I really got a surprise last night when my mom and I were discussing wording for a reception invitation. You see we are have a cake reception for everyone and then later in the evening a dinner for family because 100% of family is coming from other states. So really it will only be family and wedding party that is invited. Mom said to word it as "a private dinner party for family and close friends" and I said well, since it's only family and the wedding party we could just call it "a private family dinner" and the wedding party would understand when they got the invite that they're invited because they are in the wedding and not think they got the wrong invite. Anyway, to that my mom said, "but it isn't ONLY family." Yeah, yeah it is, family and the wedding party. To that she said (not asked) "but ______ wil come." ______ is her lover I guess but mom is still married to and lives with and sleeps in same bed as dad! Yes, this has been going on for a few years, but I don't want my family uncomfortable because they KNOW who this person really IS and might be put off that they are at the family dinner. _______ IS invited to the wedding and cake reception, but I was never going to invite them to the dinner! Now I'm affraid my mom will be pissed if I don't, but I really don't want to and won't. I don't want my wedding to be remembered as the day the fam had to meet the "other." Awkward!