Fears?!?!

KDough · February 2012

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[QUOTE]And it's a good thing I'm not a groom because I would totally think that about a tiara. Unless you're royalty or marrying into it, you shouldn't wear a tiara. That's taking the whole "pretty pretty princess day" to a whole new level.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

haha totally agree too!! I always cringe when I see brides wearing one

littleluckypenny · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Luckypenny, the way you worded your fears made me giggle. I hope your families mix =) My fear is really the judging thing. We're putting so much money and effort into one day I really want it to be nothing short of amazing. I know I've walked out of weddings saying "the DJ sucked" "that was boring" and I don't want that to happen to me.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

Thanks Diamond!!! I honestly forgot I had this fear until this discussion!

littleluckypenny · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fears?!?! : T&Ps that this won't happen for you! Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the T&Ps! I think it's just my paranoia talking. Then again.....maybe not.. :p

MMRoberts11 · February 2012

I also am worried about guests not liking things but on the other hand, we picked what my FI and I thought was best for us. So I'm just hoping everyone enjoys themselves that day.

Part of me is terrified of a vendor not showing up. Even when I was searching for my vendors I had this fear and asked a lot of questions to be sure SOMEONE would be there if they personally couldn't and other related questions.

My newest fear is something happening to Chris's grandpa a few days before the wedding. He's still hanging in there with his health problems so I'm worried he'll get really sick right before and then most of Chris's family won't be there to be with his grandpa (after we've paid for everything and can't change the head count).

ncd5015 · February 2012

I'm afraid of walking down the aisle. I might trip or something.

acaponi87 · February 2012

I'm nervous that I'm going to cry like a baby during the ceremony and ruin all my make-up. Plus I look HORRIBLE when I cry. My face gets so blotchy and red and my eyes swell almost instantly...I'll ruin all the pictures afterward!!

kks4471 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Luckypenny, the way you worded your fears made me giggle. I hope your families mix =) My fear is really the judging thing. We're putting so much money and effort into one day I really want it to be nothing short of amazing. I know I've walked out of weddings saying "the DJ sucked" "that was boring" and I don't want that to happen to me.
Posted by diamondx423[/QUOTE]

Exactly this. I know our wedding won't be perfect, but I seriously hope our guests have a fantastic time. We also have a fear of being the center of attention, but that's why we're having a short and sweet ceremony haha.

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I am sooo afraid to talk down the aisle. I am afriad my dad will step on the train or worse the cathedral length veil and it will get yanked out of my head!! Also afraid to trip!

Cassandra999 · February 2012

I'm a serious worrier. Here is just a sample

-rain (outdoor ceremony)

-legitimate fear that I can't walk on grass in my shoes. I will have to practice.

-We both hate being the center of attention. The ceremony should be ok (if I don't trip) I don't know if we will be doing a thank you speech or not. I feel like we should but I don't want speak in front of this many people.

-people will judge everything - dress decorations food drinks

-people will be bored (leads into next fear)

- Music/Dancing - I've never really like dancing unless I'm quite drunk. I'm too self conscious. People expect a lot of dancing at weddings. I don't really know how this will pan out. Even my mom is already bugging me about. She said things like "go have fun, dance, just let loose" and that just makes me more uptight about it! And the music FI & I like is not exactly dance music or wedding music. We need to talk to the DJ then maybe I'll feel better.

-And now I'm worried about all the other things you guys brought up that I hadn't thought of yet!

kimiandgary · February 2012

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[QUOTE]My biggest fear (other than rain) is that FI will see me for the first time...and be disappointed. I had a male coworker who admitted that when he first saw his bride his first thought was "is that a f-ing tiara?!". Granted they got divorced three years later and I'm not wearing a tiara but still. I think we all imagine our FI crying or his face lighting up. I'm also afraid it will be boring because our guests list is heavily skewed to the 60 & older crowd because our families are older and we don't have a large group of friends.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

I could have written this post. 100% on everything

doeie04 · February 2012

I am worried I will be blubbering too much to say our vows, and I am an ugly crier (like PP said) and my neck and face get really red rashy looking spots. We both don't like to be in the spotlight and get nervous. My dad is really shy and I know we will both be super nervous walking down the aisle, I hope we don't trip. there are a lot of stairs....

I am kind of worried about what his aunts will think of the reception. We worked really hard on it, and they better appreciate it. And I swear if I hear one negative word about it from them I am going to say some stuff I have been wanting to say for years!

sweetcanadian1979 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm nervous that I'm going to cry like a baby during the ceremony and ruin all my make-up. Plus I look HORRIBLE when I cry. My face gets so blotchy and red and my eyes swell almost instantly...I'll ruin all the pictures afterward!!
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS, which is part of the reason i am doing a first look. </div><div>
</div><div>I am afraid mostly that we will forget something, we live 30 minutes away from the wedding so forgetting something will be the thing that is on my mind the most, especially since we forgot the paper coffee cups as well as the clamato for the social. </div><div>
</div><div>Tiaras are not so bad, they go with some looks, i have a tiara, but it goes completely with my dress & jewlery, nothing else would have looked right. I am not keeping it on all night long though.</div>

kaitlyn142 · February 2012

Where do I begin?? I am a very high strung person. Panic should be my middle name. I am never calm. Ever. A short list of fears:

1) That the priest will say "Mr and Mrs Hisfirstname Hislastname" and I will turn around and hiss, because that is my automatic reaction. I'm telling the priest I'm not Mrs Hisfirst Hislast, but I don't know he will listen.

2) That a family member will say something racially insensitive on either side. I'm white. FI is mixed race white/Asian. His mother's side (the Asian side) doesn't necessarily approve, but at least their snarky comments will be in Mandarin. Only one of my cousins speaks Mandarin, and he's not likely to be at the wedding. I think he's in Thailand? Thank goodness.

3) Being judged on wearing a qipao to the reception.

4) That my mother won't finish my ceremony dress.

5) Being announced coming in to the reception. So not comfortable with that.

6) First dance. I can't dance. He can't dance. We HATE being the center of attention.

7) No one dancing.

8) We screw up getting the license requirements. I need to look up Ohio's laws...

courtneyclare103 · February 2012

I fear forgetting something important!

AlliJae · February 2012

Ahhh the ugly crying thing. Forgot about that one. Good thing for first looks....I am not sure that will help me much, though.

Carebear62584 · February 2012

My fears aren't so much about me, but about other people. I'm afraid that something will happen between my aunt and uncle. The last 2 weddings they have been to together he has left the wedding and left my aunt to go home with my parents or with her kids. As I've said before they are in the middle of a nasty separation and my uncle has a new woman in his life. I am not allowing him to bring her (I don't think he would anyway), but my aunt can get snippy at times and although she doesn't mean to be nasty it's the tone of her voice that it can be taken that way. They both said they will not do anything to cause drama but you never know. I was on the fence about even inviting my uncle but since the JP is a friend of his and isn't charging us I feel obligated.

I'm also afraid of something going on between FI's parents. Pretty much they were never together and are both remarried, yet they are bitter towards each other (28 years later!) Both FI's dad and stepdad are groomsmen and he's talked to all parents involved and told them they have to learn to be civil to each other. I'm sure everything will be okay though.

tyleet87 · February 2012

I just want everything to come together and look nice and the way I wanted it. I'm nervous that we'll forget something important too.

I also am really not a people-person (it takes me a while to warm up to people) and FI has family coming that I have never met!

Melissa603 · February 2012

My best friend's wedding we forgot the toasting flutes and it was about 20 minutes before the ceremony and her mom lives 15 minutes away. I went up to the best man and told him to get in my truck and we flew. At one point the thew my heels at him because I couldn't floor it with them lol. Some how we made it there and back in 10 minutes and no one realized we were actually gone. The bride's sister covered for us because she was the only other one who knew they were missing and that we went to get them.

calisel · February 2012

I have a fear that because we are so much ahead with the planning that we are going to forget something. I don't know what yet, or if there even is anything. It is just a sick feeling that I have that wont go away. Another fear is not seeing my mom or grandma cry on the wedding day. It's my dad. He does not get emotional, but I know this is eating him up. I have to be composed and not get all blubbery if he starts crying. I will lose it and once I start I can't stop...

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