Confessions?

TheCranberry · May 2011

Ugh, I hate when guys (or anyone really) do things just to get a rise out of someone. Good natured teasing is one thing, but once you see it really upsets the other person just lay off. It makes me want to give them a knuckle sandwich and ask if that's the reaction they were looking for.

ETA: I know you guys weren't upset, but lapdances/strippers are the kinds of things some people feel very strongly about so why risk stirring up stress in the relationship?

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Ugh, I hate when guys (or anyone really) do things just to get a rise out of someone. Good natured teasing is one thing, but once you see it really upsets the other person just lay off. It makes me want to give them a knuckle sandwich and ask if that's the reaction they were looking for. ETA:<strong> I know you guys weren't upset, but lapdances/strippers are the kinds of things some people feel very strongly about so why risk stirring up stress in the relationship?</strong>
Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not sure why they do it either. Maybe it's an easy way of finding joy in someone else's discomfort or anger? I'm not stupid, I know that this shiit goes on during bachelor parties, lol.</div><div>
</div><div>I understand being uncomfortable with strip clubs/lapdances. I totally see how someone could be upset that their FI/H/BF was going to one. And it would piss me off that much more if someone was trying to get a rise out of them because they KNEW that it really pissed that person off.</div><div>
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sherrbearr22 · May 2011

TBH, Cran - I'm one of those people who has a strong distaste for stripclubs. I am a realist though, and I tend to subscribe to the notion that "boys will be boys" at their bach party. Having said that, FBIL is not the one planning the party and the plan had not included a visit to the stripclub -so I didn't think I even needed to say anything.

Obviously he just wanted to get a rise out of me but for 2 days straight he said things about how "jered wants this but you won't let him." I just don't understand where he's getting that from? Maybe he's used to being the one Jered listens to and now Jered has someone else in his life and FBIL is having a hard time with it??

And CM, as non confrontational as Jered is, he might chalk it up to how drunk FBIL was. I'm sure he would not be happy hearing it but other than giving FBIL a firm talking to, I'm not sure what else can be done?

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

Oh I should also add, FBIL's wife is very submissive and does not have any say-so in the relationship. I'm guessing the fact that I have a lot of self respect and voice my opinion is not something the d-bag is used to.

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]And CM, as non confrontational as Jered is, he might chalk it up to how drunk FBIL was. I'm sure he would not be happy hearing it but other than giving FBIL a firm talking to, I'm not sure what else can be done?
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

<div>Yechh. I still think you should tell FI. I don't know what else CAN be done, except perhaps avoiding FBIL in future situations, KWIM? Maybe once he learns what his brother did, he can have a different viewpoint of just how "great" he really is. And maybe the two of you will end up distancing yourself from him.</div><div>
</div><div>And TBH, I think FBIL deserves a firm talking to, at the very least. He really needs to know that this behavior is unacceptable, whether he was drunk or not.</div><div>
</div><div>And ALSO TBH, I love you, and I'm still really sorry that it happened. Family issues are really crappy. Especially when it's with your new family.</div>

TheCranberry · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Yechh. I still think you should tell FI. I don't know what else CAN be done, except perhaps avoiding FBIL in future situations, KWIM? Maybe once he learns what his brother did, he can have a different viewpoint of just how "great" he really is. And maybe the two of you will end up distancing yourself from him.<strong> And TBH, I think FBIL deserves a firm talking to, at the very least. He really needs to know that this behavior is unacceptable, whether he was drunk or not. </strong>And ALSO TBH, I love you, and I'm still really sorry that it happened. Family issues are really crappy. Especially when it's with your new family.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

Yeah, seriously. If FI doens't give him a firm talking to, tell FI that the next time FBIL touches you, you'll give him a firm kick to the junk.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Yechh. I still think you should tell FI. I don't know what else CAN be done, except perhaps avoiding FBIL in future situations, KWIM? Maybe once he learns what his brother did, he can have a different viewpoint of just how "great" he really is. And maybe the two of you will end up distancing yourself from him. And TBH, I think FBIL deserves a firm talking to, at the very least. He really needs to know that this behavior is unacceptable, whether he was drunk or not. And ALSO TBH, I love you, and I'm still really sorry that it happened. Family issues are really crappy. Especially when it's with your new family.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

I LOVE YOU!!!! Sorry, I was overcome with emotion.

You make a good point about distancing ourselves. I need to tell him, at the very least, so that when the next event comes around, he'll understand why I may not want to go.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Yeah, seriously. If FI doens't give him a firm talking to, tell FI that the next time FBIL touches you, <strong>you'll give him a firm kick to the junk.</strong>
Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]

I like where you're going with this. And I'm also visualizing it in my mind zone.

SarahPLiz · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I know when I first saw it I thought, Oh cute look at that. Beyonce farts when she bends over.
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]
Me too, because I still don't get the bending over thing. Maybe my brain is tired.

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Sesh, I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

Is looking for other positions an option?

Dana1116 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Why didn't you just delete the friends?
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]
Didn't have much time to get on it in the first place. One day I logged on and that's all my news feed consisted of. I had a sh!tty day at work and I just deleted it.

cardmonsta · May 2011

Okay, confession:

Our wedding is going to be featured on a major wedding website and I am answering some questions right now for the feature.

SQUEE.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Okay, confession: Our wedding is going to be featured on a major wedding website and I am answering some questions right now for the feature. SQUEE.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

Eeeek!!! That is so friggin exciting!!

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Okay, confession: Our wedding is going to be featured on a major wedding website and I am answering some questions right now for the feature. SQUEE.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

You do plan to share once it's all put together, right?
Damn right you do.

shaydenise · May 2011

Sesh, I'm sorry your job isn't going well. Is there any way you can look for something else? It's awful having a shitty job and being undervalued.

CM, holyyy crap that's exciting!!! How did they find you guys? So awesome!

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Sesh, I'm sorry your job isn't going well. Is there any way you can look for something else? It's awful having a shitty job and being undervalued. CM, holyyy crap that's exciting!!! How did they find you guys? So awesome!
Posted by shaydenise[/QUOTE]

<div>I think our photographer was in talks with them immediately following our wedding. I AM SO EXCITED.</div><div>
</div><div>Of course I'm going to share, Jas. OF COURSE.</div>

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Jas and shay, yes, possibly. I'm weighing my options at the moment. There is another department I'd love to be in, but I don't know if it pays as well. I could start looking outside of the company but honestly, all of my free time is spent setting up book stuff so part of me is really hoping something happens there.

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Seshat, that would be an awesome option! But exploring the other department is a good start too.

shaydenise · May 2011

I hope everything happens with the book, Sesh. That would be awesome!

[Deleted User] · May 2011

A teacher contacted me yesterday about possibly getting a class set for next year. Granted, this teacher is a third cousin so it's family, but still. It counts. And if she does it then maybe others at her school will too.

kimheartsscott · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I confess that I am deliberately starting every paragraph with "I confess," just to annoy Kim.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

<div>ARRRGH. </div><div>
</div><div>No really, that doesn't annoy me. It's when there are 8 sentences and each sentence is it's own paragraph that it annoys me. It is just so unnecessary! </div><div>
</div><div>ALSO OMG TICKER YAY!</div>

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Sesh, that is great! I know that my professors swap books all the time. Even if one teacher has it, that likely means all of her coworkers will see/hear about it.

allisong23 · May 2011

Sherr, if he put his hands on youi, you need to tell your FI. There is no way in hell that is ok.

allisong23 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Hi Alli! How's your little eggplant?
Posted by LedZeppelin[/QUOTE]

The little guy is doing good!

And I already got the results of my blooodwork back - I passed the glucose tolerance test! I am a little anemic, but I can live with that. I am so relieved.

jelique7 · May 2011

I confess...im not patriotic, I don't care about OBL's death, 9/11 is sad but worse things have happened in the world and im still not sure it was worth going to war over, I hate when people try to tell me that I should find God (it makes me want to punch them). whew that was a lot and I sound kind of heartless geez.

alyssag721 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Sherr, if he put his hands on youi, you need to tell your FI. There is no way in hell that is ok.
Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto'd. If an a-hole like that ever put a hand on me he would be missing teeth if you know what I mean. He might also lose a few potential babies. Not. Cool.</div>

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