Okay, so I know that ALL a groomsman has to do is get his tux and show up-which is all that I am asking them to do. All of the groomsmen have paid for their tuxes (plus gotten their measurements except one. He has gotten the measurements done, paid the deposit, but now my fiance is telling me that he isn't going to be able to pay for the rest of his tux until 2 days prior to the wedding (the groomsman is having money issues right now).
Now, I understand money issues-we have them too...if we could help him out paying for it, then we would (my parents are paying for the wedding and everything associated with it, except the rehearsal dinner). This why we had the groomsmen go and get their measurements taken two months ago (4/7/2012), so that they would know the price, and we had given them a deadline of 6/1/2012 to pay for all of it because I had a feeling that at least ONE would have money problems. However, it frustrates me because if he doesn't come up with the money by that point (2 days before), his name will already be listed in the programs, I'll have to talk things over with the DJ, re-do the seating chart (I am not doing escort cards, but a table by table name listing and this groomsman has a SO), re-do the bridal party table, boutinierre would have already been ordered/paid for by my parents, groomsman gift already bought, etc........ and I will be the one dealing with the stress of rearranging things for the ceremony/reception hall two days before the wedding if he can't come up with the money.
I want to know, what has your experience been with groomsmen who pay that close to the day? Do they usually pay or just don't?
FYI-my fiance says I have to be the one to talk to him if I want to have it paid by an earlier date (our wedding is 6/22/2012, but I would like to have it paid for by 6/16/2012-one week prior to the wedding). I don't feel it should be my responsibility to talk to the groomsmen about it as it should be my fiance's, but I just want one less thing to stress about that close to the wedding.
Thanks Ladies-sorry for the rant!