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LOOOOOOONNNNNGGGG RANT/VENT (PIP)...am I a horrible bridezilla or just normal?
We're having a very small and intimate wedding. I only have three bridesmaids - my moh, and my two little sister in laws to be. We go dress shopping today, and my FMIL says she wants to come also since she needs a dress for a different wedding she is going to in April. Sounds good right? WRONG!!!
From the moment we walked into the first bridal store for dresses, I knew we were doomed. My FMIL asked me what my color scheme was - burgundy and champange. She starts looking at BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES!! Then she says, I am not going to wear champange because it makes me look fat....omg!!! She wants to look like a bridesmaid?!??!!?!
I begin to KINDLY explain that is not exactly how I would like her to look at MY wedding, the dresses she was looking at were not exactly age appropriate, nor decent. She actually picked a dark purple, almost plum colored mermaid type dress with ruffles and a train!!! <- seriously?
I had to leave the store, because they attendant was even encouraging her and telling her she could wear whatever she wanted. Okay...maybe I'm being a bridezilla, but I told her MY MOM should be dressed awesome because it's ME getting married, and that she should spend about $500 for a dress when HER daughters are getting married...but NOOOOOOO....she didn't seem to understand.
I finally left the store, looked at a few other stores, and when I showed her a sample "mother of the bride" dress, her response was...that's for older people...well how old does she think she is?!?!??!?!! Then she came into our fitting room and started telling the girls which dresses SHE liked or did not like as if it was her decision what they were going to wear. She even brought in these horrible looking dresses and made them try them on just so she "could see"....*sigh*
We finally made it to David's Bridal, where we were looking for dresses for the bridesmaids, and when I showed her the mother of the bride dresses, her response was, I will wear whatever I want to fit my body......(I was trying so hard to contain myself at this point)
On a side note, she is separated from her husband, and I feel that she is trying to "make him see what he's missing", but not at my expense PLEASE and definitely NOT at our wedding...The reason I say this, she made the comment, "wait until he sees me..." She finally picked the dress shown below which upsets me because I don't even know what my own mom is wearing yet.... :c(
Am I a horrible bridezilla or just normal? I'm happy with her selection of the dress, but I just felt as if she was stepping on my toes and rushing since she is going to use the same purchased dress for a wedding in April and then again for my wedding....
Where can I get my mom's dress now because I want her to stand out and not look like they are matching???????
From the moment we walked into the first bridal store for dresses, I knew we were doomed. My FMIL asked me what my color scheme was - burgundy and champange. She starts looking at BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES!! Then she says, I am not going to wear champange because it makes me look fat....omg!!! She wants to look like a bridesmaid?!??!!?!
I begin to KINDLY explain that is not exactly how I would like her to look at MY wedding, the dresses she was looking at were not exactly age appropriate, nor decent. She actually picked a dark purple, almost plum colored mermaid type dress with ruffles and a train!!! <- seriously?
I had to leave the store, because they attendant was even encouraging her and telling her she could wear whatever she wanted. Okay...maybe I'm being a bridezilla, but I told her MY MOM should be dressed awesome because it's ME getting married, and that she should spend about $500 for a dress when HER daughters are getting married...but NOOOOOOO....she didn't seem to understand.
I finally left the store, looked at a few other stores, and when I showed her a sample "mother of the bride" dress, her response was...that's for older people...well how old does she think she is?!?!??!?!! Then she came into our fitting room and started telling the girls which dresses SHE liked or did not like as if it was her decision what they were going to wear. She even brought in these horrible looking dresses and made them try them on just so she "could see"....*sigh*
We finally made it to David's Bridal, where we were looking for dresses for the bridesmaids, and when I showed her the mother of the bride dresses, her response was, I will wear whatever I want to fit my body......(I was trying so hard to contain myself at this point)
On a side note, she is separated from her husband, and I feel that she is trying to "make him see what he's missing", but not at my expense PLEASE and definitely NOT at our wedding...The reason I say this, she made the comment, "wait until he sees me..." She finally picked the dress shown below which upsets me because I don't even know what my own mom is wearing yet.... :c(
Am I a horrible bridezilla or just normal? I'm happy with her selection of the dress, but I just felt as if she was stepping on my toes and rushing since she is going to use the same purchased dress for a wedding in April and then again for my wedding....
Where can I get my mom's dress now because I want her to stand out and not look like they are matching???????
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Re: LOOOOOOONNNNNGGGG RANT/VENT (PIP)...am I a horrible bridezilla or just normal?
And on that note, my mom is wearing a tight mermaid style dress that has some sort of a short train and it is eggplant-burgandyish because she has the body for it, and I actually encouraged her to do it as she looks amazing in it. No cover up either.
What I do disagree with you on is when you said, "I told her MY MOM should be dressed awesome because it's ME getting married, and that she should spend about $500 for a dress when HER daughters are getting married"... you're marrying her son, so it is important to her and spending $500 for her sons wedding is not bad... that, to me, was bridezillaish... sorry
Well...since you're asking...between horrible bridezilla and normal...I'd go with horrible bridzilla. i dont see anything wrong with your FMIL picking a dress before you knowing what your mom will wear. and with her giving you her opinions on BM dresses. i can see where that would get annoying, but everoyne has an opinion. Dont let it bother you. you're going to make the final decision anyways.
I'm a pretty laid back person in general so Im sure a lot of girls will disagree, but i think theres so many other-more important things to stress about than what you're stressing about now.
just my humble opinion
I give you props on being able to control your emotions and handling yourself well. Just remember it's going to be an amazing day no matter what your FMIL wears. If she looks silly then that will reflect on her.
This whole process will be stressful and there are things you have to decide on what will get on your nerves and make you emotional. This is one to drop. I have NO clue what my FMIL is going to wear, nor do I care. My mom is stressing out and again I don't care what she wears b/c I know she will pick something appropriate. You can't micro manage everything, if she didnt come with you, you would have no idea what she would be wearing.