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wedding planning is NOT stressful!

i'm so sick of being told 'wedding planning is stressful'!!  i've been engaged since june 2011 and we have had absolutley no stress over anything wedding related.  mind you, i did spend a lot of time thinking about who to invite and who i can leave off. 

being engaged and planning your wedding should be the best time of a person's life, so why are we supposed to think being stressed is normal?!  the week i got engaged my co-worker told me to prepare for breakdowns over wedding stuff and i just smiled but laughed in my head.

i can't be the only one who think wedding planning is easy and relaxing...anyone agree?
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  • edited May 2012
    Good for you that you aren't stressed.  Thanks for sharing.

    ETA:  Damnit Blue, you read my mind.
  • Hmmm, it seems to me that you're stressed about people telling you wedding planning is supposed to be stressful.
  • I wasn't stressed at all at 5 months out either.  i consider myself quite laidback.  But at a week prior the stress started piling on.  Too many things to do/check, not enough time.
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    [QUOTE]I wasn't stressed at all at 5 months out either.  i consider myself quite laidback.  But at a week prior the stress started piling on. <strong> Too many things to do/check, not enough time.
    </strong>Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

    This is what people most likely mean, as you get closer it feels like there are not enough hours in the day. Also, a lot of people have crazy family members causing stress, not everyone has this issue either.

    I had one real freak out moment about 2 months out, but the week of I was relaxed and enjoying my week off work. But, I also didn't have the whole shebang like most these ladies did.

    Good for you, but don't be surprised when it happens. And it will be over something really trivial.
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  • It might not be stressful for you, but that doesn't mean that others are crazy for being stressed while planning their weddings.  Some people have insane family members, small budgets, etc. that can understandably cause stress.  Also, I think its weird that you think being engaged and planning a wedding is supposed to be "the best time in a person's life".  Aren't you engaged because you are planning for a future?  You really think being engaged is ideal over being married? 
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    [QUOTE]i'm so sick of being told 'wedding planning is stressful'!!  i've been engaged since june 2011 and we have had absolutley no stress over anything wedding related.  mind you, i did spend a lot of time thinking about who to invite and who i can leave off.  being engaged and planning your wedding should be the best time of a person's life, so why are we supposed to think being stressed is normal?!  the week i got engaged my co-worker told me to prepare for breakdowns over wedding stuff and i just smiled but laughed in my head. i can't be the only one who think wedding planning is easy and relaxing...anyone agree?
    Posted by christinavy[/QUOTE]

    Please come back one month before your wedding and tell me how you feel.
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    [QUOTE]i'm so sick of being told 'wedding planning is stressful'!!  i've been engaged since june 2011 and we have had absolutley no stress over anything wedding related.  mind you, i did spend a lot of time thinking about who to invite and who i can leave off. <strong> being engaged and planning your wedding should be the best time of a person's life</strong>, so why are we supposed to think being stressed is normal?!  the week i got engaged my co-worker told me to prepare for breakdowns over wedding stuff and i just smiled but laughed in my head. i can't be the only one who think wedding planning is easy and relaxing...anyone agree?
    Posted by christinavy[/QUOTE]

    <div>I seriously hope not. </div>
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  • Cool story, bro.

    Er, sis?

    I didn't think wedding planning was "relaxing," but I definitely didn't care about stuff the same way some brides do. 
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  • My caterer called me to tell me they wouldn't be catering my wedding, because they were going out of business. We most likely lost $2,000.00. And are still looking for a new caterer. I have 165 days till my wedding. So yeah, it's been stressful for me lately.

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    [QUOTE]Hmmm, it seems to me that you're stressed about people telling you wedding planning is supposed to be stressful.
    Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]
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    [QUOTE]My caterer called me to tell me they wouldn't be catering my wedding, because they were going out of business. <strong>We most likely lost $2,000.00.</strong> And are still looking for a new caterer. I have 165 days till my wedding. So yeah, it's been stressful for me lately.
    Posted by Keb1216[/QUOTE]
    Whut?? You aren't going to get your money back? I'd be taking those assholes to court.
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    [QUOTE]My caterer called me to tell me they wouldn't be catering my wedding, because they were going out of business. We most likely lost $2,000.00. And are still looking for a new caterer. I have 165 days till my wedding. So yeah, it's been stressful for me lately.
    Posted by Keb1216[/QUOTE]

    I have literally almost the same issue going on right now.

    Plus- I have the two people who are hosting my bridal shower this weekend fighting with each other and me in the middle as we speak.  It's really relaxing.
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    [QUOTE]You know what stresses me out? A lot of tickers.
    Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

    Hah!

    Ditto PP's - I loved wedding planning but goodness I hope it's not the happiest time of my life. So in the next 60-70 years nothing will happen that is better than being engaged? Right.

    And yeah - OP you sound a little stressed out.
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    [QUOTE]Hmmm, it seems to me that you're stressed about people telling you wedding planning is supposed to be stressful.
    Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]

    This made me laugh because you sound just like the Eliza Chat Bot.

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  • Brandi- I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for you, and that your friends stop fighting.
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    [QUOTE]Brandi- I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for you, and that your friends stop fighting.
    Posted by Keb1216[/QUOTE]

    Thanks.  I hope you get your catering situation worked out!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: wedding planning is NOT stressful! : This made me laugh because you sound just like the Eliza Chat Bot. <a href="http://nlp-addiction.com/chatbot/eliza/" rel="nofollow">http://nlp-addiction.com/chatbot/eliza/</a>
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    <div>That thing is obnoxious, lol.  I just kept typing "yes" and "no."</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: wedding planning is NOT stressful! : Thanks.  I hope you get your catering situation worked out!
    Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, me too! Our possible new caterer is amazing. He had two busy weeks, said he would get back to me the week after his busy weeks. It's now been a week & two days since he should have gotten back to me. All our guests are coming from out of town, and so far we just have cake to eat. But the cake is going to be really good :)
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    Until about 2 months before my wedding, I thought, 'I should be a wedding planner. This stuff is so easy and I have no idea why people stress out over this.'

    Then I cried while making my centerpieces because my husband was being picky.

    Stress will hit you when you least expect it, and it will be over something minor. Congratulations if it never hits you, but don't preach about how easy it is five months out. Because at that point, it is.
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    [QUOTE]Until about 2 months before my wedding, I thought, 'I should be a wedding planner. This stuff is so easy and I have no idea why people stress out over this.' Then I cried while making my centerpieces because my husband was being picky. <strong>Stress will hit you when you least expect it, and it will be over something minor.</strong> Congratulations if it never hits you, but don't preach about how easy it is five months out. Because at that point, it is.
    Posted by SEWF[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yup, I've actually had a minor stress moment.  The pewter color in my invitations is printing out slightly darker than I thought it would so it's a really deep gray.  I almost flipped my shiit.  Then I realized, well it's still in the gray family so I then had a beer and got over it.  I'm sure once I'm a month out I will be wearing the wedding crazy pants.  </div>
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    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    We are not sure yet. They just closed the business at the end of April. If we don't get our money back, they will be seeing us in court. We booked the ex-caterer in Oct 2010, they were very happy to take our money.
    This is a link to the article about the closing. <a href="http://www.wral.com/5onyourside/story/11053121/" rel="nofollow">http://www.wral.com/5onyourside/story/11053121/</a>
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    [QUOTE]Until about 2 months before my wedding, I thought, 'I should be a wedding planner. This stuff is so easy and I have no idea why people stress out over this.' Then I cried while making my centerpieces because my husband was being picky. Stress will hit you when you least expect it, and it will be over something minor. Congratulations if it never hits you, but don't preach about how easy it is five months out. Because at that point, it is.
    Posted by SEWF[/QUOTE]

    This exactly.  A couple of months ago, I would have said I was sailing through wedding planning.  Now, my to do list makes my stomach hurt every time I look at it.   I judge no one for how much or how little stress they are feeling.
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  • Dot, as much as I would love to see a response to some people's posts I have a feeling OP is long gone.  
  • Dot, I know exactly what you mean.  H's dad passed away 2 months before the wedding, his mom 10 years before.  I made sure that his brothers and son were all there for him, but it wasn't the same KWIM?  Hugs to you and your FI. 
  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited May 2012
    I am stressed at times over my upcoming wedding and not a bit afraid to admit it.  I must not be doing it right OP. 
  • sorry Keb, I hope you can work that out and you're not out the money.
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