I won't go into details, but suffice it to say that the bride has let her bridesmaids down (I'm MOH) by ignoring our financial limitations, in addition to being a thoughtless and unappreciative friend, and by acting as though we just don't exist. She's always been like that - just oblivious and doesn't think to think about others, but it was never so glaringly obvious until now.
I know the other two girls are hurt, and on the day of the wedding I'd like to give them a little gift to let them know that I recognize and appreciate all of their contributions and efforts. Can anyone suggest anything? Nothing too fancy. Maybe a framed photo from the bachelorette party? Wine glass charms?
** Just a side note: The wedding day is for the bride and groom to shine, but I'd like to do this the day of because the girls already feel so ignored and unappreciated, and having to stand in the shadow of the bride all day could just add to that. I would be very inconspicuous about it - maybe taking them aside one at a time while the bride has her hair and makeup done, or on our way to the reception.