My MOH has been talking trash behind my back

JHS16 · April 2010

One idea (I'm late to this post, but oh well): Don't change anything at this point, since you've already invested so much time and money. However, you can choose not to have many pictures with your bridal party, and focus mostly on your and your new husband, and your close family members. You can also choose to have a sweetheart table for dinner, which is a tactful way of separating yourself from the rest of the bridal party. You could even choose to have the wedding party sit in the front row rather than stand with you during the ceremony. This might be a good way of preventing waves, but keeping your distance. Just a thought or two.

RandiLakin · May 2010

seeing as how you went all postal on stina and took things way out of context im assuming you cant read. No one was ever attacking you when you started going mad. you'll probably see this as an attack but i dont really care, i've already lost all respect for you from the attitude you gave the others. Since you couldnt see that they were all giving you good advice and putting words in their posts saying they said you were a "bad person"---never did i read that im doubting that you heard the "gossip" right from your other so called friends about your MOH, wondering if it was a misunderstanding like you seem to have here. Seems very possible. Did you come here for advice or just to get your anger out on these nice ladies who were offering you good advice?

banana468 · May 2010

MOD here. I've been exhausted for the last couple days and haven't had the chance to reply.

Krissimatt - you're being quite rude to everyone who gave you advice. YOUR posts in fact border on being against Knot rules and regulations. Cool it. You're insulting those who are giving you great advice.

I can understand that you're probably quite frustrated since you just realized that while you thought you were the only person NOT being insulted by the MOH that you were no different than the rest. So that said, why are you so worried about ending a friendship with someone that you clearly can't stand?

You have two options here:

1) Talk to her as a friend. Say, "Hey, I need to talk to you because I keep hearing these hurtful rumors that you're saying these things about me." See what she says and if you can repair that friendship.

OR

2) Say, "I know what you've been doing and I can't believe my dear friend would do this to me. In fact, no friend does this to me so I can't be friends with you anymore. Let me know how much I owe you for your dress."

But this isn't a wedding issue. It's a friend issue. And quite frankly, I don't understand why you were cool being friends with someone who always talked about others. My good friends don't talk smack about THEIR friends.

aerinpegadrak · May 2010

Hell, I printed my programs the morning we left for the wedding. Four months in advance? Little premature. Oh, and the groomsman who couldn't attend due to financial issues (and general dickishness, but we don't get into that) was still listed. Somehow I'm still married.

I don't think I've ever seen a "bridesmaid" issue that was actually about the wedding, and this one is no exception. You're a friend first, and The Bride second. Always always always.

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