How to get BF on board?

tdwpg1984 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_how-to-get-bf-on-board?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:da439762-ddf7-4373-b001-470a535bef6dPost:e1382c16-e810-4679-b033-2a52f6d7cefe">Re: How to get BF on board?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh shoes, you have made my day that much better. I don't know about you girls but I already have my nursery items for my baby. Never mind that I am not even having sex. It will happen one of these days and so I want to make sure that when I do finally get knocked up and force the guy to marry me, we will have all the baby stuff. Oh and I hope it is a girl or I will have one pretty looking boy dressed up in all the cute little frilly dresses I bought on sale last week!
Posted by meamolly[/QUOTE]
OMG me too! Well the whole planning the nursery part, cuz I think BF would be mad if we didn't have sex. I've actually decided I want to have a girl, so I've only bought girl clothes and everything I've bought is pink and the nursery is pink. I'll just refuse to have the baby if it's a boy and just keep getting knocked up until I have a girl. A boy just like totally ruins my plans. I also have my whole funeral planned and have a retirement home picked out. Oh and I bought a casket the other day. It was such a great deal I just couldn't say no!<div>
<div>Actually I'm not going to lie, when we picked out paint colours for the spare bedroom about 0.01% of the decision on the colour was based on the spare room possibly being a nursery. But it was really more like "Let's match the walls to my duvet cover that will be used for guests. It's cream, blue, blue-grey and green. Green with cream accents would be nice. Let's do that. And then it's still a "Green Room" for guests. (BF has this thing where he thinks guest rooms should be green) And hey, bonus, if we have an ops, the room is gender neutral!" The last part was really more of a joke and an after though. (We plan on moving before we start TTC, btw, so the spare bedroom would only be used for a nursery if there is an ops). We never bought any baby stuff (except for like other people's babies).</div></div>

beanbot2002 · March 2012

Surprise weddings work EVERY TIME! Do it, OP. Don't think about it. Just do it. Forget all these mean girls and plan that surprise ice rink wedding! I'll totally be your wedding planner. Totally. And let me just say, that when he shows up and sees you in that gorgeous white dress, he is going to shiit himself and cry tears of joy.

Elle1036 · March 2012

I love it when Liv puts on her mod voice.

jorja86 · March 2012

How do you think your BF would react if he read this post? Would he think you sound a little crazy? Or do you think he'd be okay that you are planning out his life without even consulting him?

You've been dating for six months. When exactly did you start planning this "wedding"? Slow down and enjoy your relationship? What's your hurry?

LoveBug82510 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_how-to-get-bf-on-board?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:da439762-ddf7-4373-b001-470a535bef6dPost:1879989e-ffb5-4eb5-bacc-01d5d39aea8e">Re: How to get BF on board?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, I'm "for real," but thanks for being so condescending. We've been dating for about<strong> six months</strong>. And I already said that I'm trying NOT to pressure him--that's why I posted this! <strong>Do you think that a surprise wedding would work? Even though we haven't really talked about marriage, I know that we're on the same page about kids, money, etc. And I could pay for the whole thing, with some help from my parents (they said they'd help otu when the time comes).
</strong>Posted by Louise869[/QUOTE]

First off, 6 months? WOW! I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we've talked about marriage about a handful of times....but that was after a year of dating.

Second, a surprise wedding is NOT a good idea. Are you BSC? Because you're certainly sounding like it.

You're better off slowing your roll and letting your relationship grow. Stop trying on dresses and calling locations for pricing. Your BF will soon find out and will most likely walk away because he doesn't want it RIGHT NOW. RELAX. Take a chill pill and as I said, let your relationship grow.

travelerkris · March 2012

I loved this article from A Practical Wedding - try reading it as a cautionary tale - I could totally relate to some of her feelings:

http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/10/mortification-an-the-pre-engaged-state/

The author ends up with David's Bridal calling the house and congratulating her "fiance" about their upcoming wedding. This can be a verrrry slippery slope.

Enjoy The Knot, but try your very best not to get caught up in the fun details that might change. Or throw yourself a fabulous costume party, or birthday party, or girl's weekend away (like a bachelorette party but without the veil). Channel that energy into celebrating yourself. Your wedding will come in exactly the right time. Good luck!

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