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Question for you Ladies :)

Just a random question since I'm bored on my night shift at work (i'm a NICU nurse and all my babies are happily asleep at the moment Smile)

For those Married/engaged ladies, how long did you know your guy/gal before you got engaged?

For those who are not, how long have you been dating?
I've been dating my guy for 8months and he's recently started to hint about engagement. Just thought i'd see what time period other couples had Smile

 

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  • We will be together 3 1/2 years next week.  We got engaged 3 weeks ago.

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  • We've been together about 4 1/2 years.


  • We had been dating for over 3 years when we got engaged.  
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    We've been together just over a year.  Our timeline is to get engaged in the next 2-3 years.

    ETA: We've known each other for about 10 years - I knew him and his exGF in high school, we were all on Model UN together.
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  • We got engaged after dating for a year. We got engaged almost 2 months ago on the 15th.
  • We had been together a little over 4 years when we got engaged. We'll be a month shy of 6 years together when we get married next month :)

    I "knew" him for 4 years before we started dating. As in, I knew he existed. We never spoke to each other or hung out in that time period. 



  • I'm NEY, we've been together for over two years, we're getting engaged this year.

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  • We were together for 3 years and 2 weeks before we got engaged, we got married 8 months later.
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  • We had been together over 5 years before we got engaged last May. Our wedding this June will be almost exactly 6 1/2 years since we started dating.
  • Dating wise a year before we got engaged. We ran in the same social circles so I knew of him nd we talked now and then 1 year before.
  • I'm NEY, and we've been together 2 years and 2 months.
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  • We've been dating for almost 7 months. And I've known him about 8 months. 

    We have briefly, vaguely discussed marriage. As in he actually said "If this keeps going the way it's been going, I would love for you to be my wife someday."

    But other than that, we haven't really discussed it or set a timeline or anything really. We're just enjoying being together :)
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  • edited April 2013
    FI and I dated for 16 months before he proposed. We were acquainted with each other for five years before that, but only hung out occasionally. My parents were together for seven years before my dad proposed. And my boss dated his wife of 28 years for four months before proposing to her. The point there being relationship timelines can vary greatly, and whatever pace the couple decides to move at is the best pace.
  • extremely close friends for a few years.
    dated a little bit, broke up for a few months.
    dated seriously for 8 months, got engaged.
    engaged 8.5 months.
    married a little more than 1.5 years.
  • We dated 5 years and 3 months (to the day) before we were engaged.

    Our wedding date is 6 years and 5 months from our first date.

    Technically we went to high school together, but didn't really get to know each other until after college so we've "known" each other for like....6 years or so.  At least knowing each other semi-well.

    My parents dated for 7 years before they got married and then waited 9 more years to have kids.  They're still together 36 years later, so I wasn't really worried about rushing things.  And I'll punch someone in the face if they ask when I'm having kids after we get married, haha.  including facebook :)
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  • We met 7.5 years ago and started dating 4.5 years ago. We were friends for about 6 months or so before we started dating. Well, that's when I consider that we became friends - he probably thinks we were friends before that. (He was an okay person, I just didn't think we were close enough to be friends.)

    My parents dated for about 2 years before they got engaged; they were engaged for a year, got married, and waited 4 years to have kids.
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    [QUOTE]We've been dating for almost 7 months. And I've known him about 8 months.  We have briefly, vaguely discussed marriage. As in he actually said "If this keeps going the way it's been going, I would love for you to be my wife someday." But other than that, we haven't really discussed it or set a timeline or anything really. We're just enjoying being together :)
    Posted by kelley198721[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>I like how you said you are just enjoying being together. My friends are all married and have weddings on the brain and always asking me when my Love will propose. I tell them that I'm just so happy where I am. First relationship that it feels like that, content :). </div>

     

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    [QUOTE]FI and I dated for 16 months before he proposed. We were acquainted with each other for five years before that, but only hung out occasionally. My parents were together for seven years before my dad proposed. And my boss dated his wife of 28 years for four months before proposing to her. The point there being relationship timelines can vary greatly, and whatever pace the couple decides to move at is the best pace.
    Posted by formerlyCooper[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>I totally Agree :) Its so individual, as I can see from everyone's posts <img style="font-size:11px;" src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /> Its cool to see such a range. </div>

     

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  • We dated for not quite two years before we got engaged last December.  Our wedding is in August and we'll have been together 2 1/2 years by then.

    That being said, I really don't think other peoples timelines have any correlation to ours.  My grandparents knew each other 3 weeks before they got married and were married for over 50 years.  My parents also got engaged fast.  They had been dating for 2 months when they got engaged and have been married for 37.   If I had compared my relationship to either of theirs I would be in big trouble.
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  • We've been best friends for nearly 20 years, dating for almost 2 years, and NEY.

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  • I met my BF on our first date (we "met" online) 15 months ago.  We have talked about getting married within the next year but no proposal yet.  He is moving in with me next month.

    I'm trying to be patient, but it isn't quite working.  lol
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  • Belle2188Belle2188 member
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    edited April 2013
    We've been dating about 3 1/2 years and we just started ring shopping a few months ago.  He's planning on a late Spring proposal (or at least that's what he tells me...unprovoked!), and we've discussed a 2 year engagement to save up/get ahead, so we'll be looking at about 5 1/2 years together by the time we get married.

    Like PPs have said, it's really individual.  We're pretty much ready now in the emotional sense, but we have other things we want to accomplish beforehand, mainly career-wise and financially, so we feel as though as long as we're together and we're happy, the actual marriage can wait until we're ready in all aspects of our lives :)
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  • We got engaged 2 years and 2 months in and married a year to the day after that. We're coming up on 5 years together in July (whoa!).

    While this would make a very interesting scatter chart (I obviously use Excel too much), I think there are just so many factors that go into relationships that you can't really judge by other people's timelines.
  • We had been dating for 4 years and 4 months when we were engaged then married 6 months later.
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    [QUOTE]We had been together a little over 4 years when we got engaged. We'll be a month shy of 6 years together when we get married next month :) <strong>I "knew" him</strong> for 4 years before we started dating. As in, I knew he existed. We never spoke to each other or hung out in that time period. 
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    <div>I was hoping you "knew" him in the biblical sense. </div><div>
    </div><div>OP, FI and I were together a little more than two years when we got engaged. When we get married next weekend, it'll be 3.5 years. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question for you Ladies :) : <strong>I was hoping you "knew" him in the biblical sense.</strong>  OP, FI and I were together a little more than two years when we got engaged. When we get married next weekend, it'll be 3.5 years. 
    Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]

    <div>Girl, you know I don't do religion! I don't even know what that means!</div>



  • I broke up with my ex of 9 years in September of 2011 - obviously I had been hoping for a proposal long before it got to the 9 year mark and it was the hardest decision of my life.  Granted, he was promising we would be getting engaged soon.  A month after breaking up, I met my fiance.  We started dating around Thanksgiving of 2011 and a year later he proposed.  We are getting married in September of this year.  

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question for you Ladies :) : Girl, you know I don't do religion! I don't even know what that means!
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    it means you guys got it ON, rdr!  ;)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question for you Ladies :) : it means you guys got it ON, rdr!  ;)
    Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

    <div>Bow chicka wow wow!</div>
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  • We got engaged after 15.5 months and our engagement period will be 9 months exactly. Our wedding date will be a week before the date we met 2 years ago.
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