Would you miss it?

sjnsjnsjn · March 2010

Having just had a fabulous, mimosa-fueled brunch with my girlfriends yesterday, I have to respectfully disagree with those here who say Sunday afternoon isn't drinkin' time. I think, though, if most of your people wouldn't drink if it was available, then it's not worth doing a per-person charge for it. I would fight my venue on this a little, though, to see if they'll budge...

krspivey · March 2010

That's a very long reception, but I think there are 2 keys here:

-Be yourself. If you two don't drink or don't drink much at all, minimal or no alcohol is fine, as people will probably understand.

-Know your crowd. If you hang with lots of bar hoppers or alcohol fans, meet them in the middle. (Be yourself, but compromise/ be accommodating).

Because it's a sunday I think it's totally fine. We are doing champagne toast only despite the Friday Night event as 75% of our crowd rarely drink, and we will both be 20!

Plus, we are low budget, spending <$6000, so people should understand.

Good luck!

r2camero · March 2010

I think that this question is a matter of family. Is your family is packed with family members who have a long tradition of gin and tonics on a sunday afternoon or a love of the champagne toast, then of course you will want alcohol. However if your family doesn't mind a dry event then go ahead.

If I ever wonder weather or not something is appropriate I try to remind myself that a mariage is about the joining of two families above all else. So if you keep both sets of family values in mind then you will make the right decision.

[Deleted User] · March 2010

My favorite part of this whole thread is the phrase "social lubricant".

LoveWins88 · March 2010

No, I wouldn't miss it, but that's because I've never been to a wedding where alcohol was served. (my family is southern Baptist)

Being that's it's in the early afternoon, I don't think many people would drink heavily anyway. Something refreshing like champagne, mimosas, belinis, or sangria would be fine, but I don't think a full bar is really necessary.

bridgeeboo · March 2010

I would not miss it if it was a shorter reception, but if you would like people to be there until 9 pm, perhaps you can have a limited selection of wines available.

jayasolo · March 2010

Honestly, I think it's your call. We will at most have wine at our reception, and that will only be if we can afford it. Yes, many people have an open bar or some kind of alcohol at their weddings. But I think it's okay not to have it too if it doesn't fit into your budget. People are there to share your big day with you, not to drink free booze. In my opinion (and I do understand that some people would and will disagree with me), if they can't enjoy your wedding without free alcohol, then they have no business being there.

Rache Spoodeena · March 2010

I have attended about 25+ weddings since I could drink, and every single one had alcohol.

That said, every single one was on a Friday or Saturday night.

Personally, I would miss it, but that's because I enjoy having a drink in celebration. I would want at least wine to be available. I don't think I would want to get rip-roaring drunk on a Sunday afternoon, but a nice glass to say congrats would be great. When all is said and done though, I do not think it is necessary to provide alcohol just to please 6 out of 75 people.

To those who said they would leave after an hour or two after dinner (not necessarrily out of lack of alcohol but what would there be to do until 9pm), you'd be doing the same things you would do at a wedding on a Saturday night that DID have alcohol: dance, mingle, chat with friends and family, maybe play some games. Why would you leave shortly after dinner?

megers7 · March 2010

Nope and Im a drinker. Though, like the other brides, I doubt I'd stay until 9, maybe 6. The rule is the more you want people to dance, the more alcohol you provide. Champagne is great for an afternoon wedding. There are lots of combos you could add. Rasberry for Kir Royale, Peach for Bellinis etc. That should satisfy your 6. If the 6 are in the wedding party, give them flasks!

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