What do you do?
I'd never bring this up around anyone who isn't directly involved with the budget and is, therefore, already in the know, but I've noticed that some people, especially those who are in no position to ever have a luxury wedding, due to finances, tend to bring it up. I'm actually trying to keep our budget a secret, because most people I know can't afford that sort of thing these days... but apparently they want to discuss it. For example, if I ask where I can find a certain type of charger (and we're not talking expensive ones, either), it's, "Oh, your wedding is going to be so expensive," and if I talk venues with another bride (we went to school together, and her wedding is also in September, but this year instead of next year), it's "Hah! We don't have the kind of money for THAT sort of venue," when all I do is say that we're looking for an airy, indoor-outdoor venue.
It's just really awkward for me, and it's not like I can even respond, "Yes, well, we saved up," as we haven't saved up, and we don't *need* to, in order to afford a really nice wedding.
What's up with this? Are they really just making small talk, or are people saying this sort of thing for other reasons? I mean, I can't imagine the people saying these things as ever wanting to hurt me, but it's just strange that it keeps being brought up, when I'm ever-so-careful to avoid that sort of thing.
How do I get them off-topic?