Hi Ladies- hope you don't mind my intrusion from The Bump boards, but I figured I might get more feedback over here.
Some casual friends of DH just emailed and asked if our son (2.5 yrs old) could be a ring bearer in their wedding this October. In the email, they told us he would need to arrive early for photos, ceremony at X time, and then we could all plan to leave at Y time- strongly implying we are NOT invited to the reception. I don't think they have any young boys in their family, and am assuming that they're asking us because we're the only people with a young son that they know. We're not very close to them and I would have been surprised to get a wedding invitation at all.
Do I need to come right out and ask the bride if we're invited? I feel kind of ridiculous needing to ask, but her request seems kind of ridiculous to start with... Also, we will have a young infant- about 1.5-2 months old at the time of the wedding. Not sure if I need to mention that to her now and explain that our family is kind of an "all or nothing" deal at that point, because I won't be leaving such a young breastfeeding infant with a sitter, and DH wouldn't take DS without me. What do you think? Ask my tacky questions and get this settled now, or agree to let DS participate and hope they handle things properly when the time comes? I have nothing against child-free weddings, but think you're not entitled to a child-free reception once you start including kids in the bridal party......