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sunshinee39
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Paypal on website.. tacky BUT i need help
Ok so I know everyone thinks it is super tacky, I am not looking to recieve only cash I would prefer actual gifts but my family is the family that everyone has an iphone and we communicate through social networking and text messages instead of phone calls, so this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards. so before you put your rude coments just note this is for my guests and i have had plenty of people request this from me.
So my problem is, I do not want to just put a paypal button on my site i would like to make it as far away from tacky as possible so does anyone have any suggestions on what i can write about it hinting that i a m not money hungry i am just trying to please all of my guests?
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Re: Paypal on website.. tacky BUT i need help
[QUOTE]Ok so I know everyone thinks it is super tacky, I am not looking to recieve only cash I would prefer actual gifts but my family is the family that everyone has an iphone and we communicate through social networking and text messages instead of phone calls, so this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards. <strong>so before you put your rude coments </strong>just note this is for my guests and i have had plenty of people request this from me. So my problem is, I do not want to just put a paypal button on my site i would like to make it as far away from tacky as possible so does anyone have any suggestions on what i can write about it hinting that i a m not money hungry i am just trying to please all of my guests?
Posted by sunshinee39[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Seriously? Why did you even bother posting if that's what you think of everyone's advice. </div><div>
</div><div>There is no way to "hint" or write anything without looking tacky. People will either give you cash or they won't. Despite your belief that no one carries cash, H and I received thousands of dollars in cash and checks at our wedding, no pay pal account needed and no "hints" provided from us. If someone asks, you can give them your paypal info individually. I think you're really underestimating your guests.
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[QUOTE]Ok so I know everyone thinks it is super tacky, I am not looking to recieve only cash I would prefer actual gifts but my family is the family that everyone has an iphone and we communicate through social networking and text messages instead of phone calls, so this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards. so before you put your rude coments just note this is for my guests and i have had plenty of people request this from me. So my problem is, I do not want to just put a paypal button on my site i would like to make it as far away from tacky as possible so does anyone have any suggestions on what i can write about it hinting that i a m not money hungry i am just trying to please all of my guests?
Posted by sunshinee39[/QUOTE]
Um no. This is in the top 10 tackiest ideas ever on TK. And this is a public forum, you can't tell people how to post.
[QUOTE]Ok so I know everyone thinks it is super tacky, I am not looking to recieve only cash I would prefer actual gifts but my family is the family that everyone has an iphone and we communicate through social networking and text messages instead of phone calls, so this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards. so before you put your rude coments just note this is for my guests and <strong>i have had plenty of people request this from me</strong>. So my problem is, I do not want to just put a paypal button on my site i would like to make it as far away from tacky as possible so does anyone have any suggestions on what i can write about it hinting that i a m not money hungry i am just trying to please all of my guests?
Posted by sunshinee39[/QUOTE]
If you have people asking you to set up a paypal account so they can dump money into it... then why do you care how it's being advertised to people?
What I mean is... if your friends and family are okay with it, then just have a button for it and move on.
If you're concerned about how other people (friends and family who might not be okay with it) wil react then perhaps you should consider setting up an alternative registry, like at Amazon or a brick and mortar store and have a link to that on the same page. That might at least help soften the blow.
So, on your wedding website page for gifts (where I'm guessing this is going?) you can first have the link to another place and then underneath it have the paypal account set up. I don't think words are needed.
Honestly, I have no words. No words at all.
[QUOTE]Ok so I know everyone thinks it is super tacky, I am not looking to recieve only cash I would prefer actual gifts but my family is the family that everyone has an iphone and we communicate through social networking and text messages instead of phone calls, so this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards. so before you put your rude coments just note this is for my guests and i have had plenty of people request this from me. So my problem is, I do not want to just put a paypal button on my site i would like to make it as far away from tacky as possible so does anyone have any suggestions on what i can write about it hinting that i a m not money hungry i am just trying to please all of my guests?
Posted by sunshinee39[/QUOTE]
<div>It's not tacky. Tacky is for stripper shoes under your gown or decorating with balloon bouquets. What you are proposing is flat out rude. </div><div>
</div><div>There is no good way to do a rude thing. There just isn't, and no one is going to be able to give you any good advice about how to go about it.</div><div>
</div><div>If people don't want to shop for a gift or put money in a card, they can write you a check and mail it with their RSVP or just write a check and hand it to you. They don't even have to go to the ATM. If they're out of checks or can't find their checkbook, they can even do an online bill pay check and let the bank mail it to you. This is even available on iphone apps!</div><div>
</div><div>If someone specifically asks you for a paypal link, email it to them. Don't give it to anyone that doesn't ask, website or not. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Paypal on website.. tacky BUT i need help : <strong>It's not tacky. Tacky is for stripper shoes under your gown or decorating with balloon bouquets. What you are proposing is flat out rude. </strong> There is no good way to do a rude thing. There just isn't, and no one is going to be able to give you any good advice about how to go about it. If people don't want to shop for a gift or put money in a card, they can write you a check and mail it with their RSVP or just write a check and hand it to you. They don't even have to go to the ATM. If they're out of checks or can't find their checkbook, they can even do an online bill pay check and let the bank mail it to you. This is even available on iphone apps! If someone specifically asks you for a paypal link, email it to them. Don't give it to anyone that doesn't ask, website or not.
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</div><div>You are a poet.
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[QUOTE]Ok this paypal option is for the lazy family members i have that do not want to make time to shop for a gift or pick out a card to put the cash in. Fact is that no one ever carries cash anymore its all on credit cards.
Posted by sunshinee39[/QUOTE]
There are these crazy new-fangled machines called ATMs that dispense cash for you at the mere push of some buttons. You don't even have to go to the bank! They're at pretty much every single convenience store and gas station. I know, sounds crazy, right? But it's true! I swear!
There are also these magical things called "checking accounts" that most people have, that come with these magical spell books full of "checks", where you can simply spend 30 seconds scribbling on a page, and it just turns into money for the person it's presented to.
I know, it must be incredibly hard to swallow such information (After finding this out, I myself had a crisis of faith AND identity ... I mean really, machines that dispense cash and ordinary paper that can turn into money? What kind of sorcery is this?!?!?!?!), but once you learn to live with this information, it's honestly pretty awesome and makes life very convenient.
I never carry cash and yet I still figure out how to give it as a gift for weddings when I'm in a pinch.
[QUOTE]In Response to Paypal on website.. tacky BUT i need help : There are these crazy new-fangled machines called ATMs that dispense cash for you at the mere push of some buttons. You don't even have to go to the bank!t They're at pretty much every single convenience store and gas station. I know, sounds crazy, right? But it's true! I swear! There are also these magical things called "checking accounts" that most people have, that come with these magical spell books full of "checks", where you can simply spend 30 seconds scribbling on a page, and it just turns into money for the person it's presented to. I know, it must be incredibly hard to swallow such information (After finding this out, I myself had a crisis of faith AND identity ... I mean really, machines that dispense cash and ordinary paper that can turn into money? What kind of sorcery is this?!?!?!?!), but once you learn to live with this information, it's honestly pretty awesome and makes life very convenient.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
I want to hug you right now.
[QUOTE]In Response to Paypal on website.. tacky BUT i need help : There are these crazy new-fangled machines called ATMs that dispense cash for you at the mere push of some buttons. You don't even have to go to the bank!t They're at pretty much every single convenience store and gas station. I know, sounds crazy, right? But it's true! I swear! There are also these magical things called "checking accounts" that most people have, that come with these magical spell books full of "checks", where you can simply spend 30 seconds scribbling on a page, and it just turns into money for the person it's presented to. I know, it must be incredibly hard to swallow such information (After finding this out, I myself had a crisis of faith AND identity ... I mean really, machines that dispense cash and ordinary paper that can turn into money? What kind of sorcery is this?!?!?!?!), but once you learn to live with this information, it's honestly pretty awesome and makes life very convenient.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thank you for one of the best responses I've read in awhile.
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I really dont understand how you would think this is ok.
Giving cash is fine.
Giving gift cards is fine.
Giving presents is fine.
Giving nothing is fine.
The problem is in the asking and the expecting. Announcing a PayPal account comes off as expecting a gift. Registries are acceptable b/c gifts are more complex....cash goes with any décor, but green sheets don't go with my bedroom. Even with registries, the best rule is to let others spread the word....it is not something you put on the invite. If you want money, spread the word through folks close to you that you are saving up for a house or whatever.
Times are changing, but that doesn't mean its okay to sit playing the latest game on your IPad during a wedding ceremony. It is good to preserve some basic etiquette. You may not want to abide by Emily Post and all the complex rules, but that doesn't mean it is okay to ask for money. It wouldn't have been okay to request a MoneyGram fro Western Union a generation or two back....a PayPal account is the modern equivalent.