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Wedding party drama

KateN17KateN17
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My FI and I have already picked out our wedding party. I picked my two sisters and my best friend. He picked three friends.

Now my fmil is border line insisting that his brother also be included. She is not ok with him being "just an usher."

My FI and his brother are not close. They are six years apart and VERY different. FMIL is guilt tripping my FI saying that his brother is his only sibling, and I'm having both my sisters stand. The difference is my one sister is 17 months older than I am, the other is my twin and we are all are friends.

My FI is just as stubborn in insisting that he doesn't want his brother in the party. I have no idea what the brother thinks (mom does a lot of talking for him). Ideas? Suggestions? Helpful hints?
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    It's his decision.  He needs to tell his mom that.  Period.

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  • kikirst33kikirst33 member
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    This is something that your FI needs to discuss with his mother.  
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    If your FI does not want his brother as a GM then his brother is not a GM.  This is no one's decision but your FI.  If his Mom has an issue with that then she needs to talk to her son about it.

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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    This is between your FI, his brother, and his mother, so you need to stay out of it.
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-drama-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:958e7a1d-8eb6-4db4-9d9d-3341d946d4e2Post:b90d98e5-6b7f-41d7-8181-8c3d8ceae200">Wedding party drama</a>:
    [QUOTE]My FI and I have already picked out our wedding party. I picked my two sisters and my best friend. He picked three friends. Now my fmil is border line insisting that his brother also be included. She is not ok with him being "just an usher." My FI and his brother are not close. They are six years apart and VERY different. FMIL is guilt tripping my FI saying that his brother is his only sibling, and I'm having both my sisters stand. The difference is my one sister is 17 months older than I am, the other is my twin and we are all are friends. My FI is just as stubborn in insisting that he doesn't want his brother in the party. I have no idea what the brother thinks (mom does a lot of talking for him). Ideas? Suggestions? Helpful hints?
    Posted by KateN17[/QUOTE]

    Sounds like everybody needs to stop letting mom make all of their decisions for them.
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  • ocgabrielaWed43752ocgabrielaWed43752 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-drama-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:958e7a1d-8eb6-4db4-9d9d-3341d946d4e2Post:31504f50-bb9d-4a7d-89be-02624efe0b59">Re: Wedding party drama</a>:
    [QUOTE]"Thank you for the suggestion, but we've already selected our wedding party, FMIL.  He hasn't said anything to us about being in the wedding party.  Perhaps YOU are the only one who is upset?"
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.  And BTW, who is paying for the wedding?
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