I need opinions on a bad bridesmaid. The wedding is coming up in about a month and I've been having an issue with one of the bridesmaids. She hasnt attended ANYTHING that we have set up for the wedding. We are doing a special dance w/the bridal party (that she has no clue about), didn't attend the bachelorette party, invited people to the shower that I did not want there, because now they have to come to the wedding. Just picked up her dress (its been in since Feb) and now alterations need to be rushed. We've been trying to keep the bridal party in the loop about everything but shes always unavailable because of work or something (at the last minute) It's been a complete nightmare.
Do I just have to suck it up and keep her in the wedding? Or would it be rude flat out ask her if she really wants to be in the wedding? I have no idea what to do. What if she can't attend the rehearsal dinner or the other stuff we have planned over the next month?