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How much say does the bride's family have?

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Re: How much say does the bride's family have?

  • SBminiSBmini member
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    cmsciulli said:
    How about getting married in 2015 so that you have more venue options?
    There's a place that was our first choice, but it isn't available until August. If this place tomorrow doesn't work out we'll move the wedding back and go with our original choice.

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    SBmini said:
    cmsciulli said:
    How about getting married in 2015 so that you have more venue options?
    There's a place that was our first choice, but it isn't available until August. If this place tomorrow doesn't work out we'll move the wedding back and go with our original choice.

    Good Luck!!

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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    It's late. I'm tired. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you found the venue your folks want to book, right? If so, why didn't you talk to FI about it before suggesting you look at it?

    I would suggest planning a wedding you and fi can afford. If your parents money becomes something that is too hung over your head, you can take control easily and have no strings.

    If your opinion matters to your parents more than FI's, then be on the same page with FI and let your mutual decisions be "Your" decision with your parents. There's going to have to be some give and take on both sides.

    Our wedding is at least 1-2 hours away from all of FI's family and friends (actually, and our house) and  5-30 mins from the majority of mine. I wouldn't be bothered by 90 mins. Then again, I live in the middle of nowhere so it takes me like an hour to reach civilization anyway. Bottom line is that after much searching, it was just the right venue for us and we know that won't be a deterrent for our guests (who are all also basically used to driving an hour to get anywhere)



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    MuppetFan said:
    It's late. I'm tired. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you found the venue your folks want to book, right? If so, why didn't you talk to FI about it before suggesting you look at it?

    I would suggest planning a wedding you and fi can afford. If your parents money becomes something that is too hung over your head, you can take control easily and have no strings.

    If your opinion matters to your parents more than FI's, then be on the same page with FI and let your mutual decisions be "Your" decision with your parents. There's going to have to be some give and take on both sides.

    Our wedding is at least 1-2 hours away from all of FI's family and friends (actually, and our house) and  5-30 mins from the majority of mine. I wouldn't be bothered by 90 mins. Then again, I live in the middle of nowhere so it takes me like an hour to reach civilization anyway. Bottom line is that after much searching, it was just the right venue for us and we know that won't be a deterrent for our guests (who are all also basically used to driving an hour to get anywhere)



    He wasn't being responsive when I sent him photos and information so we went to look at it. I told my mom the next day that I wanted it to be convenient to as many people as possible and that we'd have to keep looking. She was OK with that.

    Venue was reserved today :) It's 20 minutes from his family and has what I was looking for and my mom loves it too. Win/win/win.

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    Sweet.
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  • hockey20hockey20 member
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    My mom isn't paying for anything nor helping in anyway (one due to financial constraints, the other due to her own choice). My FI's parent's haven't offered to help us foot the bill any either, therefore my FI and I get final say. His parents, however, are being incredible helpful in other, non-financial ways, so if they have any opinions we certainly listen and take them into account and go from there.
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