the shoe fits...
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
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