is it tacky to not have open bar?

manateehugger · July 2013

Question: are you still trying to be funny?

NYCBruin · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

PDKH said:

But as I said numerous times, I wouldn't host a cash bar or a dry event. I'd be too embarrassed for my good friends, family, and all those who traveled and spent quite a bit of money getting here.
I'm embarrassed by people who attempt to troll by making contradictory arguments and displaying an insensitivity to the world around them.

I'm embarrassed FOR people who think their opinion is the law of the land. Is it really so bad that I care about my guests having a good time? I think it's really tacky not to. And as I've said, if no one drinks then don't offer it. But if people do you should offer it. Why is this just so outrageous and unbelievable?

It's outrageous and unbelievable for you to call other people's weddings tacky because they did not/are not making the same choices that you will.

vineheart137 · July 2013

The GIFs people have been throwing out have me rolling.

wittykitty14 · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

PDKH said:

But as I said numerous times, I wouldn't host a cash bar or a dry event. I'd be too embarrassed for my good friends, family, and all those who traveled and spent quite a bit of money getting here.
I'm embarrassed by people who attempt to troll by making contradictory arguments and displaying an insensitivity to the world around them.

I'm embarrassed FOR people who think their opinion is the law of the land. Is it really so bad that I care about my guests having a good time? I think it's really tacky not to. And as I've said, if no one drinks then don't offer it. But if people do you should offer it. Why is this just so outrageous and unbelievable?

No. Is it really so bad to accept that a lot of people don't need alcohol to have a good time?

AddieCake · July 2013

It's the only way to make this thread with the boring troll more interesting, @shaylovessly!

wittykitty14 · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

wittykitty14 said:

sasquatchexpress12 said:

Dry wedding seems to be pretty Puritan in my opinion. Do we have to wear a burka as well?

Yes, of course! Because, you know, I'm so sheltered and conservative and want to impose my "I'm better than you because I don't drink" thoughts on all my guests. *rolls eyes*
I'm having a dry wedding because both FI and I, as well as several VIPs, rarely/never drink. Are you going to sit here and tell me that I'm not hosing my guests properly?

I've said repeatedly that if no one drinks then of course don't offer it, why would you? You know your guests better than I do?

Guess what? A lot of my guests DO drink! And yet, we're STILL having a dry wedding. My FI and I made this decision for personal reasons. We're still going to host our guests properly.

manateehugger · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:
Puritans were known for being dry. Burkas are forced upon women in certain countries. Do we really think I think Puritans wore Burkas? LOL @ ME.

Is this a way to detract from your tacky reception?

Oh I get it now. Personal beliefs against alcohol= repressive practices against women.

vineheart137 · July 2013

wittykitty14 said:
Guess what? A lot of my guests DO drink! And yet, we're STILL having a dry wedding. My FI and I made this decision for personal reasons. We're still going to host our guests properly.

That's crazy talk. People can't possibly have a good time without alcohol. So what if you're providing free food and music, that's not enough! Alcohol is the ONLY way to please your guests!

You're a bad host and you should feel bad. BAD! BAD HOST!

TheBaysideBride · July 2013

the craziest part of this thread, to me, is how many ladies are leaving the house with no money, allegedly bc they assume drinks are paid for. I'm hoping people are exagerating to make a point, because you should never leave home (for an evening or otherwise) without some cash on you. What about emergencies?? Like after parties??

SMH.

Peledreamsofrain · July 2013

I give your trolling a 3 out of 10. There is no original personality built into your troll identity (being a lush isn't original, unless you're trolling while drunk). Also, no attempt whatsoever to make up an incredible and outrageously entertaining story? Boo, booo I say!

Must be amateur night. Where the hell is Judith? That girl trolls like a goddess and would never stoop to this cheap crap.

VadersValkyrie · July 2013

MrsKathyC said:

I have a question. If OP hosts only beer & wine, but the venue has a full bar, what is the bartender to do, tell people No, you can't have that? I'm serious, how would that work?

Our venue is part restaurant/part hotel/part wedding venue. One of the options we were given was to host beer/wine, and then if people really wanted something else, they could walk to the hotel bar. I suspect in these situations, only the available drinks will be on display.

r&c14 · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

PDKH said:

But as I said numerous times, I wouldn't host a cash bar or a dry event. I'd be too embarrassed for my good friends, family, and all those who traveled and spent quite a bit of money getting here.
I'm embarrassed by people who attempt to troll by making contradictory arguments and displaying an insensitivity to the world around them.

I'm embarrassed FOR people who think their opinion is the law of the land. Is it really so bad that I care about my guests having a good time? I think it's really tacky not to. And as I've said, if no one drinks then don't offer it. But if people do you should offer it. Why is this just so outrageous and unbelievable?

If that's the case, you would be embarrassed of yourself because you think your opinion is the law of the land as well.

r&c14 · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

If that's the case, you would be embarrassed of yourself because you think your opinion is the law of the land as well.
I guess you should try rereading the thread again.

I read it and have no problems comprehending what you said. Since I'm having a dry wedding I should just elope and not invite my family and friends to be there that day because I don't want to provide alcohol because it isn't in our budget?

NYCBruin · July 2013

In an attempt to help you be a better troll, what else do you find tacky at weddings? There are plenty of posters whose weddings you haven't insulted yet.

manateehugger · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:
Why is it insulting that someone doesn't agree with you? LOL. Grow up.

Hahahahaha irony.

Jen4948 · July 2013

sasquatchexpress12 said:

Why is it insulting that someone doesn't agree with you? LOL. Grow up.

Hypocritical. You need to do it before you're in any position to tell anyone else to.

southernbelle0915 · July 2013

I'd like to ask for a moment of TK silence on behalf of all who believe feeding trolls is a waste of time and those who would like to see more relevant threads making it to the top of the Etiquette board.

A troll dies without food.... and I PROMISE, we all have better things to do than talk to this hairy beast.

Jen4948 · July 2013

@KnotPorscha, can we get rid of the troll?

Viczaesar · July 2013

Just for the hell of it.

1. I'm a drinker.
2. Most, if not all, of my family weddings are dry.
3. None of my family members are teetotalers. None has a religious objection to booze. (My one cousin is an oinophile but had a dry wedding because she was getting married in a Methodist church. My sister didn't serve alcohol because her father is an alcoholic. My other cousin didn't have booze because they couldn't afford the $1000 liquor license.)
4. Most of my family is New Age, not Puritan.
5. I have absolutely no problem with dry weddings and have never lied when telling a host that I enjoyed their wedding, regardless of whether or not they served alcohol.

r&c14 · July 2013

My browser keeps taking me back to this when I try to quote on a completely different board so I'm sorry to add another comment.

LiLe422 · July 2013

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mmdonnelly · July 2013

I hope not, alcohol isn't allowed at our location so there will be none at all, pay or free.

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