Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn..... :D

ravenray · May 2013

OP you acting crazy and are BSC. You win the crazy award of the year. What serious adult counts in months not years when they have been dating over a year?? I don't understand. I don't understand at all.

CLoGreenEyes · May 2013

Holy sh!t. It's like NEY exploded while I was at work.

OP. You said that your daughter met your BF over two years ago, and that you introduced him as "just a name." If I am reading your post correctly, since that time he hasn't become anything more than just that name, not even a friend or a date or anything.

Don't you think you might want to let her know what's going on? Or will it be a surprise when her mom picks her up one month unmarried and then shows up next month all freshly hitched?

I'm trying to be polite, but the way you are posting about this sounds very glib and it is upsetting to me. It is one thing, in my mind, to have a dress before becoming engaged. But to have all this stuff in your sights when your daughter apparently hasn't even been told you're dating? That's just wrong.

Swazzle · May 2013

I leave for a few days and look what happens! Sheesh.

beanbot2002 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]Hahahahaha! Bean I have mssed you sooooooo much!
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I miss you, too! xoxoxo

renegade gaucho · May 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm still wrapping my head around why you would MARRY someone instead of just ADDING THEM TO THE APARTMENT LEASE? You thought they wouldn't care if you were married? But, but, but..... Nope. My brain just kicked that shvit straight back out. It refuses to hold it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I seriously cannot stop laughing at this! And OP's brain apparently hasn't developed any further since she was 19.

MayberryAfterMidnight · May 2013

ETA: I can't with this.

Peledreamsofrain · May 2013

I'm placing a cool 50 that crack is involved. Anyone wanna match and raise?

Stina51286 · May 2013

Also, look at this, OP models in front of her web cam in her veil and most likely her dress too. http://www.theknot.com/profiles/p0tt3rgl33k/mymedia/album/browse/3501635?filter=ShowOnTK~True

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

oh wow... Well, I guess this is what I get for posting here... All I wanted was a simple welcome. Maybe a how are you doing?... and instead I get a bunch of catty remarks from people who could never understand my life if they tried. But hey... just for fun... I shall try once more...

My Dob: 9/84

Married: 8/05

child born: 6/08

left husband: 9/10

met bf: 1/11

put in divorce papers: 9/11

found dress/alteration: 11/11

divorce final: 2/13

Present day.....

I thought that my divorce was going to go smoothly (the only thing we were waiting on was him to take the parenting class - which he never did- as I wanted us to have joint custody)... but then my ex flipped on me, hired a lawyer, and accused me of beating him and my daughter, along with being an unfit parent and neglecting her. It was untrue, but every time I tried to do something about it, it was thrown back into my face with the lawyer ( and his mom, who hates me). So, I gave in. It wasn't a judge who decided things.... it was both of us. Btw, one part of the plan is that every two years, it will be revisited and I will be given more time.... and my ex can trust me again. I was sick of fighting... and I knew that my daughter was going to be fine there... Happy and content and not want for anything. That is why I gave in. I wanted the fighting to stop... I wanted to get back to the days when my ex and I could get along great (and we are).... I can still send her things in the mail, I can call her... I can send her videos via internet, and she has sent some back.

Yes, I miss her, but this is for the best. No child needs to see their parents arguing.

Since my daughter is almost five, there wasn't a need to say this is mommy's friend. It was just ****. Just a name.... Since I know that she already has a daddy, I did not want to confuse her.

and again..... I like couting in months... I was miserable with my ex.... and every month with my guy is amazing.

oh, yeah.... TWILIGHT SUCKS.....

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

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[QUOTE]Also, look at this, OP models in front of her web cam in her veil and most likely her dress too. http://www.theknot.com/profiles/p0tt3rgl33k/mymedia/album/browse/3501635?filter=ShowOnTK~True
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

and not the dress.... It was just a tube top because my dress is strapless.

Stina51286 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]oh wow... Well, I guess this is what I get for posting here... All I wanted was a simple welcome. Maybe a how are you doing?... and instead I get a bunch of catty remarks from people who could never understand my life if they tried. But hey... just for fun... I shall try once more... My Dob: 9/84 Married: 8/05 child born: 6/08 left husband: 9/10 met bf: 1/11 put in divorce papers: 9/11 found dress/alteration: 11/11 divorce final: 2/13 Present day..... I thought that my divorce was going to go smoothly (the only thing we were waiting on was him to take the parenting class - which he never did- as I wanted us to have joint custody)... but then my ex flipped on me, hired a lawyer, and accused me of beating him and my daughter, along with being an unfit parent and neglecting her. It was untrue, but every time I tried to do something about it, it was thrown back into my face with the lawyer ( and his mom, who hates me). So, I gave in. It wasn't a judge who decided things.... it was both of us. Btw, one part of the plan is that every two years, it will be revisited and I will be given more time.... and my ex can trust me again. I was sick of fighting... and I knew that my daughter was going to be fine there... Happy and content and not want for anything. That is why I gave in. I wanted the fighting to stop... I wanted to get back to the days when my ex and I could get along great (and we are).... I can still send her things in the mail, I can call her... I can send her videos via internet, and she has sent some back.

Yes, I miss her, but this is for the best. No child needs to see their parents arguing. Since my daughter is almost five, there wasn't a need to say this is mommy's friend. It was just ****. Just a name.... Since I know that she already has a daddy, I did not want to confuse her. and again..... I like couting in months... I was miserable with my ex.... and every month with my guy is amazing.

oh, yeah.... TWILIGHT SUCKS.....

Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

I don't believe any of your story. Who just stops fighting to see their kid? Any parent in their right mind wouldn't.

The simple welcome you wanted, that doesn't happen here if you don't lurk and post something as stupid as you did also.

GoldenPenguin · May 2013

I don't buy it. You don't just "give in" and let your psycho, lying ex take your kid because you "were sick of fighting." No child deserves to see their parents arguing - but all of that should have been done in front of a judge/lawyer without the child present. Your ex is accusing you of neglect and abuse - you fight tooth and nail to prove them wrong and get custody of your child. Also, I'm questioning YOUR sanity as well, because there is no way in holy HELL I would be able to "get along great" with a person who accused me of neglecting and abusing my child and then took her away from me.

The maturity level ASTOUNDS me.

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: I don't believe any of your story. Who just stops fighting to see their kid? Any parent in their right mind wouldn't. The simple welcome you wanted, that doesn't happen here if you don't lurk and post something as stupid as you did also.
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

As simple as that, I WANTED THE FIGHTING TO STOP...... That case would have never quit, as long as his mom and lawyer would have never stopped until they got exactly what they wanted. I would be going through a divorce until I was 90, and still would never get to see my daughter, as they slammed the door in my face whenever I tried.

Sorry for wanting a welcome. I just wanted to talk to other people who we excited about getting married... as I am.

lennonkdc · May 2013

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[QUOTE]oh wow... Well, I guess this is what I get for posting here... All I wanted was a simple welcome. Maybe a how are you doing?... and instead I get a bunch of catty remarks from people who could never understand my life if they tried. But hey... just for fun... I shall try once more... My Dob: 9/84 Married: 8/05 child born: 6/08 left husband: 9/10 met bf: 1/11 put in divorce papers: 9/11 found dress/alteration: 11/11 divorce final: 2/13 Present day..... I thought that my divorce was going to go smoothly (the only thing we were waiting on was him to take the parenting class - which he never did- as I wanted us to have joint custody)... but then my ex flipped on me, hired a lawyer, and accused me of beating him and my daughter, along with being an unfit parent and neglecting her. It was untrue, but every time I tried to do something about it, it was thrown back into my face with the lawyer ( and his mom, who hates me). So, I gave in. It wasn't a judge who decided things.... it was both of us. Btw, one part of the plan is that every two years, it will be revisited and I will be given more time.... and my ex can trust me again. I was sick of fighting... and I knew that my daughter was going to be fine there... Happy and content and not want for anything. That is why I gave in. I wanted the fighting to stop... I wanted to get back to the days when my ex and I could get along great (and we are).... I can still send her things in the mail, I can call her... I can send her videos via internet, and she has sent some back.

Yes, I miss her, but this is for the best. No child needs to see their parents arguing. Since my daughter is almost five, there wasn't a need to say this is mommy's friend. It was just ****. Just a name.... Since I know that she already has a daddy, I did not want to confuse her. and again..... I like couting in months... I was miserable with my ex.... and every month with my guy is amazing.

oh, yeah.... TWILIGHT SUCKS.....

Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

The way to get a simple welcome is to simply fill out this form (found here:http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_getting-yooouu) and post it in a new thread. Then we can get more complete view of who you are. When you run into a group of strangers, esp when the group itself is pretty close knit, and go "ZOMG I HAVE A HISTORY OF POOR LIFE CHOICES AND I'M GONNA KEEP MAKING THEM! SQUUUUEEEEE!" then there is a good chance you're going to get some less then positive feed back.

I'm sure that giving up custody of your daughter must have been a gut wrenching decision, and I hope that you are doing all you can to make sure you can get joint custody back.

As for the dress buying, I get that it was a good deal, but its still very frowned upon here to plan/buy/do anything 100% wedding related before being engaged. It would be like me buying a crib b/c it was on sale even though I'm not preggers and not even TTC. Its just not done.

loves2shop4shoes · May 2013

You expect me to believe that you AGREED to SUPERVISED visitation with your child ONCE A MONTH just so you could stop fighting with your ex?

Either that's true and you just don't give a damn about your kid and are happy that you don't have to deal with her on a day to day basis. OR you're full of it.

What do you care if your ex trusts you? Why does he need to trust you? According to you, he's the one hurling lies out of every orifice...and you're concerned with his ability to trust YOU??? And you're ok with this arrangement for the next TWO YEARS because...hey, it's just easier not to fight???? This is just a complete logic fail.

Furthermore, there are ways for parents to fight while it not being paraded in front of their kids.

I happen to know all about messy divorces...and divorce laws. And this simply does not add up.

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

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[QUOTE]I don't buy it. You don't just "give in" and let your psycho, lying ex take your kid because you "were sick of fighting." No child deserves to see their parents arguing - but all of that should have been done in front of a judge/lawyer without the child present. Your ex is accusing you of neglect and abuse - you fight tooth and nail to prove them wrong and get custody of your child. Also, I'm questioning YOUR sanity as well, because there is no way in holy HELL I would be able to "get along great" with a person who accused me of neglecting and abusing my child and then took her away from me. The maturity level ASTOUNDS me.
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

He got exactly what he wanted.... my daughter, sole custody. After that was offiial, the talons left... Simple as that. And it was really hard for me to fight without a lawyer when everything I tried to so, was thrown out because of technicalities.... and it is really hard to prove that you did not abuse or neglect when you have no proof.... it is just words on paper.... and again, no lawyer. Yeah, my sanity is probably less than it should be... But my ex is a great guy, just not a great guy for me.

GoldenPenguin · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: As simple as that, I WANTED THE FIGHTING TO STOP...... That case would have never quit, as long as his mom and lawyer would have never stopped until they got exactly what they wanted. I would be going through a divorce until I was 90, and still would never get to see my daughter, as they slammed the door in my face whenever I tried. Sorry for wanting a welcome. I just wanted to talk to other people who we excited about getting married... as I am.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

Did you not have a lawyer to fight for you? Or was your lawyer as incompetant as you seem to be?

And why did they have your daughter to begin with? There are very few occasions where the father gets custody of the child - especially a young child - during divorce proceedings, and it's usually because the mother has some serious issues.

loves2shop4shoes · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: As simple as that, I WANTED THE FIGHTING TO STOP...... That case would have never quit, as long as his mom and lawyer would have never stopped until they got exactly what they wanted. I would be going through a divorce until I was 90, and still would never get to see my daughter, as they slammed the door in my face whenever I tried. Sorry for wanting a welcome. I just wanted to talk to other people who we excited about getting married... as I am.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

My parents separated when I was 2. They had a 16 year long custody battle until I was 18 and they could not legally fight over custody anymore. They both had a lot of lawyers...and spent such a huge amount of money on legal fees that it could have put myself and my brother through a 4 year private college and master's program...and probably bought each of us a modest house. No, I'm not kidding.

That situation was completely effed up and scarred me for life. I wouldn't advocate you trying it. But at the same time, I can't imagine how horrible I would've felt knowing that my mother settled for SUPERVISED visitation ONCE A MONTH just so that she wouldn't have to deal with my dad and his lawyers.

Way to teach your kid to fight for the things that matter...

Peledreamsofrain · May 2013

Post removed due to GBCK

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: The way to get a simple welcome is to simply fill out this form (found here: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_getting-yooouu) and post it in a new thread. Then we can get more complete view of who you are. When you run into a group of strangers, esp when the group itself is pretty close knit, and go "ZOMG I HAVE A HISTORY OF POOR LIFE CHOICES AND I'M GONNA KEEP MAKING THEM! SQUUUUEEEEE!" then there is a good chance you're going to get some less then positive feed back. I'm sure that giving up custody of your daughter must have been a gut wrenching decision, and I hope that you are doing all you can to make sure you can get joint custody back. As for the dress buying, I get that it was a good deal, but its still very frowned upon here to plan/buy/do anything 100% wedding related before being engaged. It would be like me buying a crib b/c it was on sale even though I'm not preggers and not even TTC. Its just not done.
Posted by lennonkdc[/QUOTE]

Thank you. That was the nicest thing anyone has said to me ....

Giving up my daughter was a pain.... but her happiness means more to me than my own, simple as that.

MuppetFan · May 2013

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[QUOTE]oh wow... Well, I guess this is what I get for posting here... All I wanted was a simple welcome. Maybe a how are you doing?... and instead I get a bunch of catty remarks from people who could never understand my life if they tried. But hey... just for fun... I shall try once more... My Dob: 9/84 Married: 8/05 child born: 6/08 left husband: 9/10 met bf: 1/11 put in divorce papers: 9/11 found dress/alteration: 11/11 divorce final: 2/13 Present day..... I thought that my divorce was going to go smoothly (the only thing we were waiting on was him to take the parenting class - which he never did- as I wanted us to have joint custody)... but then my ex flipped on me, hired a lawyer, and accused me of beating him and my daughter, along with being an unfit parent and neglecting her. It was untrue, but every time I tried to do something about it, it was thrown back into my face with the lawyer ( and his mom, who hates me). So, I gave in. It wasn't a judge who decided things.... it was both of us. Btw, one part of the plan is that every two years, it will be revisited and I will be given more time.... and my ex can trust me again. I was sick of fighting... and I knew that my daughter was going to be fine there... Happy and content and not want for anything. That is why I gave in. I wanted the fighting to stop... I wanted to get back to the days when my ex and I could get along great (and we are).... I can still send her things in the mail, I can call her... I can send her videos via internet, and she has sent some back.

Yes, I miss her, but this is for the best. No child needs to see their parents arguing. Since my daughter is almost five, there wasn't a need to say this is mommy's friend. It was just ****. Just a name.... Since I know that she already has a daddy, I did not want to confuse her. and again..... I like couting in months... I was miserable with my ex.... and every month with my guy is amazing.

oh, yeah.... TWILIGHT SUCKS.....

Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

I was waiting to comment. I understand that all you wanted was to have a welcome, but you shared more information than you probably should have to get a simple welcome. I do welcome you and I'm glad you've found someone to make you happy.

I get buying the dress when you did, I knew when I met my fiance that I was going to marry him. If I saw that opportunity, I may have done the same...though i probably would've waited for the proposal to alter it, but I guess you were just excited. Does he know that you have the dress and had it altered? I think my fiance would've thought that was odd.

I find it troublesome to understand why you've given up your rights because of an attorney if the allegations your ex made are untrue. Are you aware that there are a lot of programs that help women with custody issues? It's possible that you should've called the attorney's threats so that you would've gone through family court. I imagine that a judge would've had cps get involved and would've needed proof, it's not common that they take a parent's rights away (especially a mother's) or require something as severe as supervised visitation if it isn't warranted. The judge could have also ordered that he take the parenting classes, given you time to collect yourself if she thought you had an issue, etc...etc..

If you truly gave up custody because he bullied you with an attorney, I would suggest putting your energy into researching your rights and resources and talking to someone about your case right away if you have a stable environment to provide for your daughter.

loves2shop4shoes · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: He got exactly what he wanted.... my daughter, sole custody. After that was offiial, the talons left... Simple as that. And it was really hard for me to fight without a lawyer when everything I tried to so, was thrown out because of technicalities.... and it is really hard to prove that you did not abuse or neglect when you have no proof.... it is just words on paper.... and again, no lawyer. Yeah, my sanity is probably less than it should be... But my ex is a great guy, just not a great guy for me.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

This makes no sense. You are not guilty until proven innocent...not in this country, at least. They had to have police reports, doctor's notes, or SOMETHING to remotely PROVE that what they were accusing you of was true...

Judges know to look out for bitterness and lies in custody battles. It comes with the territory. They wouldn't just believe your ex and his family without a shred of evidence.

Stina51286 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: As simple as that, I WANTED THE FIGHTING TO STOP...... That case would have never quit, as long as his mom and lawyer would have never stopped until they got exactly what they wanted. I would be going through a divorce until I was 90, and still would never get to see my daughter, as they slammed the door in my face whenever I tried. Sorry for wanting a welcome. I just wanted to talk to other people who we excited about getting married... as I am.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

I had to deal with my parents going through a custody battle until I was 17. 12 years of it. But guess what, both parents fought tooth and nail with each other to see their children. Neither one of them gave up on us like you did your daughter.

None of your stories make sense. Little do you know, some of the girls here are lawyers and/or paralegals and have studied family law. Yes I understand states are different, but they aren't THAT different.

p0tt3rgl33k · May 2013

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[QUOTE]You expect me to believe that you AGREED to SUPERVISED visitation with your child ONCE A MONTH just so you could stop fighting with your ex? Either that's true and you just don't give a damn about your kid and are happy that you don't have to deal with her on a day to day basis. OR you're full of it. What do you care if your ex trusts you? Why does he need to trust you? According to you, he's the one hurling lies out of every orifice...and you're concerned with his ability to trust YOU??? And you're ok with this arrangement for the next TWO YEARS because...hey, it's just easier not to fight???? This is just a complete logic fail. Furthermore, there are ways for parents to fight while it not being paraded in front of their kids. I happen to know all about messy divorces...and divorce laws. And this simply does not add up.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Well... it is true. Sorry if it does not add up for you, but this is my life.

GoldenPenguin · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: He got exactly what he wanted.... my daughter, sole custody. After that was offiial, the talons left... Simple as that. And it was really hard for me to fight without a lawyer when everything I tried to so, was thrown out because of technicalities.... and it is really hard to prove that you did not abuse or neglect when you have no proof.... it is just words on paper.... and again, no lawyer. Yeah, my sanity is probably less than it should be... But my ex is a great guy, just not a great guy for me.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

It's also REALLY REALLY HARD to prove that someone DID abuse and neglect their child with NO PROOF.

And, if he DID take your child away from you under false allegations, he IS NOT A GREAT GUY. Why the fuuck are you defending a man who TOOK YOUR CHILD AWAY FROM YOU??

Oh, probably because he had reasons. Got it.

MuppetFan · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: He got exactly what he wanted.... my daughter, sole custody. After that was offiial, the talons left... Simple as that. And it was really hard for me to fight without a lawyer when everything I tried to so, was thrown out because of technicalities.... and it is really hard to prove that you did not abuse or neglect when you have no proof.... it is just words on paper.... and again, no lawyer. Yeah, my sanity is probably less than it should be... But my ex is a great guy, just not a great guy for me.
Posted by p0tt3rgl33k[/QUOTE]

I missed this while I was responding. Family court situations do not get thrown out because of technicalities. They also have to prove their case if they are citing abuse.

This is not a criminal case, it's not like the attorney was saying that a cop didn't have a search warrant when they found evidence of positive parenting so they have to throw your evidence out

If allegations of abuse were made, cps would immediately get involved to investigate. Immediately. This happens all the time in custody battles and often, investigations find that there might not be any signs of abuse...and may visit several times over a period of time to keep making sure. Then they close the case and the judge makes a decision. Judges can make decisions while the investigation is happening too.

eta: This makes me think there's something huge we are missing.

Stina51286 · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: I missed this while I was responding. Family court situations do not get thrown out because of technicalities. They also have to prove their case if they are citing abuse. This is not a criminal case, it's not like the attorney was saying that a cop didn't have a search warrant when they found evidence of positive parenting so they have to throw your evidence out If allegations of abuse were made, cps would immediately get involved to investigate. Immediately. This happens all the time in custody battles and often, investigations find that there might not be any signs of abuse...and may visit several times over a period of time to keep making sure. Then they close the case and the judge makes a decision. Judges can make decisions while the investigation is happening too. eta: This makes me think there's something huge we are missing.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

This! I work for an attorney who is a Guardian ad Litem, when a parent claims abuse, my boss is called on. If there are no signs, no med records, nothing, the abuse gets thrown out and the parent crying wolf, is the one that looks bad now.

loves2shop4shoes · May 2013

Stina is right. There HAS to be some proof. HAS to be.

s-aries8990 · May 2013

There does have to be some proof.

I'm going to be very disappointed in you if you opt for a PPD instead of focusing your extra engergy into fighting for your daughter.

The only thing my father ever fought about was money - and I feel like, essentially, he sold me and my brother for 90K. He had visitation, but never took full advantage of what he had and put the relationship on us to maintian. I have real issues. Don't give your daughter issues. She'll know if you aren't fighting for her.

MuppetFan · May 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not Yet But Sooooonnnnnn.....

: This! I work for an attorney who is a Guardian ad Litem, when a parent claims abuse, my boss is called on. If there are no signs, no med records, nothing, the abuse gets thrown out and the parent crying wolf, is the one that looks bad now.
Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

In Family Court, where there are children involved, the court's primary focus is the wellbeing of the children. It is in their wellbeing two have both parents involved in the kids lives if that involvement is conducive to a positive, safe and healthy life for the child. They don't take abuse allegations lightly, they investigate them carefully because they want to evaluate the situation before taking away as important an element as a parent from their lives. Even then, there are normaly goals set for a parent to be considered again.

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