Any other young or young-looking brides out there?

jesuslovingchik · July 2010

I am 19 and getting married this month, my fiance is 21. In public it seems people think we're even younger than we are. I'm just wondering how that will affect being married, being an adult, and not relying on our parents for certain things anymore.

A few weeks ago, I went with my mom to her doctor appointment, and in the building it's in, you have to check in as a visitor at the front desk. My mom asked the lady if I needed to check in too, and the lady looked right at me and said, "You're not an adult, are you?" I was like, "Well I'm 19." and she just said, "Oh, then yeah."

Then the other day, my fiance and I were working on stuff in our future home, and a sales guy came to the door. My fiance answered and the guy asked if his parents were home. He said, "No, I own this house." and the guy just said ok and walked away. Which was hilarious!

I said, I guess that's a good thing cause we can just say our parents aren't home and no sales people can bug us, haha!

I guess I worry people won't take me (or my fiance) seriously as adults. Anyone else feel the same way?

nanderson09 · July 2010

Yes! Well, FI looks his age, but sometimes when I try to sit in the exit row in a airplane the flight attendants will ask me if I'm old enough. And I'm 22! I have worried before that because of my baby face people won't take us seriously, but I have found that the only people who actually do question our age and decision to get married are those who don't know me/us at all. All of the important people know that we are mature and ready for marriage, are 100% supportive, and that's what matters!

trisha_nybn · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_other-young-young-looking-brides-out-there?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:28553c30-07e3-4879-aaae-8ccc021b06b4Post:3fb0b1fc-617d-4b43-8de9-44b55d00778b">Re: Any other young or young-looking brides out there?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes! Well, FI looks his age, but sometimes <strong>when I try to sit in the exit row in a airplane the flight attendants will ask me if I'm old enough</strong>. And I'm 22! I have worried before that because of my baby face people won't take us seriously, but I have found that the only people who actually do question our age and decision to get married are those who don't know me/us at all. All of the important people know that we are mature and ready for marriage, are 100% supportive, and that's what matters!
Posted by nanderson09[/QUOTE]

This happened to me! lol I was 22 at the time too. I guess that's a compliment :)

Srbageldog · July 2010

I'm 26 and people I work with/go to school with are always surprised to hear my age. They seem to think I am in my late teens/early 20s (which I take as a compliment!) My FI is 30 but looks more like he's 25. Nobody ever believes our real ages, we still get carded when we buy beer and all that. Which, as I said, I take as a compliment. I am in no hurry to get older, or to have people assume I am "older." I say enjoy it while it lasts. It's better than having people assume you're older.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

I'm 24, but usually get mistaken for a high school student. I've had people accuse me of giving them a fake license, which really pisses me off, and I've had others give me the side-eye when they find out I'm married (apparently they think I'm a child bride or something).

Whatever, I try to look at is a compliment. Like, as I get older I'll still look younger than my age, so what's to be upset over? DH looks a few years younger, but no way would he be mistaken as a teenager.

trix1223 · July 2010

My DD is 26. She was at work last month in a retail store and because she had done her hair a certain way was asked if she had a good time at prom the night before.

At her b-party last year (age 25) she had on a B2B sash, and someone walked past and said something snotty about 16 year olds getting married.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Trix--that's happened to me, not at a bach party but when someone saw my wedding and engagement rings. A woman said something like, "throwing your life away because of teenage hormones." So I sad, "Lady, I'm 24 years old with a Master's degee. Get off your high horse and stop being so damn ignorant."

This was in line at Walmart.

gottahavashorti · July 2010

I'm 24 and look like I'm in high school as well. It's never been an issue in terms of outspoken people judging our relationship, employees of companies asking if I'm old enough, etc. but I am from a small town so many of them recognize me and a lot of people get married young.

I do automatically pull out my ID if I'm getting a drink or at the liquor store. And at my job during breaks in college, customers would comment on occasion that there was no way I was old enough to work even on days where I was one of the oldest employees in the store other than the managers.

But ditto Sheshat - I just tell people oh well, I'll age well. People used to confuse my mom as being one of my dad's daughters, and they graduated in the same class.

SarahPLiz · July 2010

My sister is 33 and a college professor and she still qualifies for the child's price buffet at any pizza place. Its actually a perk, and she takes it as a complement because it means she has really nice skin. However, she has to be very careful about how she dresses at school or she will blend in the with the students, which doesn't garner much respect from her colleagues.

I, on the other hand, am 31 and I get really excited when someone cards me for buying alcohol or spray paint. It is a rare occaision. Some people think that I am my 20yo sister's mother. Be greatful that you look your age. 19 is young, and its really hard to tell a 19 year old from a 16 year old a lot of times.

I don't think looking young will affect your marriage as much as being young.

AlmostSt.Laurent · July 2010

I'm half in this boat. A lot of times when the age conversation comes up with newer friends who don't know our age, they tell me that they thought I was around 25 or so, not 21. As soon as people hear the 21, I generally get a lecture about how I am way to young to be in a serious relationship, let alone get married.

I usually make a witty comment and the subject changes.

Goff2010 · July 2010

I'm 18 and my Fiance is 25. We got lucky and haven't had too much trouble getting taken seriously because we have been doing most of the arrangements for housing and a lot of wedding details over the phone. Moving out of state isn't a bad deal at all

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frogurt814 · July 2010

I'm 24, and I still get carded for R rated movies. FI is 27 and he gets carded for alcohol more than I do. We both look really young for our ages, but I am perfectly fine with that.

Whenever sales people stop by the house and I answer the door, they always ask to speak to the home owner. I tell them I am the home owner.

redharedsunshine · July 2010

I'm about 5 months older then my FI and I'm the one who is always mistaken for being younger. A few weeks ago me and my FI were flying and I went to check my bag in and the woman working the desk asked me if I was traveling alone and if I was 16. I'm 24 and I didn't really know how to take it. I should be happy I look young, but I also didn't have any makeup on. I now make sure I'll have makeup on at the airport. I also get carded for alcohol at restaurants more then my FI. My FI says I should take it as a compliment but I would just like to look closer to my age.

jessnich42 · July 2010

I got carded for a PG-13 Harry Potter movie when I was 22.

I'm also a high school teacher, and on Spirit Days I frequently get confused for a student. Some people just aren't good at guessing what age people are!

So you're certainly not alone! Being 19, I think, it's a little more understandable for people to be confused about how old you are. After all, you were considered a "child" mere months ago!

Just give them time and play it up! Enjoy freaking people out!

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2010

I'm 26, but usually get asked when I'm done with school (I graduated college at 22).

My younger sister who got married last year was 22 when she got married, and people always confuse her with one of our sisters - who is 15.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · July 2010

People never believe that I am 35 and my FH is 40. We almost always get carded when we go out. When people see me, my 15 year old son and my mom, they think that I am his sister. I actually love it!! I have had people come to my door and ask for the owner, when I say I am the owner, they say "Really?" Uh yeah....now what the hell do you want?? is usually my reply.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

I'm 20 and BF is turning 21 in three months. Sometimes, people think he's my father (which is a little odd - since when does having facial hair automatically make someone your DAD?)

When I went to get my passport, I needed my father to go with me to vouch for me. The clerk asked him how old I was, and he said, "20," and she goes, "Oh, wow! I thought she was 14." And then when I had surgery a few weeks ago, the administrator gave my mother all the forms to sign. My mother looked them over and asked, "Am I allowed to sign these even though she isn't a minor?" The administrator asked how old I was, and upon learning I was 20, said, "Oh no! She has to sign them. I thought she was 15!"

I know in ten years it will be awesome to be mistaken for younger.

blondie82784 · July 2010

My FI looks his age 31 but I always get that I look like im 17 or 18 when im almost 26... ive had patients ask me about when ill be graduating school and blah blah.. It makes when laugh when I tell them my real age and theyre shocked.. Hey I take it as a compliment just think when im in my 30's ill look like im just hitting mid 20s.. It stinks when I go out cause im always the one who gets carded and asked for another proof of my name

Dferrari17 · July 2010

I'm 25 and I usually get the comment that I look in my late teens. My FI is 31 and he looks a decent amount younger too. Most people think he's in his early 20's. We haven't run into any major issues yet but I'm sure we'll get there eventually.

SarahPLiz · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_other-young-young-looking-brides-out-there?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:28553c30-07e3-4879-aaae-8ccc021b06b4Post:2f187c08-1c26-4352-a6a0-2afc78fb2a4d">Re: Any other young or young-looking brides out there?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>People never believe that I am 35 and my FH is 40</strong>. We almost always get carded when we go out. When people see me, my 15 year old son and my mom, they think that I am his sister. I actually love it!! I have had people come to my door and ask for the owner, when I say I am the owner, they say "Really?" Uh yeah....now what the hell do you want?? is usually my reply.
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]

I still don't believe it ;P Guess I'm going to have to start taking naps and see if I can regress a bit.

LD1970 · July 2010

I'll be turning 40 at the end of this month and regularly get pegged as 27-29. When I was in law school (mid 20s), people thought I was 16. You enjoy it more as you get older.

It's good genes from mom. She was getting taken for my sister for many years. I've seen photos of us when I was a baby - she was 24 & looked 15. It looked like she had to be my babysitter, not mother.

jess6904 · July 2010

I'm only 22 as well. My FI will be 29 in Nov... People are always suprised by our ages too. They always think we are both around 25-26. I don't think age matters. And the fact that you guys own a home already is awesome. Just make sure to do things right and get an education. You should always have a plan B and if your marriage doesn't work out 5-10 years from now, would you be able to support yourself and live on your own. My parents got married at 18 and 19 and it was a horrible mistake for them. I know everyone is different, but just make sure you have your sh*t together b4 settling down.

GL & do what makes YOU happy

[Deleted User] · July 2010

I am 27 and people say I look like I am about 20. My sister is 6 yrs younger than I and when we would go and do things together, people thought we were twins. I would tell them that I was older. don't let it bother me, though. If they are being nice, I tell them my real age. I just take it as a compliment. My H doesn't really look his age either, but he doesn't get near as much of the comments as I do when we go out. It makes him happy though, he says I will age well and it makes him feel like he has a young woman...lol

alisanmark · July 2010

yes.

My FI and I bought a Truck together, and we had to have his mother sign a form that said we are good and will make the payments. The Dealership told us that we have excellent credit (which we do) and that we can definatly afford the payments(which we can) but we are just so young, we need someone to vouch for us.

Unbelievable. We are 23 and 24.

jesuslovingchik · July 2010

I'm glad I'm not alone, and I love reading everyone's stories! I always feel so young when I mention my age, cause I've always gotten along better with people older than me who aren't still stuck in junior high drama, so I guess I always think of myself as being their age.

It will be an adventure, I guess, and I'll just have to enjoy it!

ehathewa · July 2010

If you are concerned about it I have found these things help:

1) Dress like an adult. This doesn't mean you have to look frumpy, but it is time to stop shopping at American Eagle or in the Juniors department.
2) Act like an adult.

When I am in my jeans and sneakers I get mistaken for a high-school student. When I'm at work people are shocked to find out how "young" I am. I just turned 26 last week.

My favorite age story happened when I was in collgee and chaperoned my brother's Jr. High field trip to an amusement park. I got mistaken for his mom and for a junior high student in the same day

ejb58 · July 2010

I am 19 and my fiance is almost 20. I have somewhat of the same problem as you. I tell people we're engaged and the first question they ask is 'How old are you?' So you tell them and they get a shocked look on their face and say 'Oh wow.' I used to think that I was alone in this but I've actually met / heard of a lot of girls recently that are my age or even younger with the same problem. But really I'm beginning to see that it's not a problem at all. If you know you're ready then why wait? Why not enjoy being young and learning new things with the person you love?

hrerickson · July 2010

I'm going to be 19 just shy of 20 when FI and I get married and he will be 22. Were going to be the same age as his parents when they got married and they've been together for 27 years! I don't think I would be worried about age. People actually think I look older than I am, so I would take it as a compliment!! You'll get many more happy years together!!

shellydiane820 · July 2010

I just wear a lot of make up and wear my mom's heels and pearls.

pandasquishy · July 2010

When I was 21 I was at brunch with my parents and they charged me for the kids buffet. Embarrassing, but it saved us money!

Anyway, I don't care how old anyone is when they get married as long as they're mature enough, financially independent, and know what the hell they're getting into.

lisarose7 · July 2010

I can always pass for 5-10 years younger than I am. When I was 28 and working in a pet store I had a girl and her mom ask about the possibility of her being employed there. I told her we only hired 18 and older and the mom gave me the side-eye. Apparently she thought I was 16...the same age as her daughter. Both their mouths actually fell open when I told them I was nearly 30.

I think it was funnier when I was substitute teaching and one of the 4th graders gave me the side-eye and asked if they sent me over from the high school.

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