Offbeat wedding calls for... Tackiness disclosure!?
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Invite road block.... Please help!
Our venue is 5 miles on a dirt road where our guest will have to park then be shuttled another 1/4 mile to the ceremony... This "shuttle" is a trailer with benches!? This offbeat, untraditional ceremony has me questioning if I should have a disclosure of our venue to avoid annoyed guests! Not to mention the location is 1.5 - 3 hours for 40% of our guests (105 invited) and we are not having a reception (for all guests), pastries drinks and parasols and/or hand fans will be provided. Casual attire, AM wedding- can't change time or date. We are just one big inconvenience!
Wow, it was just a simple invite question ... Would you suggest a venue disclosure on invite or separate stationary included with the invite? Any suggestions or comments (other than the fact that we suck because we are not throwing a reception for everyone) is greatly appreciated. Thanks ladies!
(Pasted format is a bit funky) Diana ..........&Biff ....................invite you to share in their joy at their wedding
Saturday, November.................
at 10:45 in the morning Font's Point Anza Borrego Desert State Park Borrego Springs, CA weekend celebration immediately following at ............................................. * no reception to follow please arrive by 10 a.m or you will miss the shuttle to ceremony
Re: Offbeat wedding calls for... Tackiness disclosure!?
Umm you can avoid annoyed guests by not expecting them to drive for hours, get dirty and toss around in a trailer, and then no feeding them.
You MUST have some sort of reception for every single guest. Even if it is just cake and punch.
"Wow, it was just a
simple invite question ... Would you suggest a venue disclosure on invite or separate stationary included with the invite? Any suggestions or comments (other than the
fact that we suck because we are not throwing a reception
for everyone) is greatly appreciated. Thanks ladies!
I would suggest you not proceed with this horrible plan. You HAVE to throw a reception for ALL of your guests. Do not tier your guests and only properly host some of them. You either host a reception for ALL of them, or you don't invite them.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
I find it completely rude when people can't put aside their "idea" of a wedding is or should be and try to find some inspiring or thoughtful way to help.. Thanks, I feel like shit now! I already know all the negative... Positive reinforcement would be appreciated.
The real importance is coming together for a marriage. I don't expect my guests to come if they wont feel comfortable in the desert.... That's why I thought I should be clear on my invites. Second 60% of those coming already have property out there as it is the first weekend of desert season. This is our lifestyle and who we are, our life is planned around the wedding... not the other way around.
It's not about anyone's "idea" of a wedding. It's about properly hosting your guests. And not having a reception, even a simple one, is not properly hosting your guests. There's no argument you can make to change anyone's mind about that b/c manners are not negotiable.
Thank you so much BostonGirl! The only reason the wedding is planned around our life is because we just bought a house and our budget is minimal.
Do you think it would still be rude/tacky if I just provided pastries, coffee, water, tea before the ceremony? Many people will not want to stay and can grab food on the way home. There is just no way we can feed all and my fiance' will NOT cut the list.
Can't please everyone... especially me!
Edit: I'm still curious about your reasoning for not having everyone at the reception though. It doesn't have to be a big meal that breaks the bank. As long as everyone is fed and watered (and the time of day is appropriate), you can have just light snacks.
Apparently, bratty behavior isn't restricted to your wedding planning.
Thank's Daria! Yeah, my husband didn't care for peledramsofrain's comment and I don't know how to delete!
And, your husband? Are you already married?
Also, you are acting like a child. You sure don't seem mature enough to understand the profundity of marriage.
A desert for several hours? Really? Parasols and paper fans are not going to cut it. You are going to have a very sunburnt group on your hands - assuming that people decide that they want to spend a hungry afternoon in the desert, that is.
You do realize these fine ladies are trying to save you from committing THE BIGGEST wedding faux pas possible, yes?
Get a grip, then get over yourself and change your plans. You MUST properly host your guests. You have been given some very good suggestions on how to do that from pp above.