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LenaF
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Did you know when it was coming or what is a complete surprise?
LenaF
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I have a friend who knows the exact date that she's getting engaged. While I know some couples just know that's it's coming (like I did), did you know the exact timing of it? and Does it matter to you? Just curious as to what other people's opinions are! 
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Re: Did you know when it was coming or what is a complete surprise?
My fiance and I have been engaged since last March. I knew that he was thinking about it (he told me the Oct before that he was sure he was going to ask me, he just wasn't ready yet).
... I've overcome a lot of self esteem issues through the years but some remain - even though I knew it was coming - the shock was that he actually chose me (its late here, can't figure out the wording for what I want to say).
Funnily enough, the proposal itself was still a shock
He got really stressed in Feb... I knew something was up but he wouldn't talk about it. Finally he did... he'd been designing a ring for me but got worried I wouldn't like it, so wanted to run it past me - and in all honesty - it was beautiful, and the thought floored me... but it wasn't me. It was something he'd have to pay $3k for (!) so he decided to run it past me first. We agreed to go window shopping together then him pick something.
In March, he surprised me with the question, then we went ring shopping together the next day. I wouldn't change how any of it happened at all
We'd talked about it plenty of times before, but when it actually happened even he didn't know it was coming! lol He asked me all over again with a ring soon after- so I guess technically I guess I knew?
And the night he proposed, both of our families were there. And my little sister actually ended up guessing what he was going to do since it was the perfect opportunity. And yes, she was correct.
He bought the ring and talked to my parents in early February, but was waiting for the right time. It took til early March for him to find the right moment, and it was perfect. Apparently, though, and I didn't find this out til afterward, literally everyone in our lives knew about it before I did- my two best friends kept the secret for three weeks, which I know almost killed both of them. One actually avoided me for the three weeks leading up to the proposal because she was so scared she'd slip! All his friends knew, all my friends knew, our families both knew. I still can't believe everyone I know is so good at keeping secrets!
They way he did it though made it a complete surprise and I never would have guessed it was actually coming the day it did
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I was surprised with the proposal but I knew it would happen sooner or later. It was kinda funny because about 2 months before he proposed I got emotional and was like do you ever want to get married...I wasn't giving an ultimatum at all but I was just curious (we've been together for 5 and 1/2 years) and he told me after he proposed that when we were having that conversation he just kept laughing in his head because he had it all planned out. He also felt bad and wanted to tell me then but he's happy he didn't. He did it in his own way when he felt it was right.
I knew it was coming sometimes in the next several months (back when he asked, lol) and we were going away for the weekend, but I honestly didn't know for sure or anything... until as we're getting in the car to leave his parents and his mom tells me!!!
Yup, I kind of think she did it on purpose b/c she wanted to reveal the surprise herself... I was rather upset she ruined it being a surprise for me. The proposal was still beautiful, but the element of surprise was completely gone.
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p.s excuse my spelling if i missed spelled something... i am so so so so tired and my brain is not working
We had picked out the diamond and setting and I knew he had put a deposit on the ring but I wasn't sure when he was going to pay it off and pick it up. (In fact, one day he called me at work and was all mushy-gushy and I had no clue until he told me later, that during that call he was on his way to pick up my ring). We went to visit my parents and I knew he wanted to talk to them but I didn't know he had done so. We went out to lunch one day and I wondered if the proposal was coming but I decided "Nah." Then we start walking along a scenic spot and he starts hugging on me really hard and choking up and says he has something for me...and the rest is history :-)
Mine was a total surprise. I knew that eventually it would be coming. But the way he did it, I was amazed because he's not the kind of guy who wants to draw attention to himself.
We were at a close friend's house celebrating New Years. We were each doing our own thing, he was playing cards and drinking with his buddies, I was sitting with my girlfriends and eating and watching tv and drinking. Right before 11:30, my best friend had said to me "don't you think you should stop drinking?", and I gave her a look like "you're kidding right". Well, midnight comes and we're all hugging and kissing and everything, and then he gets everyone's attention, gets me to stand in the center of the room, and gets down on one knee. Well, I didn't even know what to think, I just started crying. He asked me to marry him, and of course I said yes. He had gone and told everyone he was going to propose at midnight and kept me out of the loop, so everyone knew what was going to happen. Happiest moment of my life, and started my new year off on the right track!
I did know the day it was coming because he had wrapped the box and took pictures of it every day for a week before my birthday. Then the night before my birthday he crawled in bed and said so are you ready to be a Mrs and handed me the box.
I wish I didn't know anything about it prior and I wish I didn't know where he hid it. But it was still cute and no frills which is me.
It was supposed to happen a month before but the weather didn't cooperate. I am glad when it did happen b/c we had a few days left of vacation to really enjoy the moment.
So to answer your question I knew it was coming but was surprised when it did.
Well apparently this was all just a plan to make me give up hope on getting a ring. Little did i know he had his own idea and was able to completly surprise me. && im glad he did.. because i normally HATE surprises!