Arrest made in Boston

Simply Fated · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : That actually made me emotional. Thank you for posting that.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]
<3 Our rivalry is strong, but our love and respect for each other's city is stronger.

In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : I think that fleece molded to his skin during Sandy. I have this awful image in my head now (that I cannot get out thank you very much) of Christie ready to rumble dressed in his suit pants and a sleeveless undershit.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
I just vomited in my mouth a little.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Hahaha that would have been awesome! <strong>Our mascots here in Baltimore aren't very scary but they sure would peck they crap out of you. </strong> But then again, Ray Lewis would sweep in and give our city (and whole country for that fact) the best pep-talk in the world!
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]
Our mascots are a giant baseball... and a duck names QuackerJack
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MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Here's another really great image, for those of you who haven't seen it.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

I loved it when I found out that all the MLB teams that had games last night all did a round of Sweet Caroline, a BoSox tradition.

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

Personally, I cringe every time I see the image posted in the OP. I find it crass, but that's just me. I understand why people are rallying around it and there are others that I like better. I may live out in the 'burbs now, but Boston is very much a part of how I identify and I used to live there. I get why Muppet posted it. However, I also get Stage's point. I personally don't see the point of posting it when there's news of an arrest. Not that there was one according to the FBI.

Lots of people are hurting right now in different ways. We all have different ways of coping. And it's not just Boston/MA residents. One of the people who died was a Chinese grad student. The Boston Marathon isn't just a Boston event. It's international. The winner was from Ethiopia. Just like 9-11 wasn't just a NYC incident. The planes took off from Logan and NJ. My uncle's best friend died on the plane. A close family friend switched her flight the morning of but hadn't told anyone and we thought she and her children were dead for over an hour.

So before we jump all over people from not being "from here", let's take a step back and remember that this isn't just "our" thing. And the minute we start making it about "us" and "them", we become less.

Stepping off my soapbox now.

GoofyAssChick · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Personally, I cringe every time I see the image posted in the OP. I find it crass, but that's just me. I understand why people are rallying around it and there are others that I like better. I may live out in the 'burbs now, but Boston is very much a part of how I identify and I used to live there. I get why Muppet posted it. However, I also get Stage's point. I personally don't see the point of posting it when there's news of an arrest. Not that there was one according to the FBI. Lots of people are hurting right now in different ways. We all have different ways of coping. And it's not just Boston/MA residents. One of the people who died was a Chinese grad student. The Boston Marathon isn't just a Boston event. It's international. The winner was from Ethiopia. Just like 9-11 wasn't just a NYC incident. The planes took off from Logan and NJ. My uncle's best friend died on the plane. A close family friend switched her flight the morning of but hadn't told anyone and we thought she and her children were dead for over an hour. So before we jump all over people from not being "from here", let's take a step back and remember that this isn't just "our" thing. And the minute we start making it about "us" and "them", we become less. Stepping off my soapbox now.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

I <3 BostonGirl4732!!

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

I don't think any of us are making it about "us" and "them". We are all well aware that more than just Boston was affected.

The image was one person's way of coping and has been rallied behind by a lot folks. It's not right for all and that's fine. But those that don't find it offensive shouldn't be lashed out at because of it.

MuppetFan · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Personally, I cringe every time I see the image posted in the OP. I find it crass, but that's just me. I understand why people are rallying around it and there are others that I like better. I may live out in the 'burbs now, but Boston is very much a part of how I identify and I used to live there. I get why Muppet posted it. However, I also get Stage's point. I personally don't see the point of posting it when there's news of an arrest. Not that there was one according to the FBI. Lots of people are hurting right now in different ways. We all have different ways of coping. And it's not just Boston/MA residents. One of the people who died was a Chinese grad student. The Boston Marathon isn't just a Boston event. It's international. The winner was from Ethiopia. Just like 9-11 wasn't just a NYC incident. The planes took off from Logan and NJ. My uncle's best friend died on the plane. A close family friend switched her flight the morning of but hadn't told anyone and we thought she and her children were dead for over an hour. So before we jump all over people from not being "from here", let's take a step back and remember that this isn't just "our" thing. And the minute we start making it about "us" and "them", we become less. Stepping off my soapbox now.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

Thank you for your post. I respect your position.

It was reported by CNN at the time I posted it. They backtracked that. I wouldn't have posted at all if I'd known it wasn't true.

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

Thousands are waiting for a suspect outside the courthouse right now. There's a bomb threat. I graduated with one of the reporters down there and he's posting to FB. I keep praying they are just going to catch who did this so the insanity can STOP!

MuppetFan · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Thousands are waiting for a suspect outside the courthouse right now. There's a bomb threat. I graduated with one of the reporters down there and he's posting to FB. I keep praying they are just going to catch who did this so the insanity can STOP!
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

I did feel a tremendous amount of satisfaction when it was announced that they had someone. I feel deflated now. Ugh.

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : I did feel a tremendous amount of satisfaction when it was announced that they had someone. I feel deflated now. Ugh.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

<div>You and me both. I'm working on reeling in my anger, because that's not going to help anyone, but it's seriously pissing me off.</div>

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Your posts today are seriously skyrocketing you in my mind. And, no, not just because you've agreed with me but because of how eloquently you express yourself and how you are fearless about going against the stream, no matter who is leading the charge. Keep doing what you're doing. Even when doing it crosses blades with me (and feel free to remind me that I told you this).
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Thank you. I just hate seeing the "us" and "them" mentality, which yes, is present in this conversation, even if it's subtle.

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GoodLuckBear14 · April 2013

Even with the full weight of the FBI and Boston PD and any number of other agencies (ATF, etc.) on this, it is going to take some time. They are not going to release any information to the press because it might shut down a lead. For all we know, they actually do have a suspect or two being questioned right now and just haven't arrested him (or her).

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : 1. I haven't seen anyone lash out at anyone. I have seen rather respectful differences of opinions exchanged. 2. Um, I think it was the "I may get flamed for this, but why should we care how anyone outside of Boston feels? It's OUR city and if WE are okay with it, why do other people's feelings matter" post that might have seemed to make it into an "us" vs "them" thing, along with some others.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

1. Ok, lashed out was the wrong word perhaps and I'll admit I don't know the right one, maybe it just felt that way.

2. Makes sense, but as I said when I posted that it was a devil's advocate question and that I had no desire to offend anyone or imply their feelings didn't matter, I was trying to get a full picture of why other's would find it offensive. Your various responses made me see from the outsider's perspective.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Thank you. I just hate seeing the "us" and "them" mentality, which yes, is present in this conversation, even if it's subtle.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

Maybe it is subtle, certainly not my intent. However, I'll bet dollars to donuts that NYC took a very similar "it's OUR city" attitude around 9/11. I'm not sure why it's so different that some Bostonians have that feeling either when it is OUR city that will have to deal with the aftermath in a more personal way than others.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Fair enough. I was just answering your question, I didn't mean to accuse you or anything.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

For the record, I often agree with everything you type around here. You are always well "spoken" with well thought out ideas and arguments. Me, not so much.

I'm really not trying to come off like a jerk in this conversation, I know how I feel right now and I'm trying to get a sense for others both around the country and in different areas here in Boston/MA feel.

BostonGIrl4732 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Maybe it is subtle, certainly not my intent. However, I'll bet dollars to donuts that NYC took a very similar "it's OUR city" attitude around 9/11. I'm not sure why it's so different that some Bostonians have that feeling either when it is OUR city that will have to deal with the aftermath in a more personal way than others.
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>They most certainly did and many still do. But it doesn't make it right. I recently got into a "debate" with a New Yorker friend about it. Bostonians died in 9-11 but I was told it wasn't "my city" so I didn't have the right to deal with it in a personal way. I'm sorry, but that's not right, nor fair. Look, I get it. I really and truly do. I was terrified calling my relatives the other day. My sister's phone was dead and she was supposed to be down there. She's a Suffolk student, so I had a panic attack trying to get in touch with her. She was on a hike instead, but I get it. This was personal. I've been on that street so many times. I've cross that finish line twice now for the Jimmy Fund Walk. It's very very personal, and I get wanting to deal with it in a personal way. And that's fine. But we have to remember that it's not just about us.

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MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : They most certainly did and many still do. But it doesn't make it right. I recently got into a "debate" with a New Yorker friend about it. Bostonians died in 9-11 but I was told it wasn't "my city" so I didn't have the right to deal with it in a personal way. I'm sorry, but that's not right, nor fair. Look, I get it. I really and truly do. I was terrified calling my relatives the other day. My sister's phone was dead and she was supposed to be down there. She's a Suffolk student, so I had a panic attack trying to get in touch with her. She was on a hike instead, but I get it. This was personal. I've been on that street so many times. I've cross that finish line twice now for the Jimmy Fund Walk. It's very very personal, and I get wanting to deal with it in a personal way. And that's fine. But we have to remember that it's not just about us.
Posted by BostonGIrl4732[/QUOTE]

I certainly agree with you that it isn't just about us, truly I do. There are people from all over the world who were affected by the acts on Monday. Yes, it is 100% more personal for Boston folks.

I guess the point I was trying to make is that we (general) are not wrong because we consider it OUR city. That doesn't mean telling others they don't count because they aren't from here; just that we are allowed to take back some of our own and our Boston pride in any way we see fit. (all pronouns are general)

I'm not sure that made any sense at all.

Simply Fated · April 2013

Dealing with a terrible tragedy is a personal thing, no matter where you are or how you were effected. If you don't like a person's method, look away.

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Maybe it is subtle, certainly not my intent. However, I'll bet dollars to donuts that NYC took a very similar "it's OUR city" attitude around 9/11. I'm not sure why it's so different that some Bostonians have that feeling either when it is OUR city that will have to deal with the aftermath in a more personal way than others.
Posted by kjhowd[/QUOTE]

I'll leave it to NYCers to say what they felt.

What I saw (on TV) though was a city that had an almost quiet dignity about this. A city that reminded everyone that it was an attack that killed thousands of people from more than 100 nations. I remember images like the firefighter digging in one spot because it would have been the last known place where his firefighter son had been seen. I remember the steel workers and iron workers coming down with their gear and waiting quietly before being given the go-ahead to pair up with firefighters to dig in order to make sure the metal did not recoil and kill any more first responders. I remember the photos of missing loved ones plastered on anything that did not move. I remember Guiliani essentially telling the Chief of Police who wanted him in a secure location to go to hell and that nothing was keeping him away from Ground Zero.

About a month later I saw the emotional release at The Concert For New York that aired on all of the stations. I saw the tears as first responders talked about those who were lost. The love the performers were giving to their first responder guests of honor. The joy (Spike Lee) and pride (Martin Scorcese) and humor (Kevin Smith) in the shorts that aired about NYC - and in the case of Smith the love/hate relationship between the City and Jersey. I remember a short that had people from across the country saying one line: "My name is ___ from ___ and I am a New Yorker." What I remember most of all was a NYPD officer named Moran: "Osama Bin Laden. In the spirit of the Irish people, you can kiss my royal Irish ass."

At the end of the day though, the message was clear: We are New York City and you will not keep us down. We will come back and we will come back better and stronger than ever before.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : See this statement? This is what people are talking about. And I think it's about people who are from Boston but were not directly affected (not saying this is you, I have no clue if you lost people or not) seeming to take more ownership than say someone from Iowa who was running and injured in the blast. The truth is that you (general you to Bostonians who did not personally know victims) will NOT in fact be dealing with the aftermath in a more personal way than the victims and friends and family who aren't from Boston. Or even really, than the runners who were directly behind the group when the bomb went off, who will likely forever wonder "am I going to die today" every time they approach a finish line for the rest of their lives. Again, not trying to accuse. Just offering the perspective that one who HAS lost friends and loved ones in a similar instance might have of the city residents who weren't directly affected but still claim some sort of ownership status and act self righteously to the outside world as if THEY are in similar pain. ETA: That is not to say that those Bostonians who didn't know someone at the finish line WEREN'T affected in profound ways. Just that it's different. In the same way that not being from Boston doesn't mean you weren't affected. Again, just differently.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

You are absolutely correct. All of us (country-wide) are affected by this. Each in our own way.

No, I was not personally affected by a loss or an injury; I cannot even imagine what that would be like. But I did have to worry about friends who I knew were at the race, several at the finish line area.

Those who were lost or injured (and their family & friends) are much more profoundly affected than I was, absolutely. My way of being affected is by being scared of going to work because my office is only a block from the scene, nervous of getting on the subway that takes me there.

I know you weren't accusing, but if I came across self-righteous in anyway it was not my intent. Nor do I think those that are claiming an ownership status are doing so with any malice. I think it is all just a "not gonna take this sh!t, city pride" thing.

As far as the bolded statement you quoted, I guess because I see it as a pride/coming together thing, I'm not sure why that feeling is wrong. I don't know anyone IRL, who has said that the world-wide community doesn't matter, this is only a Boston thing.

Again, I dont' know if I'm explaining clearly.

Simply Fated · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston: I will be sure to tell that to the grieving daughter on Saturday who expresses her dislike of the memes that go up on our FB feeds. I will let her know how wrong it is of her to be hurt by those.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
It is not wrong of her not to like the memes. Just show her how to block people on fb so she won't have to look at them. Send her my thoughts and prayers!

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston: I will be sure to tell that to the grieving daughter on Saturday who expresses her dislike of the memes that go up on our FB feeds. I will let her know how wrong it is of her to be hurt by those.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I don't think that's fair.

Not one of us who are "pro-meme", said everyone had to like them or accept them.

I, for one just didn't understand (until this discussion) how it could be offensive.

A PP said that you cannot judge the way someone copes with tragedy (whatever it is) and I agree with that. Perhap my way and the others who appreciate that meme are considered offensive and irreverant to some; perhaps the old Irish tradition of keening is offensive to others. Various family members and I spent a good portion of my grandmother's funeral quoting from the funeral scene in Steel Magnolias.

Simply Fated · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston : Everyone is entitled to experience and feel hurt and pain, especially after something like this. What I got from SF, and what I appreciated about it is that everyone does so in a different way.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
Thank you, Kristan! That was the point I was trying to make.

Memes, pictures, jokes... they aren't created to intentionally hurt anyone. Well, at least not in the case of the one the OP posted. If someone doesn't like them, that's their choice and that's absolutely fine. But to stop other people from expressing their emotions in their own way isn't fair to them.

stage, this isn't a pissing contest over who gets to be more upset with the winner getting to choose how the rest of the world copes with a tragedy. My heart goes out to that mother and everyone else, but not everyone is the same and not everyone reacts the same way to everything. No one should be forced to react just one way with all other ways stopping.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I don't think the sentiment is wrong, kjhowd. I just think the wording is a bit careless and dismissive. It's the difference in "We are Boston, and we are proud" vs "We are Boston and we are better than you." I am not saying that is the sentiment you are portraying, but the way that you actually talk about not understanding why the rest of the country matters in this equation comes across that way. It comes across as if anyone outside of Boston is just automatically not allowed to have an opinion or feelings about it. I really do think HOW things are phrased makes a huge difference in a situation like this. And again, my post was not even about those outside of Boston or an "us" vs "we" thing. It wasn't even from a place of personal judgement or emotion. It was literally a request based on a fierce desire to show respect to the victims by not doing something that could possibly make them feel worse rather than better.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Then I truly apologize because:

1. It wasn't that I didn't unerstand why the rest of the country matters at all. I know this is a international event. I wasn't understanding why something that I viewed strictly as a BOSTON (for Boston pride, for Boston/area citizens) rallying point (I have seen others that portray a better global viewpoint) was offensive.

2. It was never my intention that my phrasing come across at better than you (general). I absolutely was trying to portray the We are Boston We are Proud sentiment.

I realize now where the miscommunication, misunderstanding lies (I think). To me the meme that Muppet posted was local vs. global. I'm sure that sounds naive and maybe it is; but I had a very simple view of that meme.

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_arrest-made-in-boston?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:2d0f20ca-fa45-4f70-ada0-34c914a1f478Post:aa4a6c3a-cc15-460b-8a86-a8cf96955384">Re:Arrest made in Boston</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston : Also, when I went through a breakup, I coped by watching "Die Hard". My therapist thought it was unconventional, but liked that it was my way of expressing anger.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

And my coping mechanism was Matchbox Twenty.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_arrest-made-in-boston?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:2d0f20ca-fa45-4f70-ada0-34c914a1f478Post:63150cd8-bec3-4d35-8eca-1a9a3fd05799">Re:Arrest made in Boston</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston : WHACK OUISER!
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

My BMs actually did a Steel Magnolias themed bridal shower for me.

They made t-shirts and I had a red velvet armadillo cake.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston : That is EPIC. Was it in blush & bashful?
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

Everything was blush and bashful.

I had fried chicken made by Christian woman, I had ice tea, the house wine of the south.

They even photoshopped the move poster with all our faces in it.

And we had a pinata with Ouiser's face on it so we could all take a whack.

Simply Fated · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I was responding to the fact that everyone keeps saying "everyone has their own right to express themselves how they choose", which I agree with. But my point is that most of these statements were coupled with admonishments to me about my "judgement". And my opinion does not come from a place of judgement. It comes from a desire to protect. I never said it was a pissing contest, nor am I demanding that every one of these memes everywhere be taken down. I'm just pointing out that they can hurt others. And sure, others can turn away, and by all means keep dealing with your grief however you like. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't recognize how your public displays can affect others. I'm not saying don't make said displays. I'm just saying make them with your eyes open. <strong>Those who will post "Glad the F*cker is dead" memes involving a Sooner and a Cowboy brandishing syringes</strong> have every right to do so. And maybe it really truly does make them feel better. But personally, I can't imagine making myself feel a little bit better at the expense of making someone else feel ten times worse.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
<em>Who's</em> dying? I know what Sooner means... is this a sports thing, though? I'm not catching the reference. :(

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Who's dying? I know what Sooner means... is this a sports thing, though? I'm not catching the reference. :(
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

I think she was just making an example that you can make memes of whatever you want, but it doesn't mean others won't find it hurtful.

(and yes, I think it's a college football reference).

misshart00 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Arrest made in Boston : Who's dying? I know what Sooner means... is this a sports thing, though? I'm not catching the reference. :(
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

I think this was an OKC reference as those are our two large universities and the Murrah bomber was put to death using lethal injection. However, I've never actually seen the meme she's talking about.

MrsMack10612 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Arrest made in Boston : And did they tear the heads off the shrimp and everything? Oh I hope nobody dropped a contact. And I also hope their tinsel wasn't down around their knees.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

Sorry - I realize we've just threadjacked what was a very serious discussion.

Shrimp, yes.

I think the contact and that were about the only movie references they didn't include.

The favors were the plastic champagne glasses that come in two parts, with little purses, candy and nail polish.

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