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michellep1
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FI's Last Initial in Monogram?
I posted this on my month board, but the actual answer to the "bad etiquette or bad luck" question is still unanswered, so I thought I'd come here:
I've recently been playing around with monograms since I know it would take me awhile to settle on anything and I'm coming up with a problem. Our initials are 'M' and 'T', which when written "M&T" is the name of a bank. I know it may not be the first thing most people think of, but we are both in accounting and so are a substantial amount of the guests, so they would instantly think that. I've tried using our first names for a monogram, but mine is almost three times longer than his, so I always feel that it comes out looking unbalanced. I'm not really stuck on using a monogram at this point, but its becoming clear that the only way I like how it looks is with his last initial in the middle of our first initials.
I know it is somehow wrong to include his last initial in the monogram for any pre-wedding stationery, but I'm unclear if this is attributed to bad etiquette or if it is more of a superstition, bad luck kind of thing. If it is bad etiquette, can anyone tell me why it's considered rude? Thanks in advance for any information on this topic!
I've recently been playing around with monograms since I know it would take me awhile to settle on anything and I'm coming up with a problem. Our initials are 'M' and 'T', which when written "M&T" is the name of a bank. I know it may not be the first thing most people think of, but we are both in accounting and so are a substantial amount of the guests, so they would instantly think that. I've tried using our first names for a monogram, but mine is almost three times longer than his, so I always feel that it comes out looking unbalanced. I'm not really stuck on using a monogram at this point, but its becoming clear that the only way I like how it looks is with his last initial in the middle of our first initials.
I know it is somehow wrong to include his last initial in the monogram for any pre-wedding stationery, but I'm unclear if this is attributed to bad etiquette or if it is more of a superstition, bad luck kind of thing. If it is bad etiquette, can anyone tell me why it's considered rude? Thanks in advance for any information on this topic!
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Re: FI's Last Initial in Monogram?
The best thing to do is use first initials. And, although the initials might be the same as a bank, the design won't be the same, nor the colors, most likely. You can also include the date and location of your wedding to make it less like the bank, if you want.
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[QUOTE]Switch them around, our monogram before the wedding was M&E (or ME). So, our cake baker put my initial first (E&M). Just an idea! (T&M)
Posted by ekelly83[/QUOTE]
Your initial should be first. The woman's name/inital is supposed to go first because it's considered improper to separate a man's first and last names. You may prefer M&E or like the way your names sound with his first, but it's not proper in terms of etiquette. Just FYI.
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[QUOTE]If you're not using the last name, you're not separating it from anything.
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]
But the woman's name still traditionally comes first, to my understanding.
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I'm also from upstate NY, so I get the M&T reference, but really, they're common letters. I don't think it's a huge issue. It's not like your initials are S&M or XXX.
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