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TigerlilySabre
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Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special
Ok so, I'm really happy to have found this board. I haven't been with my partner for that long but we have known each other for quite a while. We both say that we were under each others' noses all this time. It will sound strange but very quickly into our relationship, we both know that we totally "click" on many levels. This has brought on a sudden and dramatic change in me (not lust and hormones, I swear!).
I have never been like this before. I've always been quite commitmentphobic and a bit like a stereotypical guy (I'm female). I played the field in college then I stayed single for a few years afterwards while I started my career. I then had a long term relationship where I was totally undecided about where it was going. We had lots of problems and were totally incompatible as people, but the relationship carried on for years while I was kind of ambivalent.
I never fantasized about my wedding. I always figured that I would get married and have kids some day in the vague and distant future. I even looked really weirdly at all of my friends on FB who were getting married. Now, I have been hit by cupid's arrow or something. In the last month, since realizing that my SO feels this way too, I have completely dived into the world of girly, mushy romance and embarrassingly find myself reading about and watching Wedding/estrogen tv/websites/books, fantasizing about that "some day", and getting really excited. I believe that you call this BSC. I'm so embarrassed and I definitely can't talk to my real life friends about any of this. My core friends are all willfully in the single girl club, which is where I was until now, rolling our eyes at our friends who were getting married. I'm really not ready to tell any of my IRL friends how I feel. One of them told me soon after I started dating SO, "But you can still keep dating other people while you are dating him." Eh no.
So on that merry note, I realize that I am in a new place in my life. I no longer need to sit around overanalyzing bad male behavior (at least in my own life!). I'm not ready to be married yet, but I do know that I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. He is "the one". I do realize that it is early days in terms of our literal romance but that whole thing about how, "you just know", well, I just know and I feel a little bit like I must be crazy to know this soon but I do. So now, I am in limbo land, waiting for a socially appropriate time to take those next steps while we coordinate our lives more and more. This seems like a great forum because you are all in the "waiting room" too so to speak.
So with that long introduction, I have a question for all of you. Perhaps it has been asked before but how did you know that your guy is "the one"? What are the little things about him that tell you that he is so right for you? What is it about your relationship that feels so right? What is it that you see in him compared to others that makes you know that he is special?
Ok, I've talked enough so I will wait to answer.
I have never been like this before. I've always been quite commitmentphobic and a bit like a stereotypical guy (I'm female). I played the field in college then I stayed single for a few years afterwards while I started my career. I then had a long term relationship where I was totally undecided about where it was going. We had lots of problems and were totally incompatible as people, but the relationship carried on for years while I was kind of ambivalent.
I never fantasized about my wedding. I always figured that I would get married and have kids some day in the vague and distant future. I even looked really weirdly at all of my friends on FB who were getting married. Now, I have been hit by cupid's arrow or something. In the last month, since realizing that my SO feels this way too, I have completely dived into the world of girly, mushy romance and embarrassingly find myself reading about and watching Wedding/estrogen tv/websites/books, fantasizing about that "some day", and getting really excited. I believe that you call this BSC. I'm so embarrassed and I definitely can't talk to my real life friends about any of this. My core friends are all willfully in the single girl club, which is where I was until now, rolling our eyes at our friends who were getting married. I'm really not ready to tell any of my IRL friends how I feel. One of them told me soon after I started dating SO, "But you can still keep dating other people while you are dating him." Eh no.
So on that merry note, I realize that I am in a new place in my life. I no longer need to sit around overanalyzing bad male behavior (at least in my own life!). I'm not ready to be married yet, but I do know that I want to spend the rest of my life with this person. He is "the one". I do realize that it is early days in terms of our literal romance but that whole thing about how, "you just know", well, I just know and I feel a little bit like I must be crazy to know this soon but I do. So now, I am in limbo land, waiting for a socially appropriate time to take those next steps while we coordinate our lives more and more. This seems like a great forum because you are all in the "waiting room" too so to speak.
So with that long introduction, I have a question for all of you. Perhaps it has been asked before but how did you know that your guy is "the one"? What are the little things about him that tell you that he is so right for you? What is it about your relationship that feels so right? What is it that you see in him compared to others that makes you know that he is special?
Ok, I've talked enough so I will wait to answer.
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Re: Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special
You've been with him since summer? Today is the FIRST day of fall, which means you couldn't have been with him past a few months, maybe even less. You are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship.
Anyways, your post...made me LOL. That is sooooo BF & I. We ask each other all the time, "How do you put up with me??" the answer "You have an amazing a$$"
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[QUOTE]Hello Sabre.... Welcome to NEY. I just wanted to let you know that we'll have to call you Sabre, because Tigerlily is too close to Tiger. Kthxbai. Have a great Friday :)
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Hahaha! True!</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special : Hahaha! True!
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
Haha! I third this :)
[QUOTE]Just saw it. You've been with him since summer? Today is the FIRST day of fall, which means you couldn't have been with him past a few months, maybe even less. You are still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship.
Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]
Why you got to be such a downer? Let the girl have her summer love. Look Sabre you know its too soon to be thinking of marriage. Enjoy the beginnings of your new love. Just don't go over into BSC land if you need to know BSC means Bat Sh!t Crazy. You deserve a decent hello and welcome. If you start spouting about how he is the ONE and you're planning a marriage in your head and some thing along those lines you are going to get flamed. This message has been brought to you by Free for All Friday.
I know my FI is special, because when I cluck or moo in public, he smiles and doesn't pretend he doesn't know me. Also he lets me bite him when I want to.
Motolyn's House Remodel Blog Starting anew Nov. 2012.
I love remembering the first few months of dating FI.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special : Why you got to be such a downer? Let the girl have her summer love. Look Sabre you know its too soon to be thinking of marriage. Enjoy the beginnings of your new love. Just don't go over into BSC land if you need to know BSC means Bat Sh!t Crazy. You deserve a decent hello and welcome. If you start spouting about how he is the ONE and you're planning a marriage in your head and some thing along those lines you are going to get flamed. This message has been brought to you by Free for All Friday. I know my FI is special, because when I cluck or moo in public, he smiles and doesn't pretend he doesn't know me. Also he lets me bite him when I want to.
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]
Hey now, I just think after 2 months of dating that's a wee bit early to be thinking about wedding planning.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special : Hey now, I just think after 2 months of dating that's a wee bit early to be thinking about wedding planning.
Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]
Tis true, but Sabre walks a fine line. I watched SYTTD before I was engaged, it was wedding dress porn to me. I don't know how far and intensive Sabre has been looking into weddings, if she is just watching shows and whatnot then I can give her that. Who really hasn't done that before. Now if she has been calling and researching online vendors then by all means I'll break out my flame thrower. But just imagining it and wishful thinking, then hey I am willing to give her leeway on that. Eventually she'll come back down to Earth.
I just didn't want another new poster to be turned away from the magic of this board because of the responses that she got here. Thick skin is needed I agree. But she can also can be steered away from BSC by sticking around here.
Sorry Polk I wasn't trying to single you out, your post struck a nerve in me. I just dislike it when people use that term "you're still in your honeymoon phase".
Motolyn's House Remodel Blog Starting anew Nov. 2012.
[QUOTE]I knew that BF was The One when he saw my two childhood stuffed animals on my bed when he came over for the first time and not only didn't laugh at me, but asked their names and told me about his childhood stuffed bunny that he still sleeps with. I swear I almost fainted on the spot. This was solidified when the following day he texted me a picture of the bunny and said "Hoppy can hardly wait to meet you...I've never brought a girl home to him before." This probably sounds ridiculous, but I melted right then and there and knew there was no going back.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
Liv I love this story, that is so cute,
Motolyn's House Remodel Blog Starting anew Nov. 2012.
[QUOTE]I knew that BF was The One when he saw my two childhood stuffed animals on my bed when he came over for the first time and not only didn't laugh at me, but asked their names and told me about his childhood stuffed bunny that he still sleeps with. I swear I almost fainted on the spot. This was solidified when the following day he texted me a picture of the bunny and said "Hoppy can hardly wait to meet you...I've never brought a girl home to him before." This probably sounds ridiculous, but I melted right then and there and knew there was no going back.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
That may be one of the cutest freaking stories I have ever heard.
[QUOTE]Haha thanks Lyn and Csousa. I was like, "I wonder if people are now going to think we're freaks?" I'm glad to know you think it is cute we have stuffed animals haha.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
I still have my teddy bear that was given to me on my first birthday, so no judgment here haha.
[QUOTE]Haha thanks Lyn and Csousa. I was like, "I wonder if people are now going to think we're freaks?" I'm glad to know you think it is cute we have stuffed animals haha.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
No way! I absolutely love that story. And I still have my favorite childhood stuffed animal in my linen closet. He protects the towels for me.
[QUOTE]Haha thanks Lyn and Csousa. I was like, "I wonder if people are now going to think we're freaks?" I'm glad to know you think it is cute we have stuffed animals haha.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
I have a pink binky that is safely stowed away in my closet. I will be buried with it when I pass away. Binky used to be a blanket but it got so torn and shredded it looks like a big ball of pink threads. When I had to wash it I would throw it in a pillow case and tie the case closed. FI was introduced to this and he didn't pass judgement, he laughed but that was because my older sister was cracking jokes. I have a worn nemo fish sitting on the shelf next to our bed. I would cuddle with it when FI was out of town. As of now there isn't enough room for two people a puppy and a stuffed fish. Though I'm afraid of Maus destuffing the clown fish.
Motolyn's House Remodel Blog Starting anew Nov. 2012.
[QUOTE]I'm with Liv; my first indicator was toy-related. On our first date, he mentioned having action figures of my favorite superhero in his cubicle at work - before I even brought it up as something I was into. That was the point at which he earned a second date, LOL. I think that's one of the big reasons why we work as well as we do: we understand and embrace each other's geekiness. Other proof that he's The One: - <strong>He can single-handedly calm me down when I'm flipping out about something.</strong> - We can disagree without arguing and argue without fighting. - We have the same weirdo dork sense of humor. - We both like the same ratio of couple time vs. alone time. - He always knows just what to say to make me smile.
Posted by pockysquirrel[/QUOTE]
<div>Single-handedly? Like with a slap?</div><div>
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</div><div>ETA: I DO NOT CONDONE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE</div>
[QUOTE]I knew that BF was The One when he saw my two childhood stuffed animals on my bed when he came over for the first time and not only didn't laugh at me, but asked their names and told me about his childhood stuffed bunny that he still sleeps with. I swear I almost fainted on the spot. This was solidified when the following day he texted me a picture of the bunny and said "Hoppy can hardly wait to meet you...I've never brought a girl home to him before." This probably sounds ridiculous, but I melted right then and there and knew there was no going back.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
<3
[QUOTE]I knew that BF was The One when he saw my two childhood stuffed animals on my bed when he came over for the first time and not only didn't laugh at me, but asked their names and told me about his childhood stuffed bunny that he still sleeps with. I swear I almost fainted on the spot. This was solidified when the following day he texted me a picture of the bunny and said "Hoppy can hardly wait to meet you...I've never brought a girl home to him before." This probably sounds ridiculous, but I melted right then and there and knew there was no going back.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
I can not express how flipping adorable and sweet this is on so many levels. <3 <3 <3 <3
I have several stuffed animals that mean something to me. Last winter, BF and I were going to a pharmacy to pick up his prescription and he went in by himself. He came back with a stuffed penguin (I have an addiction to penguins...don't judge) that was so flippin adorable, said he named it Guin (gwen) and said "Would you be my penguin?" :) I about melted.
Liv, that story is way too adorable. I think I just gained 5 pounds from the sheer sweetness.
[QUOTE]Awww, I love the love you guys! I'm going to tell BF when he gets home that our story was so thoroughly endorsed. And, for your viewing pleasure, our stuffed animals. We have also "adopted" a stuffed pig together. Left to right: Piggle, Hoppy, Green Puppy, and Fluffy. (In front of the Christmas tree. We made a joke card to send my parents haha.)
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
So effing adorable!!
[QUOTE]Awww, I love the love you guys! I'm going to tell BF when he gets home that our story was so thoroughly endorsed. And, for your viewing pleasure, our stuffed animals. We have also "adopted" a stuffed pig together. Left to right: Piggle, Hoppy, Green Puppy, and Fluffy. (In front of the Christmas tree. We made a joke card to send my parents haha.)
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]
Liv I love your story! FI has a bear he calls Bearbear and he still sleeps with him. I sleep with a stuffed wolf who I love. :)
Married! May 27th, 2012