GBCK'd

ac_in_dc · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:231a0cbc-7a0c-4b2a-9499-d9b987f81f76">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]I dont think she actually apologized though, she just said she was going to take a step back from FFF and stop posting.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I know, she definitely didn't apologize. Which strikes me as totally weird.

kikibaby · March 2010

I agree with AC. I've been in a similar position, although I don't think I ever said anything so overtly offensive to anyone. It's hard to not just want to pack up and leave, but for me... I took it as an opportunity to look at my own behavior and see where I was wrong. I think it was good for me and I learned from it. But yeah, I reallllly wanted to GBCK, so I wouldn't be totally surprised if Capri decided to.

FWIW, I like her and think she's a really nice person, but she just puts her foot in her mouth a lot.

squirrly · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:a4a493ea-5efc-4396-a6a6-25116cfff6f1">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: GBCK'd : Yeah, I know, she definitely didn't apologize. Which strikes me as totally weird.
Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

Par for the course. You know, since she knows everything about everything, especially all of us and how we think. She's got a serious superiority complex. (Or most likely, inferiority and compensating for that is what caused this mess.)

Mrs_AF · March 2010

Maybe she sent her a PM? Wishful thinking?

danieliza1127 · March 2010

I keep finding myself giving her the benefit of the doubt in my mind that maybe when she said that about P2's pictures that she just wrote it not remembering about her H's cancer and what she said about not wanting pictures that day. But if that were the case, why didn't she just say that in the FFF thread and apologize? Why just leave and not come back? If she thinks it's just going to blow over and be forgotten if she waits a week and then comes back, she'll be wrong. It would have been better to just own up to it right then.

The other reason that I feel like I shouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt is that she and P2 don't even get along, so it was always suspicious to me from the start that she kept asking about P2's wedding pictures. That was like the third time she had brought them up. Why did she care so much? They don't even like each other.

Nebb · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:9af679fb-a6be-4f1d-9072-03dbc094e3fa">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: GBCK'd : Par for the course. <strong>You know, since she knows everything about everything, especially all of us and how we think. She's got a serious superiority complex. (Or most likely, inferiority and compensating for that is what caused this mess.)</strong>
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]
This is just way too true.

kate51485 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:48a68f76-2235-40d6-9506-b470c70c1af2">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]FWIW, I like her and think she's a really nice person, but she just puts her foot in her mouth a lot.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

She is not a really nice person. This has been demonstrated many times.

salt78 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:ca8e701d-1e59-4c92-80d1-5a687a161faa">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't view her so much as being "bold" and "snarky" so much as just an moron who tries too hard. Maybe thats just me.
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

<div>Not just you.</div>

Stackeye210 · March 2010

SPOT ON Dani.

shellydiane820 · March 2010

She always seemed to me as someone who didn't have a filter. She never thought before she spoke.

I don't think she intended to be mean. She just doesn't filter. I also think she's too proud to admit if she's wrong. Her and P2 have always bickered back and forth. I think this time she just crossed the line.

tlv204 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:2634df99-8917-4369-a1b9-2bed36ac1a64">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]I keep finding myself giving her the benefit of the doubt in my mind that maybe when she said that about P2's pictures that she just wrote it not remembering about her H's cancer and what she said about not wanting pictures that day. But if that were the case, why didn't she just say that in the FFF thread and apologize? Why just leave and not come back? If she thinks it's just going to blow over and be forgotten if she waits a week and then comes back, she'll be wrong. It would have been better to just own up to it right then. The other reason that I feel like I shouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt is that she and P2 don't even get along, so it was always suspicious to me from the start that she kept asking about P2's wedding pictures. That was like the third time she had brought them up. Why did she care so much? They don't even like each other.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

That's exactly what I thought too, at first, that she just forgot about Mark not wanting pictures and his cancer. I honestly think that is what happened at least at first, but you guys are totally right that she never apologized. And honestly even if she did just forget, after like the 5th person that told her she was out of line, wouldn't she start to wonder why and second guess her decision to keep harping on it?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

I've met Capri IRL and she IS really sweet. However, I also agree with everyone that the comment she made about P2's wedding pictures was beyond the pale. Maybe she needs time to think things through and then come back and apologize. It is possible she has a lot going on and TK was pushing her over the top. If she comes back and apologizes I don't think that's any less valid than if she had apologized right away just because everyone was pressuring her. In fact, I think it might be more sincere if she really steps back and thinks about it.

FWIW, I didn't remember P2 mentioning that Mark didn't want her to post pics. Again, not that is excuses Capri's comment at all.

kikibaby · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:71fef675-3f5a-4296-b58c-c0ef9519b3fa">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: GBCK'd : She is not a really nice person. This has been demonstrated many times.
Posted by kate51485[/QUOTE]

I say that because she reached out to me personally when I was going through a rough time. I think she's sensitive to the criticisms here, but doesn't know how to step down- she's stubborn and just doesn't want to be the one to say 'Sorry' or 'I'm wrong'. She gets hurt and defensive and that's when she gets mean. I'm in no way saying it's right.

dandan83 · March 2010

Since I'd been lurking I'd actually liked Capri up to that point. It just really struck me that she was doing it to upset P2 and I coudln't really understand why. If you don't like someone you don't like them, but there are certain lines that shouldn't be crossed ever.

alixzafiris · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:267e37b1-ac1b-4509-9acd-8f83d638f03a">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: GBCK'd : Not just you.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Most definitely not just you.

tlv204 · March 2010

I still like Capri and don't think anyone can call anyone else a terrible person for stuff like this. That was bad behavior and she absolutely should apologize, not that it will necessarily "make everything better," but people make mistakes all the time. Some mistakes are worse than others, but I guess I'm just saying I agree with those that are saying maybe she's just stubborn and has no speech filter. What she said was unnecessary, but that doesn't make her a bad person. It takes a lot for someone to be considered an out and out bad person in my eyes.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

Guys, I really don't know how you could have missed ALL of the other times she's gone off on someone and REFUSED to believe that she was wrong in any way. Ever. East is right, she's never been snarky, she's just stupid, combined with whatever complex she has about being right... yeesh.

squirrly · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:2634df99-8917-4369-a1b9-2bed36ac1a64">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE] The other reason that I feel like I shouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt is that she and P2 don't even get along, so it was always suspicious to me from the start that she kept asking about P2's wedding pictures. That was like the third time she had brought them up. <strong>Why did she care so much? They don't even like each other.</strong>
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Exactly.

tlv204 · March 2010

I completely agree about the desire to be right and this definitely isn't an isolated incident, I just think it's more from the stubbornness (is that a word?) than from an outright desire to hurt someone's feelings.

ETA: I do think she inteded to hurt feelings a few times, so that wasn't really phrased right, I'm just saying I don't think she's an overal hateful person from what little I know, I just think she lashes out irrationally sometimes when she feels cornered or incorrect.

kate51485 · March 2010

Well maybe she's sweet IRL or one on one. If that's the case I have a hard time understanding how she could be so different in a group setting on here. She relentlessly defended her positions on ANYTHING, whether anybody cared or not, to the point that it just made her look foolish. She has taken things people said out of context and then fired back with completely illogical retorts that were clearly meant to insult. If that is how her law school prepares students for the field, I feel sorry for every last one of them.

Nebb · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:666db7c4-d8ad-408f-a5ad-0863cbc889c5">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]I've met Capri IRL and she IS really sweet. However, I also agree with everyone that the comment she made about P2's wedding pictures was beyond the pale. Maybe she needs time to think things through and then come back and apologize. I<strong>t is possible she has a lot going on and TK was pushing her over the top</strong>. If she comes back and apologizes I don't think that's any less valid than if she had apologized right away just because everyone was pressuring her. In fact, I think it might be more sincere if she really steps back and thinks about it. FWIW, I didn't remember P2 mentioning that Mark didn't want her to post pics. Again, not that is excuses Capri's comment at all.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]
I dont think this is a valid excuse to say disgusting things to people and then not even own up to what youve done. Ive been really struggling lately and I took a TK break rather than take out my issues on anyone else, BEFORE I said something stupid.

squirrly · March 2010

Kate, I think IRL she's probably too chicken to say stuff like that, but online where nobody can physically get to her she'll say anything she's thinking. Anonymity gave her confidence.

I used to like her, I felt like she got a rough shake from some people, and even I've defended her a few times on here. But the last 2 - 3 months she's been intolerable. If she were to come back with an appology that's whatever - I'd have to see her be different for a while to believe it, though.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:324bab79-f4de-4656-b81d-283c295e8808">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: GBCK'd : I dont think this is a valid excuse to say disgusting things to people and then not even own up to what youve done. Ive been really struggling lately and I took a TK break rather than take out my issues on anyone else, BEFORE I said something stupid.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

You are totally right. I was talking about her GBCKing or temporarily GBCKing. That may be why she hasn't been back or apologized.

eastunder1 · March 2010

Blaming being a d*ckface here on RL personal problems is a total copout. Thats like when MrsE tried to blame her then-recent antics on a miscarriage. Gee, thats nice and all, but what is your excuse for the other 12 months?

Also, I don't hope babycakes leaves because of the P2 thing, I hope she leaves just because she farking annoying in general.

kikibaby · March 2010

And I just remembered that I'm not sure why I'm defending her, because she was an outright bitch to me for awhile when it was the cool thing to do. I had somehow forgotten that until now.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:fd7dc307-67cb-4ef4-a7e5-b441d5ede058">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]Kate, I think IRL she's probably too chicken to say stuff like that, but online where nobody can physically get to her she'll say anything she's thinking. Anonymity gave her confidence. I used to like her,<strong> I felt like she got a rough shake from some people, and even I've defended her a few times on here</strong>. But the last 2 - 3 months she's been intolerable. If she were to come back with an appology that's whatever - I'd have to see her be different for a while to believe it, though.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

Maybe, but I was soooo proven right. haha

squirrly · March 2010

Amoro - in gneneral on this one, yes.

I try to give people a lot of rope with which to hang themselves, though, ya know?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:3e5e6204-9fd7-4982-b67d-df3c9ab8b31c">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]Blaming being a d*ckface here on RL personal problems is a total copout. Thats like when MrsE tried to blame her then-recent antics on a miscarriage. Gee, thats nice and all, but what is your excuse for the other 12 months?
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

Well, if you don't like her, you don't like her. But I think the board was pretty divided between people who thought she was annoying and people who thought she was okay UNTIL the incident in FFF. Those who liked her would still be fine with her if not for that comment. And those who don't, just don't. Whatever. She doesn't necessarily need an excuse for her other behavior because it wasn't as terribly offensive as that one comment. Just annoying to some.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gbckd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c7b444e-6580-4631-bd95-76bf9d049d39Post:1a99f00d-a6a5-4554-be49-8f064623c444">Re: GBCK'd</a>:
[QUOTE]Amoro - in gneneral on this one, yes. I try to give people a lot of rope with which to hang themselves, though, ya know?
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

hehehe :D I know.

sarabellam · March 2010

(Chiming in late here) Yes, I met her Saturday afternoon. Had a lovely time, and I thought she was very sweet. I stayed out of the whole FFF thing, but I did find it rather amusing that every time Capri posted a page to those Atlanta Knotties about the GTG, P^2 always had some comment to make in the thread.

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