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Does He Drive Your Car?
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This has been the subject of many an arguement bewteen BF and I. I absolutely hate it when he drives my car, especially when I'm in the passenger's seat. It makes me uncomfortable to see someone else driving, but most of the time he insists on it because I have the better gas mileage and because he "hates" the way I drive (which, of course, I take offense to).
I am comfortable in my car. I spend a lot of time in it. It's small and I'm very short (under 5'), so everything is very specifically adjusted. BF is over a foot taller than me, and he readjusts everything, from the mirrors to the steering wheel. It takes me forever to put it back the way that's comfortable for me.
My mom once overheard us arguing and said, "What's the big deal? It's just a car!" I likened it to someone borrowing my underwear - it's just not the same once you know another person's been in it.
So - does BF/FI/FBD drive your car? Do you let him? How do you feel about it? Am I the only one who's crazy possessive of her car?
This has been the subject of many an arguement bewteen BF and I. I absolutely hate it when he drives my car, especially when I'm in the passenger's seat. It makes me uncomfortable to see someone else driving, but most of the time he insists on it because I have the better gas mileage and because he "hates" the way I drive (which, of course, I take offense to).
I am comfortable in my car. I spend a lot of time in it. It's small and I'm very short (under 5'), so everything is very specifically adjusted. BF is over a foot taller than me, and he readjusts everything, from the mirrors to the steering wheel. It takes me forever to put it back the way that's comfortable for me.
My mom once overheard us arguing and said, "What's the big deal? It's just a car!" I likened it to someone borrowing my underwear - it's just not the same once you know another person's been in it.
So - does BF/FI/FBD drive your car? Do you let him? How do you feel about it? Am I the only one who's crazy possessive of her car?
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Re: Does He Drive Your Car?
But I feel you on having to always readjust my settings with my seat and rearview mirror everytime I go somewhere by myself.
However, a couple of things have changed that and now he does drive my car fairly often.
1) I put him on my car insurance policy when we got married. So, he's covered. I don't have to worry about that now.
2) We got married. So, even more than before, what's mine is his and what's his is mine. We both feel pretty strongly about that, even though I have always been possessive of "my things" I have slowly gotten over that with him.
3) He paid off my car. As you know, I haven't worked full-time in a couple of years. We just paid off my car last month. So, I mean... you know... I guess I kind of feel like "he" paid a big chunk of it, which makes it more "ours."
4) His air conditioning in his car is broken. In south Louisiana, that's a BIG deal in the summer (which lasts like 6 months). If we're both going somewhere in one car, he drives mine. I hate driving. I really, really HATE it and will try to get out of driving anytime I can. So, I let him drive, and it's gotta be my car because of the a/c.
HOWEVER, I am a back-seat (or passenger's-seat) driver. I am always butting in about which route to take and how fast he should go and when he should change lanes. I don't do that when we're in his car. Also, I nearly had a meltdown when he backed over a curb the other day, with not one tire... but TWO... scraping the underside of the car in the process. Why didn't he stop when the first tire went over the curb? I have NO IDEA.
He was really freaked out. So was I.
However, for the most part it's not terrible. He's slightly taller than me, but he leaves everything the way it is and I don't have to change the seat or mirrors back. He knows how picky I am.
His car is gross and has manual locks and windows and no skylight, plus he rarely has gas in it, so we often take my car. I don't mind him driving my car vs. his car since he doesn't screw with my mirrors, just my seat. But I hate being in the passenger seat with him driving in traffic, regardless of whose car we are using!
EDIT: It also helps that we're on the same car insurance, so we're both equally covered to drive each other's car. I never drive his because it's gross (smells like his gym clothes), and he only drives mine when I'm in the car.
If he's driving, I'd rather take his truck but I do let him drive mine if it's the only one available and one of us have to drive. He doesn't pay for gas but I do so I'd rather use his since we both have similar trucks/gas mileage.
If I'm driving (which is rare), I'd rather drive mine since his veers to the left like no other and makes your arm sore after awhile.
He usually drives because I hate driving and he makes me uncomfortable when I'm driving.
I share my truck with my dad sometimes and we just keep it at the same setting, I don't know if he got used to mine or vice versa but it works. FI is very tall and just scoots the seat all the way back. He complains about how he never has to adjust it when he drives his parents cars or they drive his (similar thing with my dad and I) but I get in his truck and f- it all up.
[QUOTE]Oh, we argue over driving all the time. We both hate the other person's driving style - <strong>I'm very cautious and tend to be defensive, whereas he's aggressive and high-tempered when driving.</strong> I don't use the horn much except to alert people with a quick beep, but he'll use the horn as punishment for a good 5-10 seconds when he's annoyed with someone. We have philosophical debates about the appropriate length of time for a honk - seriously! <strong>He also will tell me how to get to places in our neighborhood... um, thanks, I live here, too!</strong>
Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]
UGH! SAME! I would rather not piss off anyone else on the road because people are crazy!
Last night BF and I got into a fight on our way to a friend's new apartment to help her paint. I insisted we follow the directions she gave us (her place is in the neighborhood of hers and my old stomping ground) but he insisted his GPS system was better because he trusted it. Oh really? You trust a computer and not two people who know <em>exactly where to go</em>?
We take my car whenever we go anywhere and usually take turns driving, just depends on how tired the other one is as to who drives. We're about the same height, so no adjustments need to be made. The only things I really don't like about him driving my car is he drives so blessed slow. I thought I drove slow cause I usually don't go more than 5 over the speed limit (and get passed like I was sitting still), but he usually drives 5 under the speed limit, or slower (which brings us to how he managed to get a ticket going 15 over the speed limit - no radar, just a bored cop). He also pulls the parking brake up really tight - so tight that I have trouble taking the brake off when I get in it next - he insists it has to be that tight or it won't keep the car from rolling...hmm, I've never had a problem with it.
We definitely won't take his car much, at least for a while yet. He just quit smoking in May, so it's still airing out. It's getting better, but I still can't stand to be in it for long.
ETA: We make adjustments to each others mirrors and the seat but neither of us are bothered by it enough to complain or argue about it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Does He Drive Your Car? : UGH! SAME! I would rather not piss off anyone else on the road because people are crazy!
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That's how I feel, too! I showed him this article that happened about 5 miles from our home a few weeks ago::
<a href="http://www.justnews.com/news/24505929/detail.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.justnews.com/news/24505929/detail.html</a>
And told him that it's stupid to play chicken with morons, or to honk at people like you're going to "teach them a lesson". Even though they're in the wrong, it's better to let it go! Especially around here, where everyone drives so aggressively and have explosive tempers (and lots of guns).
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It's MY car. I pay for it; it's in my name.
But it really doesn't bother me to have him drive it.
I'm lazy and like other people to drive. I'd rather re-adjust seats and mirrors than drive. And he likes to drive. So it works out.
We rarely back-seat drive each other.
But then again, we rarely argue, either. We're both just very laid back and easy going with each other. I always say I know he's right for me b/c he irritates me so much less than any other person I've ever met.
[QUOTE]HE DROVE ON THE SIDEWALK YESTERDAY. ON PURPOSE.
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WTAF? What possessed him to do that?!
His driving sometimes freaks me out, as he is rather aggressive, and he doesn't like being a passenger. Normally its not a big deal, but if we go to Chicago or somewhere with a lot of traffic it can be annoying.
I drive an automatic and he drives a standard. I hate standards and he hates automatics. Problem solved. We pretty much share the driving though, unless it's long distance then Matt usually drives.
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We used to take my car everywhere as the truck can be very thirsty. But now I'm at my kilometer limit for my lease (knew this day was coming) and as there are still 6 months to go, it has turned into a commuter only. As BF owns his truck, we can put as many kilometers as we want just have to suck it up and pay for the gas.
BF and I are the same height and therefore, don't need to readjust much. We do prefer different seatings for the steering wheel though but this is an easy fix.
About 95% of the time, if we go somewhere, we take his car because he likes it better. Not that mine is crappy or that I don't want him to drive my car, but his is faster and is all wheel drive. I also don't want to drive if I don't have to because I get really annoyed with other drivers.
His old car was a manual and I never learned to drive it, but his new car has one of those tiptronic transmissions. I drove it once when we were driving out to San Diego for the weekend. He was in Yuma for work (which is halfway to SD), so I drove his car from here to Yuma, then he drove from there. Again, I don't want to drive if I don't have to and especially in an area that I don't know. We work well with him being the pilot and me being the navigator (aka...programming the garmin)
He would let me drive his car if I was more familiar with stick. Still learning that one. But he doesn't like other people's driving so he would insist on driving most of the time.
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i also hate how he drives my car.I dont have a big engine in it and you have to coax it to go faster and cant just jamb on the gas and expect it to drive fast. He is constantly causing the engine to rev cause he wants to go fast faster than the car will let yah!
I MISS BEING ABLE TO DRIVE!
He does drive my car from time to time and it doesn't bother me in the least. FI drives for a living (tractor trailer) and he's good at it but he also likes to take a break from driving when we're going places. I tend to drive much more frequently than him.
I like to take my car just incase since I can't drive his in an emergency.
But it does get to me sometimes when we have to pick up his daughter at the campgrounds on weekends. It's a 45 minute drive each way and putting those miles on a car I just got in February makes me a little nutty.
Overall I trust him with it and he usually drives since he is the native and I'm new to the area.
Oh, and FI is 6'8", so I'd want to kill him if I had to re-adjust everything to my height after he got out of the driver's seat. It annoys me when I have to do it to drive HIS car!
This is funny that this is a post, because yesterday I was just thinking this haha. I HATE when he drives my car, because he drives like a psycho. I literally get tears in my eyes sometimes because I get so scared. But I would rather him take his own car if hes going to drive like that because I just got my car and I dont want him recking my car. Also when he drives like that we usually end up fighting because I yell at him for driving like a maniac and he tells me stop nagging at him etc. But I wouldnt mind if he drove my car if he drove like a normal human being. I guess I still get nervous because I like to be in control, but I just try and not think about it.