Calling EVERYONE

bsidebella · January 2011

Don't worry, I reported them. They trolled on over to orangecrush's new post, too.

MLekathLEEN · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : Mmmm carne asada fries!!!
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

Don't tease me ;)

noellesidh · January 2011

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[QUOTE]Don't worry, I reported them. They trolled on over to orangecrush's new post, too.
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

Fat Western NEY Hag saves the day. Don't worry guys! you're all safe now.

AudgiePodge · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : Fat Western NEY Hag saves the day. Don't worry guys! you're all safe now.
Posted by noellesidh[/QUOTE]

You know, you'd be a lot more interesting if you came out to play on your main.

GreenPepperBurger · January 2011

Have fun being reported, troll.

SeaTea02 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : Fat Western NEY Hag saves the day. Don't worry guys! you're all safe now.
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</div><div>I am tempted to say a bunch of really horrible, horrible things that will make you cry. However, since we have all been reporting people today, I will pass. Use your imagination. </div><div>
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hetshup · January 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_calling-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d5209d1-ffb7-4bb8-aceb-fb205b39a52ePost:c97a37f2-f958-41fb-ac71-ce7f83b9ad7f">Re: Calling EVERYONE</a>:
[QUOTE]All I hear is, "blah, blah, blah... I'm such a bitch." Whatever. I've gotten attacked here MULTIPLE times and no one reported anyone and I didn't even care. I think Ana is a grown woman and doesn't need 15 people telling her she's so perfect and doesn't deserve anything I said to her. I will say WHATEVER I want to say and that is that both in the real world and online. Find it it rude or whatever but it's my opinion and you are all entitled to yours. I could not care less. If I get banned so be it but that is the ONE time I have ever gotten upset after some of things that have been said to me and about me. I have been nice to all of you and been appreciative of all the supportive things I have gotten here. If I crossed a line so be it but I never said one word about paige or desert. Narwhal - last time I checked we are not in the Twilight series. Peace out.
Posted by nottheonlydreamer44[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>You know, I'm trying to stay out of all this stuff today, but let's call a spade a spade. </div><div>
</div><div>The "OG" was many things, up to and including cliquey. I personally would argue we have in jokes, but we accepting of others. Quick wit is very appreciated. One thing we DID NOT do is sling around cvnt, bitch or idiot. I don't care about your politics or religion, there are things that are right and there are things that are wrong, both according to my moral code and the rules of the knot. So maybe everyone needs to chill the f out. </div><div>
</div><div>Dreamer- We all thought you were a AE when you first started posting, you violated HIPPA regs and cried that you were being discriminated against. You tell the world in general that you are bi-polar, contemplated suicide and then think hey, I'll sell eggs. Guess what, anyone with half a brain is going to think you are a HUGE drama queen, and possibly making shiit up. On top of that, I can think of at least 3 instances in the past week and half where you have personally attacked someone. These are all unacceptable behaviors. And by the way, behind your back, we are all wondering why you are getting married. I personally think you want another wedding and don't want the marriage, just the day. It;'s fine, but own up to what is going on. And for heaven's sake, get help before you get married again. Seriously. </div><div>
</div><div>Cate- You come across as an insufferable know it all. I want to like you, but you always have a better story or know more than anyone else. I personally have this trait, but I think you need some humility. </div><div>
</div><div>Shoes- you are the MOST combative person ever. You want to be right no matter what, and it doesn't matter if you are not. You disagree with Mutley simply because she has better arguments than you, and you hate it. </div><div>
</div><div>GPB- I do actually like you, but pulling the "it's ok card, I have these friends" is the lowest thing you can do. Own up to your mistakes instead of saying, oh it's ok because of x,y,z. Maybe it isn't, there is no harm in differing opinions, but you need to take the heat for them. </div><div>
</div><div>Loopy- I'm so sorry we've left you to mod this mess. That's all this is, a horrible horrible mess. </div><div>
</div><div>This is the longest post I've written and it makes me sad. NEY was a large part of my life for a while while I had a shitstorm happening. And yes, it makes me sad, that's not saying anything about anyone, that's saying that I miss the camaraderie. Because this? Is seriously bullshit. </div><div>

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oceana919 · January 2011

This whole thread was completely and totally unnecessary and wrong.

GreenPepperBurger · January 2011

I agree with you, Hetshup. I really do. And I agree that I could have made my point more tactfully but what's done is done.

bsidebella · January 2011

Oh, damn. The troll called me fat and I missed it. Do you think...that they think...that I think...I don't know I'm fat?! OH GOD! WHAT A REVELATION.

I may be fat, but I can always get thinner. You, my trolly friend, will always be a b*tch. Have a nice day.

loves2shop4shoes · January 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_calling-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d5209d1-ffb7-4bb8-aceb-fb205b39a52ePost:23804f60-e26e-4a5b-a490-463e64f7a3b2">Re: Calling EVERYONE</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : You know, I'm trying to stay out of all this stuff today, but let's call a spade a spade. The "OG" was many things, up to and including cliquey. I personally would argue we have in jokes, but we accepting of others. Quick wit is very appreciated. One thing we DID NOT do is sling around cvnt, bitch or idiot. I don't care about your politics or religion, there are things that are right and there are things that are wrong, both according to my moral code and the rules of the knot. So maybe everyone needs to chill the f out. Dreamer- We all thought you were a AE when you first started posting, you violated HIPPA regs and cried that you were being discriminated against. You tell the world in general that you are bi-polar, contemplated suicide and then think hey, I'll sell eggs. Guess what, anyone with half a brain is going to think you are a HUGE drama queen, and possibly making shiit up. On top of that, I can think of at least 3 instances in the past week and half where you have personally attacked someone. These are all unacceptable behaviors. And by the way, behind your back, we are all wondering why you are getting married. I personally think you want another wedding and don't want the marriage, just the day. It;'s fine, but own up to what is going on. And for heaven's sake, get help before you get married again. Seriously. Cate- You come across as an insufferable know it all. I want to like you, but you always have a better story or know more than anyone else. I personally have this trait, but I think you need some humility. Shoes- you are the MOST combative person ever. You want to be right no matter what, and it doesn't matter if you are not. You disagree with Mutley simply because she has better arguments than you, and you hate it. GPB- I do actually like you, but pulling the "it's ok card, I have these friends" is the lowest thing you can do. Own up to your mistakes instead of saying, oh it's ok because of x,y,z. Maybe it isn't, there is no harm in differing opinions, but you need to take the heat for them. Loopy- I'm so sorry we've left you to mod this mess. That's all this is, a horrible horrible mess. This is the longest post I've written and it makes me sad. NEY was a large part of my life for a while while I had a shitstorm happening. And yes, it makes me sad, that's not saying anything about anyone, that's saying that I miss the camaraderie. Because this? Is seriously bullshit.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Oh boy...where to begin? Umm...thanks for the assessment of so many of the current regs. I'll let the others speak for themselves if they choose to.</div><div>
</div><div>I hardly think I'm the MOST combative person EVER. Frankly, I look like Mary Poppins next to the people I was raised by. I just have an extremely limited bullshiit tolerance. I do not see the need for fanfare or asskissing when dealing with peers. I do not see the need for sugar-coating either. I do possess a filter; it is probably not as conservative as many people's filters, but that is again because I don't see the need for sugar coating. In business settings, I absolutely am professional. However, when dealing with peers, you should be able to be yourself without having to worry about not pleasing the clique. But, as my therapist says, life has dealt with me bluntly, and so I am blunt in return.

</div><div>Furthermore, I absolutely HATE crowd mentality. I strongly believe that crowd mentality is single-handedly responsible for the faults of society. In fact, many of the more horrible parts of my life are attributable to people in power doing nothing to help innocent children (me and my brother), thanks to crowd mentality. I believe many posters on NEY have SERIOUS crowd mentality issues and other issues involving inferiority complexes. It really irked me when members of the OG would gang up on people over TINY things or just because they thought it was funny. THAT'S WHY I disagree with Mutely. Otherwise I think she can be a funny, entertaining gal. I don't understand her "If you're new, I automatically hate you" approach. I think it's rude, unnecessary, and not cute.</div><div>
</div><div>Back in the days of my infamous "Poor Cate" post, I demonstrated my loathing of crowd mentality. The posters were ganging up on Cate in MULTIPLE posts because she had some details of her wedding ironed out. While I admitted this was somewhat BSC, I pointed out how unnecessary people GANGING UP on her was. I wasn't trying to be combative; I was trying to stand up for a poster I liked and was trying to be true to what I believed in. </div><div>
</div><div>If refusing to always blindly follow the crowd and speaking up when the crowd does something I find to be sheisty makes me "the MOST COMBATIVE person EVER", then fine. </div><div>
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oceana919 · January 2011

CAN THIS ENTIRE THING PLEASE DIE ALREADY?

bsidebella · January 2011

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[QUOTE]CAN THIS ENTIRE THING PLEASE DIE ALREADY?
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

.....*like*

coastiegrl25 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]CAN THIS ENTIRE THING PLEASE DIE ALREADY?
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

I am with you on this. Shoes, I think you have taken everything way to seriously. I mean EVERYTHING. Why are you being so sensitive about everything posted? It is an internet forum, things are going to be said that you don't like. Nothing needs to be dragged out like it has. It is reasons like this, that you are called out on drama. Unnecessary drama at that. Just please stop. There is no reason to validate yourself. You have people that like you and people that don't and that's OK.

loves2shop4shoes · January 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_calling-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d5209d1-ffb7-4bb8-aceb-fb205b39a52ePost:7dd772ea-576b-4351-bed8-3f5476d9605c">Re: Calling EVERYONE</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : I am with you on this. Shoes, I think you have taken everything way to seriously. I mean EVERYTHING. Why are you being so sensitive about everything posted? It is an internet forum, things are going to be said that you don't like. Nothing needs to be dragged out like it has. It is reasons like this, that you are called out on drama. Unnecessary drama at that. Just please stop. There is no reason to validate yourself. You have people that like you and people that don't and that's OK.
Posted by coastiegrl25[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm being sensitive how? By responding? I'm not calling people names. I'm not cursing. I'm just responding. If someone posted what you felt to be an inaccurate character analysis of YOU, would you not respond?</div>

coastiegrl25 · January 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_calling-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d5209d1-ffb7-4bb8-aceb-fb205b39a52ePost:f662ec95-db12-4d9b-8c0a-742d6e4bcbdf">Re: Calling EVERYONE</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : I'm being sensitive how? By responding? I'm not calling people names. I'm not cursing. I'm just responding. If someone posted what you felt to be an inaccurate character analysis of YOU, would you not respond?
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Because you keep responding over and over to the same things. I am sure the people you are responding to have already read what you have replied to someone else. It becomes a vicious cycle. Just stop and let bygons be bygons and let it end/die. There is no reason to keep saying the same things over and over. Just stop.

Acrosthec · January 2011

I agree with Coastie.

Shoes, you come off as combative because you're very defensive. I don't even post that much, and most of the time I see anyone say anything slightly critical of you, you immediately respond with sarcasm, explanations, or some other defensive mechanism. One of the first things we always used to tell new posters is that if someone criticizes you or says something you don't like, try not to get defensive, because it does not endear you to anyone.

Sometimes people are going to say things you don't like and don't agree with. You just have to learn to let it go. Just because they say it doesn't make it so. You may be right, and Hetshup's assessment is totally off-base, but getting defensive about it the way you just did is exactly the type of combative personality she was describing, and it's the reason she pegged you in that light.

loves2shop4shoes · January 2011

Alright. Well, I'm heading to bed. Have a wonderful night.

coastiegrl25 · January 2011

You too Shoes.

nottheonlydreamer44 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling EVERYONE : ]<em> Dreamer- We all thought you were a AE when you first started posting, you violated HIPPA regs and cried that you were being discriminated against. You tell the world in general that you are bi-polar, contemplated suicide and then think hey, I'll sell eggs. Guess what, anyone with half a brain is going to think you are a HUGE drama queen, and possibly making shiit up. On top of that, I can think of at least 3 instances in the past week and half where you have personally attacked someone. These are all unacceptable behaviors. And by the way, behind your back, we are all wondering why you are getting married. I personally think you want another wedding and don't want the marriage, just the day. It;'s fine, but own up to what is going on. And for heaven's sake, get help before you get married again</em>. Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

I am responding to this and this only and then I am done with this entire board.

First of all, if anything coming on here and being TOO honest about myself was the problem. I don't care if people know I have a disorder because I am not ashamed of it and lurkers ended up coming to me because they felt comfortable knowing that someone else could kind of understand. I could not care less if you thought I was an AE; that's your own personal thought process. I'm not sure who "we" is that you keep referring to but last time I checked you don't speak for everyone here. I admitted openly that I had a ton of drama going on and then I realized this board was not the place for it and I backed off, started posting kindly and NICELY on everyone's threads and rarely putting my business out there. That was after "you all" tried to force me off this board.

I have never once attacked anyone here besides Ana yesterday and while I totally went overboard, I was sick of all the BS that EVERYONE was doing. I will apologize if any of the things I said hurt Ana's feelings because I don't want to do that to anyone. I never try to personally be mean to people; that was a one time instance in frustration. (the other instances you speak of were trolls but whatever)

I don't have a single shred of anything to prove to you or anyone else on this board who is "talking behind my back"; which since you're all about being up-front, you should be saying it TO ME rather than about me but that is beside the point.

But don't you, little miss judgement on your high horse, dare sit there and tell me that I need to just "own up to it and tell the truth about my wedding." I didn't want another wedding and if you ever paid one iota of attention to anything anyone said besides what you just wanted to bitch about you would have seen that. The only reason we are having one is because that is what MY FIANCE wanted. I wanted to go to the JOP and then go on a honeymoon that's it because at the end of the day, I already did the big fancy wedding and it wasn't worth it. I want my MARRIAGE and I have never said anything to contrary on this board or anywhere else. You can continue to think whatever you want to think, you're entitled to your(and apparently everyone else's) opinion.

I have been nice to you even when you completely did not deserve it and I don't hide behind some SN judging everyone else that dares come across my path. Your "validation" of my mental health and my upcoming wedding is not needed and neither is anyone else's. I have a therapist already maybe you should look into getting one, as well, so you could learn to be less of a self-righteously pious human being.

calindi · January 2011

Um, Hetshup? WTF did I do to deserve this here? Somehow I managed to stay out of this fray for the most part, but yet I get personally called out?

I have done nothing but try to offer helpful, fair advice on this board. I am not one to jump down someone's throat, and I don't take pride in being cruel at others' expense. I try to present my arguments and opinions fairly and without undue judgement. Am I always successful? Probably not, we're all human with our hot button topics. But I never intentionally try to make someone feel bad about themselves, something I can't say for a large portion of the posters on this site, including you, Hetshup. I don't say nasty things just because others will find it funny.

So if someone thinks I always have "a better story or know more than anyone else" then that's their own perception. I share my perspective, my stories, and my experience. If someone thinks I'm trying to top anyone, that's their own insecurities and envy. I'm proud of who I am and what I've done, and I'm confident, and I won't apologize for it, but I don't intentionally try to make anyone feel bad.

I like just about everyone on this board, though sometimes the way they act rubs me the wrong way (I think Desert said something similar). There's only one person I out and out can't stand, and that's Mutley. That's because I feel like she's just mean spirited. And that's no secret - she's not exactly my biggest fan either.

bourgehm · January 2011

I think everyone should just hold hands and sing a soothing song. This whole thing is really stupid.

PandaBurr · January 2011

I apologize for bumping this again, but I missed this whole thing yesterday and I want in on the fun.

First, I think there's some confusion in here about bandwagoning and posters legitimately agreeing with one another. I am going to say that there is both in this thread.

Secondly, I agree with everything hetshup said. No, that is not because we're OG, but because I would have wrote the same thing, if I were able to write things more eloquently.

Thirdly, NTOD, just leave already if you're so upset. You've said you were done with this board, so who gives a rat's ass what is said about you on here?

D) Yes, I would say there are cliques on here, but the issue I have with the new clique is that you ALWAYS defend and agree with each other. It's a complete hivemind and it is incredibly annoying. At least the OG would disagree with each other, and weren't so quick to jump to the rescue.

E) shoes- It wasn't crowd mentality that would jump on people (and you) for little shiit. It was because the posters all thought it was a stupid thread.

Perhaps my opinion is skewed since I've been here a little longer, so I've seen the changes on the boards, but I really think that the biggest issue on this board is the new-reg hivemind. I'm sure all the new-regs could say that the issue was about the old boards was OG hivemind, though, so I guess it's just going to be the same argument over and over and I just added to it. Ah well.

Also,

heyimbren · January 2011

Panda, I like that you jumped from numbers to letters for your bullets

I also want that dog. Glasses and all

oceana919 · January 2011

You know, when I asked why this thread couldn't die, I wasn't requesting a long, drawn-out death...

PandaBurr · January 2011

bren- I like you, and I don't like a lot of the newbs.

oceana- I'm sorry!

oceana919 · January 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_calling-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d5209d1-ffb7-4bb8-aceb-fb205b39a52ePost:d30aa73c-72e1-47ca-9ceb-7688fe44e51e">Re: Calling EVERYONE</a>:
[QUOTE]bren- I like you, and I don't like a lot of the newbs. oceana- I'm sorry!
Posted by PandaBurr[/QUOTE]

Don't be sorry Panda...I adore you