Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)

mymissingpuzzlepiece · June 2013

MommyDreamin said:

@MommyDreamin Are you asking for a re-do of what happened here last year?
Not too sure what you mean but if you mean to ask me if I noticed the dated of this post... Yes, I did, I wanted to post anyways... Haha lol ) otherwise, if you mean, start another dumb, defensive argument, um no... Again just saying what I feel. But didn't realize anyone would actually pay attention, since its a late post. I joined last summer thinking I was gunna marry this summer... But now I'm truly sporting a temp engagement ring (the one I want will take a hefty down payment for our budget, so I got a temp ring/almost look a like, for $615) and ready to really plan for summer 2014. And if you mean none of that... Then yeah, not sure what you mean... But hey, dont know many here yet, so nice to meet you tho!! ) for reals

So you know exactly what I mean then. Why would you post something exactly like the OP posted that turned into massive craziness unless you wanted to stir up some drama? Slow the fuck down .... you aren't engaged yet, so don't plan a wedding for summer of 2014 or plan to have a baby. It's really that easy.

motoLyn · June 2013

You're killing me..........

Seriously want to be engaged, well then just talk to your BF and agree that you want to get married soon. NO NEED for a ring, but if you want a ring to symbolize that you're getting married then WAIT till that happens. NO NEED to push it nor rush it. 8 years is a long good relationship, you can afford to wait a few more months. ALSO GOD THERE IS NO Pre-engagement. Every time someone says that a kitten is fucking killed. So STOP!

lennonkdc · June 2013

People were rude b/c you're putting the cart wwwwwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyy before the horse. There is no reason to be off your BC if you're not planning on getting pregnant for at least a year, unless of course you DO want to get KTFU now to 'hook' your BF...

And there is no such thing as a pre-engagement. You are either engaged or you are not. A ring and a fancy proposal don't make it 'official' or 'valid' or 'real'. Once you've both agreed that you want to get married, you're engaged. Congrats.

rhosocal · June 2013

Getting off BC was something my doctor and I agreed to, and now I'm on a simple BC pill that's easier to get off and to conceive when ready.

And it is an engagement ring, he said while putting it on my finger at the jewelry store, that he "will get me the one" I "want but for now will you please wear this temp engagement ring" and I said "yes" and so we are engaged. I don't think anyone got what I meant, but there is the clarification.

So I am engaged... We call it pre engaged, because he says he wants to do a better proposal. But he DID pop the question and I did say YES. So we are truly engaged.

And I said we've been together for almost 8 years and want kids soon after we are married. It's actually smart to plan ahead on when we want to ttc not dumb, I'm sure my dr would tell me otherwise and she is wonderful so yeah I'm on the right track, not too far ahead and only planning ahead. I am 27 and know that fertility starts declining at age 27 for woman, so that's why it's on the mind. Plus my Hun and I want to adopt later too. Just planning ahead. Smarter then getting married, pregnant or adopting with no clue, like many do nowa days.

Anyone watch bravo?? That new marriage show, about the first year??

Omg, why do people just get married without really making sure the person is right in every way for themselves and their desired life. My Hun and I were together in high school, broke up and reunited and now it's been almost 8 years and we have been through many things couples usually break up and divorce over. And we know everything about each other... Ok so this part is not a vent, but maybe more a rant... Haha... Ok, carry on... And I hope I cleared up any confusion I gave. Let me know.

jemmini6 · June 2013

You got off BC, but are on a different form of BC? I'm confused....

rhosocal · June 2013

I was on the depo shot, which takes forever to ware off, which I know cause I had it once and got off it to go to another and came back to the depo.

Anyways, it take an extra month sometimes 2/3 or more for some woman for it to ware off. Got off of it because I told my dr that I wanna get pregnant in the next 2 years, before I'm 30 perhaps, and she took me off depo, saying it would be best to go on something more temporary then, so that I don't have a difficult time getting pregnant, like many do. I got off in April, we agreed to wait a few months and give my vag and my monthly cycle a break. And as soon as my period starts, this week, I have a BC pill I'll be starting, that's easier to come off of once I'm ready to start trying.

My fiancé knows, no worries. He can't wait to for us to get pregnant ether so he's all on board.

Swazzle · June 2013

For the love of god, please stop saying "my Hun".

Swazzle · June 2013

If I had a Hun, he'd be smokin hot like this Hun:

mymissingpuzzlepiece · June 2013

So how long have you actually been together in the 8 years you've known each other?

catrb89 · June 2013

Um I've been out for quite a while because of school and medical issues but DAMN people still can't get a clue! You really need to lurk on message board before posting and assuming people will blow sunshine and rainbows up your ass. It's ridiculous for you to disrespect a regular for not doing so.
Also, for the record, there's no such thing as "pre-engaged" - either you're engaged or not.

thejucheidea · June 2013

Wow, your temporary ring costs more than we're paying for my ring. That's... special.

And fertility starts declining at age 27 so you have to get on that now? Okay then. We're getting married in October and plan to conceive around April of next year because I want to have our first kid by the time I'm 30, but good lord, I don't go cruise The Bump for suggestions. If you're so crazed about having a kid ASAP, why not just have a low-key wedding soon instead of waiting? Apparently the kid is more important to you than wedding-y stuff, or you'd be hanging around here instead of Bumping it up and having a creepy username.

desertsun · June 2013

Dude, I want a Hun. Where did you find yours?

Also, I think the word you're looking for is "wear."

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