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Bed, Bath and Beyond encourages you to be tacky

CN Version:  Bed Bath and Beyond is rude, pushy and gives out registry cards for your invitations

Long Version:
We decided to go register last weekend because I was child free and wanted to get  a general feel of what I wanted to register for.

This was probably the worse experience ever. First off I'm more then a year out from my wedding. We're registering early because one I don't have tons of time to register, two I wanted to get a feel of what to register for at Bed, Bath and Beyond and where to register else where.

We walk in and the "attendant" starts trying to sell us everything in the store. Telling us to register for stuff like towels even if I didn't know the colors I want yet because I can return them for a different color later duh(seriously?)

We registered for a grand total of 25 items, the big items we knew we needed and wanted on the registry. Mind you I'm OVER A YEAR OUT

The lady starts badgering us to put more stuff on or schedule a time to come back in later or later in the week to register again... really pushing. We explained again that we had over a year this was just a first pass we'd decide later on more things...

So she goes to get the registry list and comes back with I'm not kidding you about 10 packages of these little cards. She explains to me they're to put in my invitations.

Say what? I couldn't help myself I told her exactly "No thank you. Putting registry information in your invitations is extremely tacky and presumptious" she gawked at me like I was the one with bad manners.

Seriously who really does that? And Tsk Bed Bath and Beyond for helping enable those people ugh
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Re: Bed, Bath and Beyond encourages you to be tacky

  • All of the stores we registered at gave us those little cards, it's not just BB&B.  It is smart marketing for the store honestly, even though it is tacky to put them in invitations.  We promptly threw them away.
  • Welcome to the wonderful world of weddings.  Get used to it; your experience is in no way unique. 
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  • It. Is. A. Store.

    The primary objective is to generate sales. Untwist your knickers dearest; I registered there and just said "Save the paper, I don't need them." it was dead easy.
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  • I am glad you told her it was tacky. Maybe she'll think about it for the next bride that registers. They gave us a bunch as well and the stickers to put on them so we didn't have to write out our name and registry number.

    We pitched ours too.

  • My sister wanted to put our Target registry cards in the bridal shower invitations. If I hadn't lost them I would have given them to her. For shower invites, I really don't think it's a big deal. I've gotten shower invites with them before, and it made it super easy to find their registry in the store rather than having to track it down.
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    [QUOTE]Welcome to the wonderful world of weddings.  Get used to it; your experience is in no way unique. 
    Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

    Yup.  Just toss 'em. 

    But thanks for reminding me to go pick up gifts for the weddings we're attending this weekend.  Much appreciated!
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  • Old news. They also encourage you to post your registry updates on facebook. Also old news, but tackier.
  • Just say no to the store consultant. She wanted to show us towels, I said no. No big deal.
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  • I've had nothing but pleasant and wonderful experiences with my Bed Bath and Beyonce registry.
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  • It's pretty common and appropriate to put those cards in the bridal shower invitations.  

    You sound like a peach.
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  • I agree the cards are tacky, but as far as everything else, as a PP said, it's a STORE and their job is to sell.  Keep an eye on your registry--you'll need to keep looking for items that are discontinued.  I just started mine in late January, early February and a few items are being discontinued.  I actually bought 2 items the other day because we really like them and wanted them.  If you go to any other stores, I'd just walk around the stores to get a feel for where things are, what they carry, and what you might like. Then go back in 3-6 months and see what is still there you like and what else is available.
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  • You could have used those in your shower invites.

    BTW, if you ever send me a wedding invite, you probably should include a registry card or you are getting something lame from Walgreens.  I don't like to work too hard.
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  • On a completely unrelated note, I keep reading OP's SN as "swastika".
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  • FI worked at a BB&B for over a year.  They train them to be pushy.  According to them, you need over 150 items on your registry, no matter how many other registries you have and no matter how small your wedding will be.

    Corporate MAKES them do that stuff, they cannot control it.  FI hated it.  If they DIDN'T give out those cards, they got in trouble with the manager.  If they didn't follow you around the store and push you, they got in trouble.

    And it's not just BB&B.
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    [QUOTE]On a completely unrelated note, I keep reading OP's SN as "swastika".
    Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

    On a busier day I would love to have an "explain your sn" post. For no other reason than for people to know that I'm not marrying my menstrual cycle.

    Also, I'm curious about what psydet means, even though I'm sure it's been brought up before.
  • Is it true people register at BB&B because they can get cash returns?
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    [QUOTE]On a completely unrelated note, I keep reading OP's SN as "swastika".
    Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

    Maybe it's not a coincidence that her Inner Bride is blonde haired and blue eyed.
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    [QUOTE]Is it true people register at BB&B because they can get cash returns?
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    I don't think you can - just store credits.  But, hey, you can always find stuff to buy at BB&B right?
  • At Target you receive a discount on items that weren't purchased on your registry. Also, we had a Macy's credit card so we get 10% back on items purchased. Pretty sweet deal. I didn't do BB&B though. We liked the stuff at Target better. :)
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    Meh.  My only legitimate beef with BBB is the way they handle china.  I really wish we had registered for our china at Belk or Dillards.  They don't keep china in the store, but you can still buy it in the store.  Ok, well, to me that implies that it's just like buying something in the store that's out of stock, right?  Wrong, you have to pay shipping on it.  Which, not surprisingly, none of our guests wanted to do.  So, really, it's more like buying it online.  If our guests wanted to shop online, they wouldn't have come to the B&M store, now, would they? 

    They also annoyed me by not really answering my questions about china.  Their answer to everything was "our china is backed by our 100% guarantee, and if you need to return or exchange, we do all the work."  Ok, well what if my pattern gets discontinued?  Same answer.  How does that answer my question?

    Ok, and one other complaint--their "refer a friend" program is BS.  I said we were referred by my friend Sarah.  They even pulled up her registry to make sure it was the right one (she has a common last name).  She never got her giftcard.  SIL referred me.  Never got a gift card.  My local board did a thing where they all used each other as referrals.  Not a single one got a giftcard.
  • C&B gave them to us, but the registry attendent said, "You know, you can give them to whoever is hosting your shower or... something." You could tell she didn't want to encourage it, but she had to. Actually, she almost forgot to give them to us.
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  • No we're not talking pushy we're talking flat out rude pushy as in "you have to do this now and come in now" and wouldn't take no for an answer.

    and I was told, you never put registry information in invtes, that you tell your bridesmaids and parents whatever and they send the word out.

    I really need to change the name -_- or something lol. It's a shorted version of a name given to me from a Japanese friend who could not pronounce my first name. It frustrated her so much she gave me a "japanese name" and would call me Asa-chan. She was also one of the people who gave me the screen name.

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  • Maybe they were doing an employee contest?  Whoever gets the biggest/most expensive/blah blah registry customer gets a prize.  When I worked at Penney's, they did that all.the.time with credit card applications.  Didn't matter if they were approved, whoever got the most apps got a gift card.  And yes, the higher ups are ridiculously pushy.  Like, if there was a secret shopper going around and noted that you didn't suggest/push this or that on the registry, you got docked and then a lecture about company selling standards.  The SELLSELLSELL culture that develops is quite obnoxious.  One of the many reasons I'm more than glad to be out of retail, and I try to do my shopping online where I don't have to deal with that stuff.

    She's just doing her job, and probably hated having to do it as much as you hated having to deal with it.  Just toss the cards or use them in shower invites and let it go.
  • All I did was play around with making a macys registry online and I got a huge packet in the mail from them with a list of everything I should register for and a ton of cards and to top it off the lady called me to tell me they needed my correct email address or I wouldnt be able to access my registry.... ummm no.... I look at it all the time, thanks.
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    [QUOTE]I registered at Macys, and they sent me my "registry invitations cards" by mail. My FI thought it was a great idea to put them in invites. I gently explained why that was not a good plan.
    Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

    H thought the same thing when the sales woman handed us a stack at Crate & Barrel.  I handed them right back to her :-)</div>
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    [QUOTE]Is it true people register at BB&B because they can get cash returns?
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    Well that is not why we registered there but it is a plus. If an item is on your registry you can return it for cash. We did recieve a set of pots and pans that we didnt really like so we added them to our registry got the cash and used it to purchase a different set from another store. Plus you can get 10% off any remaining items after your wedding.
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    So are these cards not added to shower invites anymore?? Is it best to just toss them?

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  • We got cash back when we went to make our exchanges (somehow we returned more than we bought), but that was over a year ago and it wouldn't surprise me if they stopped doing that after the economy turned south. 

    [QUOTE]No we're not talking pushy we're talking flat out rude pushy as in "you have to do this now and come in now" and wouldn't take no for an answer. [/QUOTE]

    Yep, again, par for the course in sales.  This sounds exactly like my managers when I worked in retail. 
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    [QUOTE]So are these cards not added to shower invites anymore?? Is it best to just toss them?
    Posted by dd78[/QUOTE]

    I'm pretty sure others have already said it's fine to use them in shower invites.  But you don't plan your own shower, someone else does, so it's almost a moot point. 
  • ours actually wasn't pushy. however, I had already heard stories of pushy people, so I was forewarned and prepared to tell them to back off if needed. I also flat out refused the registry cards and told the person that registry cards were rude.
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