New Here (long)

bourgehm · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:1edc3c8c-4cb7-4d9b-a68b-387e7cfa7699">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe it's because the post are jacked up but I fail to see what set her off? Can anyone enlighten me?
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

Because, we're meanie butts. And no one gives advice and because we sit around wasting our time on here. Never heard new posters say that to us, right?
<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

I believe it was the save money for condoms. I would prefer my children over those two missed condoms any day. I guess if you are not a mother you don't understand. Oh and the other person who said they don't read blocks of text, esp. from new people. WTF? then why did you reply. The subject line says (long). This is probably to long too. I have enough stress to deal with. Not to fun to get online and deal with people bashing your choices to be a mother. Just my opinion:)

paintgirl · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:1edc3c8c-4cb7-4d9b-a68b-387e7cfa7699">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe it's because the post are jacked up but I fail to see what set her off? Can anyone enlighten me?
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

I told her to save the ring money and buy condoms. I thought it was a valid observation with 2 babies in less than a year... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

Apparently you are not the best at math. Because they are more than a year apart. I don't recall asking your advise on parenthood either.

bourgehm · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:e0b35a70-99ef-47e6-8fd6-b9cb010657c3">New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi all! My name is Sarah and my wonderful BF is Tim. We will be together for 5 years in May. We have two wonderful children 3 1/2 and 2 years old. We have been through a tough road and are finally on track. When I was just 18 we found out we were expecting our 1st child. Tim was a sophomore in college. Unable to make enough money to support ourselves we moved in with his parents when our daughter was 3 months old. I really wanted marraige and we had talked about it before DD was in the picture. We even looked at rings. Well we couldn't afford a wedding and BF wanted to do it right. It was also important for him to prove to others that he didn't marry me because he had to. He wanted to prove to my family and others that he loved me. When our daughter was 9 months old we were expecting our second. Long story short marriage has never been the right time. Finally last May BF graduated college, has a good job, we are out on our own, and we have a wonderful relationship. We have gone through a lot and learned so much about each other. Lately marraige has been on our mind again. Throughout the whole relationship I had questioned him as to when or if he ever wanted it. We have looked at rings a couple more times and I have gone by myself to make wishlists for rings and told him...Never resulted in anything. I've always pushed it and finally realized I don't want to push this. I want him to do it only if he wants to. He always said he wanted it and always said soon...Well that's hard to take when he has told me soon since our 2 year anniversary. Recently he brought it up. He said he finally feels ready and like he is in a good spot. He feels proud of himself like he is able to support his family. He is really big on making it a surprise and doesn't want to talk about any details. He tells me it's all planned and to wait until it warms up. Other than that he won't give any other hints of when or how the proposal will go.(which I admire<3) Of course I decide to try one last time with the ring thing so he has an idea of what I like. He agreed to go today after his Dad's birthday lunch. I told him I only wanted to go if he wanted to. He said he did....so today comes and lo and behold time runs short. Of course. I didn't say anything and when we got in the car he asked if it was ok to make a rain check for our ring date. He said he was sorry we ran out of time. I told him it was fine and that if he didn't want to look that was ok. I felt really stupid and I felt like it made me look desperate. He said he really did want to look and that he would make a special day of it for next Sunday. He wants to arrange for a babysitter and hit up every ring place. I just feel soooo crushed. He sounds sincere and he doesn't say things that he doesn't intend to do. I just felt so stupid for getting excited I guess. I don't know what to think. I feel like things will never happen. I'm done talking to him about it. <strong>Any thoughts...</strong>This is my intro/ vent. Thanks for anyone who made it this far in my post . ~Sarah~
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

Well, it looks like you DID ask for ANY thoughts. You didn't specify only thoughts pertaining to certain things.

paintgirl · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:ad146ee8-e0b8-4f5f-9c32-bd6753bd0020">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Apparently you are not the best at math. Because they are more than a year apart. I don't recall asking your advise on parenthood either.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

Oooooh, right.... Nine month old baby + nine months of pregnancy = 18 months. Because two "oops" moments in 18 months is WAY better.

Anyway, I thought you were going away?

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

I was. Ask your mom if you were an ooops. More people are an ooops than not. Who cares if they are an oops.

Sure I did say any thoughts. I just figured people were intelligent enough to realize it pertained to my relationship. Not my parenting.

paintgirl · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:8ef318c8-344e-49f7-8fed-e35b831baa5e">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE] Not my parenting.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

Didn't see any parenting comments...

Hang in there. Good luck. I'm sure he'll propose eventually. Men just work on their own schedule sometimes.

Better?

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

Ahhh thank you ladies. Much Better! I'm sure I'm not the only young mom on this board. If so then freakin congrats to those who didn't do it my way since apparently it's looked down upon.

ravenray · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:e613dc15-e062-4dc2-8697-fd3132c4cb14">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Ahhh thank you ladies. Much Better! I'm sure I'm not the only young mom on this board. If so then freakin congrats to those who didn't do it my way since apparently it's looked down upon.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
You know when we give you what you want and you shoot back with a snark comment does not help you at all....I don't think anyone looks down on you for being a mother. Maybe for having an accident but I don't think being a mother has anything to do with it. And no I am not saying that I look down on you....

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

no clue what JIC means?

ravenray · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:900958e1-a2af-42bd-8a6c-6acb27c25183">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]no clue what JIC means?
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
Just in case. If you decide to DD (dirty ditch) which means deleting your posts.

heyimbren · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:75fbbe05-8eeb-4300-9969-ac1a784a71d7">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]I believe it was the save money for condoms. I would prefer my children over those two missed condoms any day. I guess if you are not a mother you don't understand. <strong>Oh and the other person who said they don't read blocks of text, esp. from new people. WTF? then why did you reply. The subject line says (long).</strong> This is probably to long too. I have enough stress to deal with. Not to fun to get online and deal with people bashing your choices to be a mother. Just my opinion:)
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

Actually, that was Hetshup responding to my comment about Audgie's innuendo. She just didn't see where the innuendo was at first.

OP, I think you're overreacting a bit. You're generalizing an entire board into your perception of one post, which only had a few people reply in the first place.

Also, I don't believe the comment was about you having a child out of wedlock. I don't think there are that many people on this board that actually care about that. But correct me if I'm wrong.

bourgehm · February 2011

JIC = Just incase. (in case you delete your post, it's all there still so others who want to join in can read it and still respond)

TheMutleys · February 2011

You adviSe someone when you give them adviCe.

Advice is a NOUN.
Advise is a VERB.

Do we need a lesson on nouns and verbs? I am sure alot is a great teacher.

No one is bashing your 'choice' to be a mother. People are bashing your inability to use birth control. Huge difference.

P.S. I am a mother. And some of us KNOW how to use condoms.

P.S. 2.0 We plan on TTC when our son is 9 months old. However, we are married, own a house and are 29 and 32, respectively.

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

Well I still think it's very narrowed minded to look down on someone for having an accident. That's just my opinion. I'll never stop defending my choice to actually admit that it was an ooops and actually having and raising my child. I'm not a child. I do not need people picking fun at an ooops pregnancy. No child of mine is an accident. I gave u all the response you wanted. Which was a fight back. I hope you enjoyed. One thing you don't do is judge a mother for being a mother. Maybe that's not how u meant it but oh well. After all it is the internet.

paintgirl · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:ac4aec35-31c8-40da-b752-5798bcd3fc9a">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Here (long) : Also, I don't believe the comment was about you having a child out of wedlock. I don't think there are that many people on this board that actually care about that. But correct me if I'm wrong.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

Key words "A CHILD". Anyone can have an "oh sh&t" moment, but for crying out loud, learn from it and use modern technology (or stop having sex) to avoid another!

bourgehm · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:0b968c2b-56a9-4359-b936-66bc90c02ffa">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Well I still think it's very narrowed minded to look down on someone for having an accident. That's just my opinion. I'll never stop defending my choice to actually admit that it was an ooops and actually having and raising my child. I'm not a child. I do not need people picking fun at an ooops pregnancy. <strong>No child of mine is an accident.</strong> I gave u all the response you wanted. Which was a fight back. I hope you enjoyed. One thing you don't do is judge a mother for being a mother. Maybe that's not how u meant it but oh well. After all it is the internet.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

That's really good. They're not. However, you're still overreacting. You should have lurked a bit first and realized that if you responded like you did, then you'll get flamed. Take a deep breath. see, first people try to give you advice, then you freak and say we're all meanies, then obviously we'll react differently.

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

Once again not a child here. If I could do it over I would. Kudos to those of you who did it right. You should take pride in that. I take pride in my ways too. I woudn't delete my comments. You girls love gossip. Maybe you should take a trip back to high school.

Learn my lesson? Oh yes that children are wonderful and a blessing. I did learn my lesson. Didn't you read my other un-deleted post? I plan to have 8 more. Noun verb, who cares, if you can't read the context around it then you should take a hike back to school as well

You all are telling me that you have used bc every time you made love? Or have you had a few slip ups and just gotten lucky to not get pregnant when u were not planning it. My bet is that.

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

I don't see why you see having a child to be a lesson learned.

ravenray · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:0b968c2b-56a9-4359-b936-66bc90c02ffa">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Well I still think it's very narrowed minded to look down on someone for having an accident. That's just my opinion. I'll never stop defending my choice to actually admit that it was an ooops and actually having and raising my child. I'm not a child. I do not need people picking fun at an ooops pregnancy. No child of mine is an accident. I gave u all the response you wanted. Which was a fight back. I hope you enjoyed. One thing you don't do is judge a mother for being a mother. Maybe that's not how u meant it but oh well. After all it is the internet.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

Whether it's narrow minded or not, I think you are being narrow minded to say that we are all judging you. If you didn't want people saying things about it you shouldn't have put it in your post.... I don't remember asking for a fight back. In fact I purposely made sure my posts were kind and giving you what you wanted (advice). I don't think anyone on here is judging you for being a mother.... not at all.

SeaTea02 · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:cd227be8-252c-4124-901c-b84b40f6f68d">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Once again not a child here. If I could do it over I would. Kudos to those of you who did it right. You should take pride in that. I take pride in my ways too. I woudn't delete my comments. You girls love gossip. Maybe you should take a trip back to high school. Learn my lesson? Oh yes that children are wonderful and a blessing. I did learn my lesson. Didn't you read my other un-deleted post? I plan to have 8 more. Noun verb, who cares, if you can't read the context around it then you should take a hike back to school as well ;)<strong> You all are telling me that you have used bc every time you made love?</strong> Or have you had a few slip ups and just gotten lucky to not get pregnant when u were not planning it. My bet is that.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Not once. I guess you are just sloppy.

</div>

ravenray · February 2011

Maybe it's because the post are jacked up but I fail to see what set her off? Can anyone enlighten me?

ravenray · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:75fbbe05-8eeb-4300-9969-ac1a784a71d7">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]I believe it was the save money for condoms. I would prefer my children over those two missed condoms any day. I guess if you are not a mother you don't understand. Oh and the other person who said they don't read blocks of text, esp. from new people. WTF? then why did you reply. The subject line says (long). This is probably to long too. I have enough stress to deal with. Not to fun to get online and deal with people bashing your choices to be a mother. Just my opinion:)
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
I am sure you would, however you are aware that you posted that you got pregnent at 18.... So few people plan for that timeline so I can understand the others thoughts. It looks like an accident.... I know it's frustrating to wait to get married. Trust me I got together with my BF at 17 too and I love him to death. It's hard but mostly just focus on what you have in your relationship. You have kids and he has a job and he WANTS to marry you soon. Unless he is making excuses there seems to be no reason for you to freak out. I know it sucks to get let down but let it go and just be happy where you are. :)

TheMutleys · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:e0b35a70-99ef-47e6-8fd6-b9cb010657c3">New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi all! My name is Sarah and my wonderful BF is Tim. We will be together for 5 years in May. We have two wonderful children 3 1/2 and 2 years old. We have been through a tough road and are finally on track. When I was just 18 we found out we were expecting our 1st child. Tim was a sophomore in college. Unable to make enough money to support ourselves we moved in with his parents when our daughter was 3 months old. I really wanted marraige and we had talked about it before DD was in the picture. We even looked at rings. Well we couldn't afford a wedding and BF wanted to do it right. It was also important for him to prove to others that he didn't marry me because he had to. He wanted to prove to my family and others that he loved me. When our daughter was 9 months old we were expecting our second. Long story short marriage has never been the right time. Finally last May BF graduated college, has a good job, we are out on our own, and we have a wonderful relationship. We have gone through a lot and learned so much about each other. Lately marraige has been on our mind again. Throughout the whole relationship I had questioned him as to when or if he ever wanted it. We have looked at rings a couple more times and I have gone by myself to make wishlists for rings and told him...Never resulted in anything. I've always pushed it and finally realized I don't want to push this. I want him to do it only if he wants to. He always said he wanted it and always said soon...Well that's hard to take when he has told me soon since our 2 year anniversary. Recently he brought it up. He said he finally feels ready and like he is in a good spot. He feels proud of himself like he is able to support his family. He is really big on making it a surprise and doesn't want to talk about any details. He tells me it's all planned and to wait until it warms up. Other than that he won't give any other hints of when or how the proposal will go.(which I admire<3) Of course I decide to try one last time with the ring thing so he has an idea of what I like. He agreed to go today after his Dad's birthday lunch. I told him I only wanted to go if he wanted to. He said he did....so today comes and lo and behold time runs short. Of course. I didn't say anything and when we got in the car he asked if it was ok to make a rain check for our ring date. He said he was sorry we ran out of time. I told him it was fine and that if he didn't want to look that was ok. I felt really stupid and I felt like it made me look desperate. He said he really did want to look and that he would make a special day of it for next Sunday. He wants to arrange for a babysitter and hit up every ring place. I just feel soooo crushed. He sounds sincere and he doesn't say things that he doesn't intend to do. I just felt so stupid for getting excited I guess. I don't know what to think. I feel like things will never happen. I'm done talking to him about it. Any thoughts...This is my intro/ vent. Thanks for anyone who made it this far in my post . ~Sarah~
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:35fa1463-9376-4989-8278-6214715794ad">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Well thank you dear. I wasn't really asking for suggestions on how to prevent pregnancy. But if I need any help I know who to go to:) If you have any ideas on how to help me stay patient that would be great. Other than that I would appriciate if you could keep the "math" to yourslef
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:303a23e5-ec88-4117-8505-bcb1b57af2c5">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]What's all this about on top or on bottom? That's odd that the original post is in the middle of the screen. Let's see the highlights of our relationship.... I think I could write a book on it. When I met him it was instant love. I knew he was the one. We have helped each other to mature and grow together. We come from very different families. His family is very sheltered and dependent upon each other. My family is very goal achieving and supportive of whatever decision we make. Blending that together to find a happy median was tough. I'm thankful that we have had the opportunity to find that before marriage. I truly know what it's like to work on a relationship because we equally want it so bad. Not because we are afraid of a divorce. We've learned to listen to each other and take constructive criticism. Our passion for self improvement and companionship has made us so strong. At 17 and 19 I don't think we knew what is was that brought us so close. I'm happy to know that we will be walking into a marriage with this type of stability:) I know that had we gotten married long ago I would always wonder if it was for the right reasons. I'm just growing impatient. People around us are getting married left and right. People we know push the subject and ask about it. Though my BF knows how I feel I joke with people and say that I'll only marry him if he's good. I don't want them to know how bad I want it. I talked to him more tonight. He wanted to know if I was ok with what happened today. He insists that he would love to look at rings. He just doesn't want me to point at one and say that's it. He wants a wide selection of what I like so I will be surprised about what one he picks. I think that's cute. For the past week he has been signing country love songs..hehe...so funny to hear him walking around doing that. Did I mention he was raised a polite good ol country boy? Ugh. I feel so lucky to have. I'm just so impatient:/
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

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SeaTea02 · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:747b103e-677a-4a46-911a-34ca48df9654">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]paintgirl- That's a bit <strong>hilarious </strong>and <strong>so true</strong>.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

<div>There I fixed it. I was thinking the same thing. More proof that they should teach better sex ed in high school. </div><div>
</div><div>Then again it might have fallen on deaf ears since the FIRST baby she sqeezed out of her vag didn't help her learn.... </div><div>
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TheMutleys · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:552783bb-acff-4e3d-b8b2-3899be77419f">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't see why you see having a child to be a lesson learned.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

I said this earlier. No one is saying "OMG, your children are a mistake. You should have never had them."
PPs are saying "OMG. Why can't you learn how to use birth control correctly?"

Also, I find it interesting that you moved in with his parents and then were knocked up 6 months later. If you were truly having a hard time financially, you should have been extra, super duper careful. Nevermind the whole 'so in the heat of the moment that we forgot to use protection' thing while living there.

SaraBeth10 · February 2011

Oh jeez...don't you know by now. We are white trash un educated folks.

I think we'll move back in with the rent when we start on our gang of kids so we don't have to pay rent. I just luv gettin knocked up. Is that the right verb/noun?

hehe...woah ok ladies for real now. I'm gonna go. I'm really not into your kind of crowd. I just wanted some support:) I will go elsewhere now.

jilld82 · February 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-here-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:bc354a67-ce17-41ef-ad59-9d76b87ab7fbPost:0b968c2b-56a9-4359-b936-66bc90c02ffa">Re: New Here (long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Well I still think it's very narrowed minded to look down on someone for having an accident. That's just my opinion. I'll never stop defending my choice to actually admit that it was an ooops and actually having and raising my child. I'm not a child. I do not need people picking fun at an ooops pregnancy. No child of mine is an accident. I gave u all the response you wanted. Which was a fight back. I hope you enjoyed. One thing you don't do is judge a mother for being a mother. Maybe that's not how u meant it but oh well. After all it is the internet.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]

So these are all out of order but let me see if I am following...you had two babies a year and a half of each other and they are "oops" babies? hmm interesting.

bethsmiles · February 2011

I wish TK wasn't all screwed up so I could actually understand WTF is actually going on. Dang it TK! Your stupidness is making me miss out on all the crazy!

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