In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:b9eaace4-4446-47d9-b5de-5e47fb929645">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Isn't there a people called Kiwis? Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:58c92373-a0a9-48cd-b4df-a1433e8af587">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]I can't talk to people that don't believe in gay marriage. I've yet to hear a reason that doesn't have some basis in religion. Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div> </div><div>I've changed my opinion over the years from con to pro. As a Catholic, it's against my religion, but so is BC. I totally broke that rule. My niece is gay and if she were to fall in love with someone and wanted to marry her, who the hell am I to judge? I am not God. I just want her to be happy. </div>
I need to sign off. H is getting pissy about being ignored. I need to find him some friends so he is less dependant on me for his entertainment.. LOL. I love him .
Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right?
I'm glad I got my tubes tied...but it irked the hell out of me that my doc wouldn't do it when I had my c-section...he was in there already. I had to go back and have it done later that year. Granted he did it laproscopically, but it was still another invasive proceedure!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:61269f85-33ec-46dc-9cec-348b218c8336">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I've changed my opinion over the years from con to pro. As a Catholic, it's against my religion, but so is BC. I totally broke that rule. My niece is gay and if she were to fall in love with someone and wanted to marry her, who the hell am I to judge? I am not God. I just want her to be happy. Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]
<div>Well, what I meant to say is that I can't talk to people that believe that gay marriage should be banned. </div><div> </div><div>As long as you don't go around telling people they're not allowed to get married because it's against YOUR religion, I don't mind what you personally believe - KWIM?</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:b92dba28-000a-4e40-8677-1bb01aefc5c5">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right? Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>Depends on the context. If they normally communicate using terms like that, then, it's probably not a big deal, but if it's a step out of normal professionalism, then it's definitely right to be upset.</div>
Baney has a point re: the amount of work you have to go through to get sterilization surgery. H had to have a consultation with the surgeon, I had to have a consultation with the surgeon, he met with us both together, and we BOTH had to sign off that we were ok with it.
Now that I think about it, I wonder what happens when the guy (or girl) is single.
Either way, I doubt Poke's friend will find a doctor who will do the surgery. They're even more reluctant to do female sterilization because it's so much more invasive.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:b92dba28-000a-4e40-8677-1bb01aefc5c5">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right? Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:b92dba28-000a-4e40-8677-1bb01aefc5c5">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right? Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
I've told CW before that I think I think the legal and the social/religious marriages should be separate, like in Europe and most of Latin America. The state supervises one thing, the other thing is up to the church (if applicable) and sociaty.
Yeah, if that's how they normally talk, meh. But if it was not the norm, yeah, not ok.
I'm walking around in my pajamas and my new heels for next weekend's wedding. H thinks I'm a nutter. He has clearly never worn heels that weren't properly broken in.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:e8d844c5-1c5e-4b73-9f7f-99b37b7249f8">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Depends on the context. If they normally communicate using terms like that, then, it's probably not a big deal, but if it's a step out of normal professionalism, then it's definitely right to be upset. Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]
<div>This. If one of H's coworkers said this to him, it wouldn't be a big deal, but they're friends outside of work and give each other crap all the time. Other coworkers with whom he doesn't have that kind of relationship, then yeah, I'd think it was inappropriate.</div>
Yeah, no. They are both university professors, talking in front of students. I said it was not appropriate or professional to use words that could be considered deragatory in front of subordinates.
But I'm the hippie dippy, so I wanted to make sure. At my previous university, if that happened, the person using the quesitonable word would be fired, without question.
H is a southerner and used up all of his energy not to punch the guy.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:73306e45-4bb6-46cc-aa20-eaa26d50221f">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Well, what I meant to say is that I can't talk to people that believe that gay marriage should be banned. As long as you don't go around telling people they're not allowed to get married because it's against YOUR religion, I don't mind what you personally believe - KWIM? Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div> </div><div>I know what you mean. </div><div> </div><div> </div><div>I've caught shiiit about my opinion, but I figure that's really between me and God.</div><div> </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:46e833ef-5077-447a-a739-4b180f890cb6">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Baney has a point re: the amount of work you have to go through to get sterilization surgery. H had to have a consultation with the surgeon, I had to have a consultation with the surgeon, he met with us both together, and we BOTH had to sign off that we were ok with it. Now that I think about it, I wonder what happens when the guy (or girl) is single. Either way, I doubt Poke's friend will find a doctor who will do the surgery. They're even more reluctant to do female sterilization because it's so much more invasive. Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
<div>My mom's friend got her tubes tied. She's got Chron's and somehow the doctor performing the surgery didn't know it so he came out and told her husband that she seemed to have a large tumor or something like that. They also accidently cut her bladder open. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:f8aeed5e-89b9-4736-aa94-041e89118dc6">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Yeah, no. They are both university professors, talking in front of students. I said it was not appropriate or professional to use words that could be considered deragatory in front of subordinates. But I'm the hippie dippy, so I wanted to make sure. At my previous university, if that happened, the person using the quesitonable word would be fired, without question. H is a southerner and used up all of his energy not to punch the guy. Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>Then yeah, totally inappropriate. I'd be confronting the guy if I were your H.</div>
Lizzie, that's strange about the doctor not performing the tubal while they were in there. A friend of mine had it doen when her 3rd was born and she told me it only added 10 minutes to her c-section.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:11042eec-f8ed-4fa6-8a59-1b82149603e0">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Yeah, if that's how they normally talk, meh. But if it was not the norm, yeah, not ok. I'm walking around in my pajamas and my new heels for next weekend's wedding. H thinks I'm a nutter. He has clearly never worn heels that weren't properly broken in. Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
<div>H understands the need to break in new heels. He's heard me biiiitch about painful new shoes enough times. And when my feet are in pain, he knows. Because I mention it about once every five minutes. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:cd0cc4c9-afc1-4172-82c0-43c636a38e16">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Lizzie, that's strange about the doctor not performing the tubal while they were in there. A friend of mine had it doen when her 3rd was born and she told me it only added 10 minutes to her c-section. Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>His excuse was because I'd be drugged and therefore "non compos mentis". I was like "well let me sign the release while I'm "compus mentis". He still said no. I was pretty irked.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:59116beb-3b4c-4156-872f-f1ce3bf0f3ed">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : H understands the need to break in new heels. He's heard me biiiitch about painful new shoes enough times. And when my feet are in pain, he knows<strong>. Because I mention it about once every five minutes. </strong> Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:58f2f46f-a673-4bfb-8826-8ceb978cc799">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it. Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:58f2f46f-a673-4bfb-8826-8ceb978cc799">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it. Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>H never wants to hear it. I just never care. </div>
Unfortunately, my insurance is through my job, which is a Catholic organization - therefore, no sterilization takes place there, nor will they pay for any of it. So I'm SOL when that day comes.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:06784371-2430-47cb-9ad0-b45596c3a60d">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : H never wants to hear it. I just never care. Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>Well, even if H doesn't want to hear it, it's about to affect him. :P </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:95005063-d27d-4e0b-afb4-95aa60a7dc80">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]Unfortunately, my insurance is through my job, which is a Catholic organization - therefore, no sterilization takes place there, nor will they pay for any of it. So I'm SOL when that day comes. Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]
<div>That's why my (Protestant) dad told me no matter what I believe, always choose secular.</div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-thread-goes-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:caa02bca-be67-47f3-b844-2e47aefb3f40Post:ad101a68-8e47-4564-881c-46781e3bdac1">Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Well, even if H doesn't want to hear it, it's about to affect him. :P Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>His response is always "If the shoes hurt so bad, then don't wear them."</div><div> </div><div>I don't understand the logic of it. </div>
Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here
[QUOTE]Isn't there a people called Kiwis?
Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]
People from New Zealand.
[QUOTE]I can't talk to people that don't believe in gay marriage. I've yet to hear a reason that doesn't have some basis in religion.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>I've changed my opinion over the years from con to pro. As a Catholic, it's against my religion, but so is BC. I totally broke that rule. My niece is gay and if she were to fall in love with someone and wanted to marry her, who the hell am I to judge? I am not God. I just want her to be happy. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I've changed my opinion over the years from con to pro. As a Catholic, it's against my religion, but so is BC. I totally broke that rule. My niece is gay and if she were to fall in love with someone and wanted to marry her, who the hell am I to judge? I am not God. I just want her to be happy.
Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]
<div>Well, what I meant to say is that I can't talk to people that believe that gay marriage should be banned. </div><div>
</div><div>As long as you don't go around telling people they're not allowed to get married because it's against YOUR religion, I don't mind what you personally believe - KWIM?</div>
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[QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right?
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>Depends on the context. If they normally communicate using terms like that, then, it's probably not a big deal, but if it's a step out of normal professionalism, then it's definitely right to be upset.</div>
[QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right?
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>Nope, not sensitive. </div>
[QUOTE]Okay, just need an opinon here: H's coworker called him a "p*ssy" at work. Totally inappropriate, right? I'm not being an overly sensitive Californian, right?
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>That's not okay to me. </div>
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I'm walking around in my pajamas and my new heels for next weekend's wedding. H thinks I'm a nutter. He has clearly never worn heels that weren't properly broken in.
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Depends on the context. If they normally communicate using terms like that, then, it's probably not a big deal, but if it's a step out of normal professionalism, then it's definitely right to be upset.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]
<div>This. If one of H's coworkers said this to him, it wouldn't be a big deal, but they're friends outside of work and give each other crap all the time. Other coworkers with whom he doesn't have that kind of relationship, then yeah, I'd think it was inappropriate.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Well, what I meant to say is that I can't talk to people that believe that gay marriage should be banned. As long as you don't go around telling people they're not allowed to get married because it's against YOUR religion, I don't mind what you personally believe - KWIM?
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>I know what you mean. </div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>I've caught shiiit about my opinion, but I figure that's really between me and God.</div><div> </div>
[QUOTE]Baney has a point re: the amount of work you have to go through to get sterilization surgery. H had to have a consultation with the surgeon, I had to have a consultation with the surgeon, he met with us both together, and we BOTH had to sign off that we were ok with it. Now that I think about it, I wonder what happens when the guy (or girl) is single. Either way, I doubt Poke's friend will find a doctor who will do the surgery. They're even more reluctant to do female sterilization because it's so much more invasive.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
<div>My mom's friend got her tubes tied. She's got Chron's and somehow the doctor performing the surgery didn't know it so he came out and told her husband that she seemed to have a large tumor or something like that. They also accidently cut her bladder open. </div>
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[QUOTE]Yeah, no. They are both university professors, talking in front of students. I said it was not appropriate or professional to use words that could be considered deragatory in front of subordinates. But I'm the hippie dippy, so I wanted to make sure. At my previous university, if that happened, the person using the quesitonable word would be fired, without question. H is a southerner and used up all of his energy not to punch the guy.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>Then yeah, totally inappropriate. I'd be confronting the guy if I were your H.</div>
[QUOTE]Yeah, if that's how they normally talk, meh. But if it was not the norm, yeah, not ok. I'm walking around in my pajamas and my new heels for next weekend's wedding. H thinks I'm a nutter. He has clearly never worn heels that weren't properly broken in.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
<div>H understands the need to break in new heels. He's heard me biiiitch about painful new shoes enough times. And when my feet are in pain, he knows. Because I mention it about once every five minutes. </div>
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[QUOTE]Lizzie, that's strange about the doctor not performing the tubal while they were in there. A friend of mine had it doen when her 3rd was born and she told me it only added 10 minutes to her c-section.
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>His excuse was because I'd be drugged and therefore "non compos mentis". I was like "well let me sign the release while I'm "compus mentis". He still said no. I was pretty irked.
</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : H understands the need to break in new heels. He's heard me biiiitch about painful new shoes enough times. And when my feet are in pain, he knows<strong>. Because I mention it about once every five minutes. </strong>
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>
</div><div>Me too.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : I do the same thing. Whether or not H wants to hear it.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>H never wants to hear it. I just never care. </div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : H never wants to hear it. I just never care.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
<div>Well, even if H doesn't want to hear it, it's about to affect him. :P </div>
[QUOTE]Unfortunately, my insurance is through my job, which is a Catholic organization - therefore, no sterilization takes place there, nor will they pay for any of it. So I'm SOL when that day comes.
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]
<div>That's why my (Protestant) dad told me no matter what I believe, always choose secular.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night Thread Goes Here : Well, even if H doesn't want to hear it, it's about to affect him. :P
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>His response is always "If the shoes hurt so bad, then don't wear them."</div><div>
</div><div>I don't understand the logic of it. </div>
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