How do I tell people to leave the celebrities alone at our wedding?

asababee1970 · April 2013

I am trying to carefully write a note for guests on our website about leaving celebrities who will attend alone. My Fiance has invited a number of celebrities who said yes. My guests are not use to that and I want to politely warn them that the celebrities are attending as friends not to be hounded for pictures or autographs. How do I write that??? I do not want to sound like a bridezilla.

ravenray · April 2013

"Please do not feed the Celebrities"

mlg78 · April 2013

I think it sounds quite presumptuous.

Will there be someone doing security at your wedding due to alcohol being served? Let them know and if they see someone being a pest, that person can intervene.

annmarie714 · April 2013

A mature individual knows when it's appropriate to approach someone. At a private/personal party such as a wedding, I would hope people can act as adults. Don't put anything on an invite/website/etc. That's just as tacky as "Cash gifts only".

The only exception I have to this would be me seeing Channing Tatum at a wedding. All rules go out the window for Chan.

Viczaesar · April 2013

You don't.

Simply Fated · April 2013

I promise you, any selfrespecting down to Earth celebrity would be MORTIFIED to see such a note on a wedding website. I mean, if they're just like everyone else, why point out their differences and draw attention to them, ya know? I mean, you're basically just ostracizing them. If they are a attention seeking snots, then they wouldn't want such a note on there, anyway, because they'll want people coming up to them.

fionahalliwell · April 2013

It's like when my cousin drew attention to the fact that I was too young to drink during her bachelorette weekend (the MOH said something like "once everyone gets wine" and my cousin jumped in and said "well, not everyone. They aren't old enough to drink!")...totally embarrassing and completely unnecessary. No need to call attention to something everyone knows.

If there's some specific situation you're concerned about (like, I don't know, if Justin Bieber is coming and all of your pretween cousins are going to be there), maybe mention it quietly and privately. But honestly, if your FI and this celeb have a good enough relationship that the celebrity would take time out of his/her busy schedule for your wedding, don't you think that person would be nice enough to gracefully handle fans during the wedding? I'd certainly hope so; poor behavior from the celebrity would almost be worse in certain circumstances.

melb2013 · April 2013

Like PPs have said, you don't. Ignore it. They will know how to handle themselves because this is their daily lives. I've been in social situations with several musical celebrities and they all understand and appreciate the attention. That whole "I'm just a person and I want my privacy" bit is just that... a bit. They are nothing without fans and most fully understand that.

Nobody's gonna go crazy, but they may ask for a picture or an autograph and your celebrity friends will be happy to oblige, I'm sure.

tiny speck · April 2013

Yep, don't do anything. No need to draw more attention to some of your guests. Think of them as guests first, not celebrities.

Summer2011Bride · April 2013

Don't do or say anything. It will only draw more attention to them, which is what you're trying to avoid. People should know how to act when at a wedding and on the flip side, celebrities will know how to handle people fawning over them (if they do).

AddieCake · April 2013

You know what's fun? The Tilt-a-Whirl at carnivals. It's my favorite ride ever.

lyndausvi · April 2013

wouldn't annoucing the celebrity is coming actually draw more attention to them? If I knew a celebrity was coming I think I would look around to see where they are, what they are wearing just general curiousity stuff? If I didn't know they would be there I might not even notice them at first or at all.

I would think preparing them for the celebrity actually makes it worse. Say your celebrity is a music producer I could see someone handing them a cd of their music. Or a guest bringing a script to an actor. Or head shots to producer.

blueikaos · April 2013

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[QUOTE]You know what's fun? The Tilt-a-Whirl at carnivals. It's my favorite ride ever.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

Love this!

Am I the only one interested to know which celebrities will be there?
ha.

and I agree, all composure would go out the window for Channing. Gerard Butler, Kenny Chesney and Blake Shelton. :)

misshart00 · April 2013

Just another reason not to mention it: I don't know how many celebrities you plan on bring there, but what if something comes up and they can't make it? Then people will wonder about the note on your website and think you were just trying to look good.

nycrose2013 · April 2013

If you are friendly enough with these celebrities to invite them, and have them agree to attend your wedding, then I assume some of your friends and family also know that they may be there. They will likely be expecting the celebrity to be there and as such won't act shocked or thrilled, etc. Hopefully they will just act normal. I also find your phrasing kind of weird; are these people actually friends of yours? Business associates?

Anyway, not something to really worry about. Trust your guests to act like adults

TKzilla · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I tell people to leave the celebrities alone at our wedding? : Love this! Am I the only one interested to know which celebrities will be there? ha. and I agree, all composure would go out the window for Channing. Gerard Butler, Kenny Chesney and Blake Shelton. :)
Posted by blueikaos[/QUOTE]

<div>No, I want to know, too. Mostly because I think this story is MUD.</div>

TKzilla · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm related to an Olympic gold medalist (he evidently hogged all the athletic skills in our gene pool- I got none) and my wedding was just before last year's summer games. He is used to people getting star struck and acting like goobers around him. He knows how to politely deal with fans. I imagine that your famous guests will have similar skills. Nobody bothered my cousin at our wedding, for the record. ETA: We also had like a sub-D list reality show cast-off on our guest list (another of my million cousins), he wanted to be fawned over but nobody knew who he was.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

<div>Okay, I'm dying to know who your sub-D-list celebrity relative is LMAO also, wtf is the sub-d-list?!</div>

s-aries8990 · April 2013

Put up a lawn sign.

AddieCake · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I tell people to leave the celebrities alone at our wedding? : I love your randomness. My favorite carnival ride is The Zipper.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]
Thank you! I've decided to deal with ridiculous sh!t by contributing my own ridiculous sh!t to it. <div>
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harper0813 · April 2013

It sounds like a plot to get people to come to / talk about one's wedding.

I know a recently married person who is related to a decently well-known celebrity with sort of a cult following. This person listed on the website that the celebrity would be attending so please do not bring cameras. HUGE eyeroll. People took pictures of the wedding anyway (and very few pictures of the celebrity) and posted them all over Facebook - I think they took more than they would have had this instruction not been on their website.

ETA: Dying to know who these celebrities are, if this isn't MUD.

beachbum7212 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I tell people to leave the celebrities alone at our wedding? : I love your randomness. My favorite carnival ride is The Zipper.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

Haha is that the Ocean City zipper? That's my favorite too

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

Careful guys, she might get upset and head over to the Bee.

The zipper is a death trap. I rode it once at the NY State Fair (one of the ones where you could tell that it was just set up that day). I was terrified the thing was just going to collapse on itself and my *steel cage was going to strain me like making pasta.

So I rode it three more times.

* That cage was absolutely not steel.

AddieCake · April 2013

I will never park my arse in the Zipper. That thing looks way too scary! The older I get, the more afraid of things I am.

beachbum7212 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Careful guys, she might get upset and head over to the Bee. The zipper is a death trap. I rode it once at the NY State Fair (one of the ones where you could tell that it was just set up that day). I was terrified the thing was just going to collapse on itself and my *steel cage was going to strain me like making pasta. So I rode it three more times. * That cage was absolutely not steel.
Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

The worst thing is wearing flip flops...those things turn into missiles. Also I think I had the opposite fear, the one in Ocean City MD is like a thousand years old and I always picture my little zipper flying into the ocean

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I tell people to leave the celebrities alone at our wedding? : The worst thing is wearing flip flops...those things turn into missiles. Also I think I had the opposite fear, the one in Ocean City MD is like a thousand years old and I always picture my little zipper flying into the ocean
Posted by beachbum7212[/QUOTE]

<div>I about spit my coffee out. Thanks for that. I wore flip flops when I rode it too. My toes were sore from gripping them so hard. The second time I just put them in the back of my shorts. Haha.</div>

T42n24T · April 2013

I did not read every comment, so I apologize if this has been said:

I would put nothing in writing about this anywhere. If you are concerned about any guests in particular being starstruck, I would mention to them in person (not texting, email, facebook, etc) that celebrities will be attending and to please not pester them. I would assume, though, that most adults know better and most celebrities know how to handle themselves in these situations.

kerbohl · April 2013

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[QUOTE]I will never park my arse in the Zipper. That thing looks way too scary! The older I get, the more afraid of things I am.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

I've heard too many stories of people throwing up in the Zipper. I rode it once, but it was so long ago, I only have vague memories.
The tilt-and-whirl is pretty awesome, but there was another one that my friend and I really liked that was similar, and I'm blanking on the name . . . gah!

kmbryant2413 · April 2013

It just dawned on me - Did no one else think of this when reading this thread?

kerbohl · April 2013

OP, I heard a story last week that might help - like seriously, it starts off random, but I'll relate it, just give me a bit.
There was a fancy hotel that was built right on the ocean. After it was ready to be open for business, the hotel managers got worried that people would fish off the balconies over the ocean, so they put up "Absolutely no fishing off the balconies" signs in every room. But no guest regarded the signs, so they fished so excessively off the balconies that fishing lines were getting tangled, fish were slapping against the windows of the restaurant on the floor level while people ate. . .
Until one manger suggested taking down the signs that said "no fishing". And the activity almost completely stopped.
(I do not recall if this story was supposed to be factual).
My point is, if you don't draw attention to what guests shouldn't do, it might not even enter their minds to do it, since they are at a wedding and should understand proper behaviour. I think you should be fine without saying anything.

ErinElizabethR · April 2013

Unless it's a celebrity everyone knows like Johnny Depp, I don't think anyone would notice, they're all going to be looking at you and your husband. You still shouldn't put it in your invitations even if Johnny Depp attended your wedding. If you mention celebrities in your invitation everyone will know and be more likely to bother them. Besides adults should know better than to bother other people while they're eating and relaxing, celebrities are off the clock at your wedding.

AddieCake · April 2013

It would be hilarious if these celebrities turned out to be like local news anchors or something.

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