Being Judgey

nycrose2013 · April 2013

I know there are sometimes "I judge..." posts but I can't wait! I need to get this stupid thing off of my chest. I totally judge people who are dying to get married in a barn and are looking all over the place to find one. I thought this whole "rustic" "country" "burlap and mason jar" farm wedding trend arose from girls who, you know, grew up on farms. People who actually have big barns on family land and want to have a simple chic wedding close to home. Whenever I see a post asking for help finding a barn in so and so state, I get super annoyed. Why do you want to get married in the place where animals poop and sleep if you don't even have one meaningful to you??

I need to get off Pinterest.

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

My grandmother had a couple drive up to her property, HOP THE LOCKED FENCE, and walk up to her door. She answered with a shotgun. They managed to stammer out that they wanted to get married in a barn and were wondering if they could pay her to use her land/barn for the day.

She cocked the gun.

That's about how I feel about that trend, too.

TKzilla · April 2013

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[QUOTE]My grandmother had a couple drive up to her property, HOP THE LOCKED FENCE, and walk up to her door. She answered with a shotgun. They managed to stammer out that they wanted to get married in a barn and were wondering if they could pay her to use her land/barn for the day. She cocked the gun. That's about how I feel about that trend, too.
Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

<div>Your grandmother sounds like a BAMF.</div>

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : Your grandmother sounds like a BAMF.
Posted by CourtaniaLynn[/QUOTE]

<div>She could finish a Budwesier in a can, toss it in the air, and hit it with a shot from her pistol. Even 12 beers in. She was the coolest lady I knew.</div>

nycrose2013 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Being Judgey : Well you certainly are being judgey. Why do you care? Are these brides ruining the sanctity of your ceremony site?
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I'm getting married in a ballroom.

And yes, I am being judgey. Hence my post title. This trend has just been everywhere and smacks of insincerity/bandwagon-ing. I also dislike a lot of other little trends that create a false sense of "meaningfulness" that were culled from Pinterest.

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

Linger I just noticed your siggy quote.

nycrose2013 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : The trend of getting married in a ballroom smacks of insincerity/bandwagoning.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I see what you are trying to do. Only, ballrooms sort of exist to hold weddings. Always have. Barns hold animal poop. and hay. And as seen above, tractor parts. Its just a pet peeve

allychase · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Being Judgey : Well you certainly are being judgey. Why do you care? Are these brides ruining the sanctity of your ceremony site?
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Says the person who judges... EVERYTHING</div>

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : I see what you are trying to do. Only, ballrooms sort of exist to hold weddings. Always have. Barns hold animal poop. and hay. And as seen above, tractor parts. Its just a pet peeve
Posted by nycrose2013[/QUOTE]

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Peledreamsofrain · April 2013

I judge koozies. My mother loves them, but their texture squicks me.

NYCMercedes · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I judge koozies. My mother loves them, but their texture squicks me.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

But Pele, donchano, it's a Texas thing?

lyndausvi · April 2013

I do not judge barn weddings, I just don't get [what appears to be] a sudden love for them. My grandfather's smelled really bad.

AddieCake · April 2013

I don't judge the barn weddings, but I am sick of seing the word "rustic." And I hate the word koozie.

daria24 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : Actually, near as I can tell, Linger only judges incompetence, entitled attitudes, and behaviors that affect other people. You know, things that are WORTH the energy to judge. Did I miss any, Linger?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I believe you missed "people who turn to a wedding forum for medical advice."</div>

MuppetFan · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I judge koozies. My mother loves them, but their texture squicks me.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

That's another thing we mirror on. I HATE the texture of them omg. I also don't like the texture of trucker hats or the sound either makes if someone brushes against them. It makes my hair stand up. I thought I was just weird. Well...I am ...but I thought I was alone on that.

MuppetFan · April 2013

I think barn weddings can be beautiful.....in a barn that was specifically repurposed for the sole intention of events and no longer holds animals. We have a ton of those up here, but it's really expensive to rent them which makes me no longer understand the appeal of spending a ton of money for the appearance of rustic.

beautiflaw · April 2013

Barn weddings aren't my thing. Its not what I would choose for my own wedding, but who am I to say how other people can celebrate their love? I wouldn't. I don't care. I have better things to be worried about. If you are so offended by barn weddings, don't have one, and don't go to one.

Its sad that people can't celebrate their love in their own chosen way without being made fun of.

s-aries8990 · April 2013

I'm just mad because I wanted a Barn wedding before it was cool and now I'll be behind the curve instead of in front of it.

ETA: there was a specific barn venue, not just any ole barn.

glitterunicorn13 · April 2013

I don't understand the trend either. On the other hand, I also don't understand clear shoes I had to wear for someone else's wedding. They actually SHOW your foot getting all moist. UH NOOOOOOO....... Just because it is a trend doesn't mean it is understandable...

I guess there are a lot of things I don't "get".

bunni727 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I don't understand the trend either. On the other hand, I also don't understand <strong>clear shoes</strong> I had to wear for someone else's wedding. They actually SHOW your foot getting all moist. UH NOOOOOOO....... Just because it is a trend doesn't mean it is understandable... I guess there are a lot of things I don't "get".
Posted by glitterunicorn13[/QUOTE]

Those were really popular at my proms, and as a sophomore, I just had to get some. They are awful, and the most uncomfortable things I've ever worn. Never again. But mine did have pink ribbons that laced up my legs, so they were marginally more attractive than most.

I don't really judge any choice of venue, unless it's a huge pain for guests.

ETA: I guess I do judge a little when people who aren't religious seek out a church to get married in.

peekaboo2011 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I don't understand the trend either. On the other hand, I also don't understand clear shoes I had to wear for someone else's wedding. They actually SHOW your foot getting all moist. UH NOOOOOOO....... Just because it is a trend doesn't mean it is understandable... I guess there are a lot of things I don't "get".
Posted by glitterunicorn13[/QUOTE]

<div>I hope you aren't talking about these (<a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/marcelle/the-many-joys-of-jelly-shoes-82mt" rel="nofollow">click</a>). Because those were epic.</div>

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : I hope you aren't talking about these ( click ). Because those were epic.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]
<img class="bf_dom" src="http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/webdr02/2013/1/14/14/anigif_enhanced-buzz-24085-1358191203-1.gif" alt="The Many Joys Of Jelly Shoes" width="486" height="236" /><div>
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</div><div>I know what I'm searching on Ebay for tomorrow. I miss Jellies.</div>

peekaboo2011 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey : I know what I'm searching on Ebay for tomorrow. I miss Jellies.
Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

<div>I had jellies flats. Similar to these. Not as pointy.</div><div>
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PrettyGirlLost · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I know there are sometimes "I judge..." posts but I can't wait! I need to get this stupid thing off of my chest. I totally judge people who are dying to get married in a barn and are looking all over the place to find one. I thought this whole "rustic" "country" "burlap and mason jar" farm wedding trend arose from girls who, you know, grew up on farms. People who actually have big barns on family land and want to have a simple chic wedding close to home. Whenever I see a post asking for help finding a barn in so and so state, I get super annoyed. Why do you want to get married in the place where animals poop and sleep if you don't even have one meaningful to you?? I need to get off Pinterest.
Posted by nycrose2013[/QUOTE]

The barn venues for weddings are refurbished specifically for weddings and other events. They are clean, have fully functioning bathrooms, etc. At least many in my area are this way. They seem to be very pretty, and I have no problem with the idea or the look.

hgminor · April 2013

I don't judge the barn idea (its a pretty common thing in GA) though its not my cup of tea. I do judge all the burlap mixed with lace on Pinterest. Really, burlap, like for potatoes and sack races, is now the chic wedding fabric? Also, I don't see anything wrong with being judgey, whether its for pertinent things or superficial things. And judging a wedding, isn't that the whole point of the 4 weddings show?

glitterunicorn13 · April 2013

HECK NAW, I loved me some Jellies!!!!! They were the actual highlight of my 7th grade year... BUT I am talking about those "Cinderella" shoes, that are just sweat receptacles... sheesh.... OH THE HUMANITY....

Peledreamsofrain · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I think barn weddings can be beautiful.....in a barn that was specifically repurposed for the sole intention of events and no longer holds animals. We have a ton of those up here, but it's really expensive to rent them which makes me no longer understand the appeal of spending a ton of money for the appearance of rustic.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

I judge us both for being weirdly similar :P I call dibs on being the evil twin.

bunni727 · April 2013

This kind of thing is what I was thinking you meant:

358 × 360 - ifitshipitshere.blogspot.com

Mine looked like this, but hot pink:

glitterunicorn13 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]This kind of thing is what I was thinking you meant: 425 × 489 - fitnesscompetitionshoes.com 358 × 360 - ifitshipitshere.blogspot.com Mine looked like this, but hot pink:
Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]
YES, but the ribbon ones are super cool, though!!!

allychase · April 2013

In Response to Re:Being Judgey:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being Judgey:In Response to Re: Being Judgey : I believe you missed "people who turn to a wedding forum for medical advice."Posted by daria24I think that falls under incompetence. nbsp;: Posted by
StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Incompetence means lacking the power to perform. Asking for advice in the wrong spot does not incompetent make.

s-aries8990 · April 2013

Or lack of knowledge in a specific area. Like life! Thanks exhibit A!

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