Can I tell guests the colors of the decor?

mmdonnelly · July 2013

misshart00 said:

I don't understand. You complain that we're not nice. So we try and give recommendations. Then you say that we're not your guests, so our opinion doesn't matter. But when Maggie tells you that you're over thinking this, you ask where to post this question where people will give you good answers. Your posts make no sense. Especially since you've changed the title 4 times. What is going on in your head?

I don't get why you're confused. I didn't say your opinion didn't matter, I meant you can give it without putting yourself in the shoes of a guest that has gotten such as invite. I explained that I changed the title to try to make it better fit what I meant since clearly my word-choice did not communicate the meaning I wanted it to, and I was trying to avoid further issues.

mmdonnelly · July 2013

PDKH said:

mmdonnelly said:

PDKH said:

Please tell me what jabs I handed out before you started your flagging rampage?

You're being ridiculous.

Yes because someone flagged you it's time to say things like "you threw a tantrum" to me.

Nope. Let's admire some time stamps. I said you threw a tantrum after you started abusing the flagging system.

And what else do you call screaming at people who disagree with you and flagging left and right?

I didn't say I flagged you and I didn't say I ignored jabs at any certain point in time, rather I referred to the entire thread.

mmdonnelly · July 2013

MuppetOverlord said:

How are you not trying to influence them?

Your goal is for them not to wear the color you are wearing and to get them to wear fall colors.

You asked if you can write information related to this on your invitations.

Writing information to achieve the goal of your guests wearing fall colors, or not wearing a color is an attempt to influence them.

ETA: you can't make suggestions without people feeling compelled to follow them. Especially on a wedding invitation.

Does anyone else feel like this thread is Groundhog's Day??

I asked if I could say it in a way so that people would feel free to ignore it.

manateehugger · July 2013

Ok really - why did you post your question (or your 15 questions - I couldn't keep up with title changes) if you didn't want opinions that you say don't matter?

mmdonnelly · July 2013

Peledreamsofrain said:

Do realize I don't know what this references, but it is amusing.

manateehugger · July 2013

mmdonnelly said:

PDKH said:

mmdonnelly said:

PDKH said:

Please tell me what jabs I handed out before you started your flagging rampage?

You're being ridiculous.

Yes because someone flagged you it's time to say things like "you threw a tantrum" to me.

Nope. Let's admire some time stamps. I said you threw a tantrum after you started abusing the flagging system.

And what else do you call screaming at people who disagree with you and flagging left and right?

I didn't say I flagged you and I didn't say I ignored jabs at any certain point in time, rather I referredto the entire thread.

Right - and I say no jabs were given until the flags started popping up. And considering the flags magically appeared the same time you started getting upset, it's safe to say it was you. Unless you have a flagging fairy godmother lurking around here.

Logic your way out of that one.

mmdonnelly · July 2013

PDKH said:

Ok really - why did you post your question (or your 15 questions - I couldn't keep up with title changes) if you didn't want opinions that you say don't matter?

If I could un-post it or lock it, I would.

Sierra524 · July 2013

misshart00 · July 2013

Yeah. Groundhog Day. I'm still so confused, even after OP "explained" it to me.

MuppetOverlord · July 2013

mmdonnelly said:

MuppetOverlord said:

How are you not trying to influence them?

Your goal is for them not to wear the color you are wearing and to get them to wear fall colors.

You asked if you can write information related to this on your invitations.

Writing information to achieve the goal of your guests wearing fall colors, or not wearing a color is an attempt to influence them.

ETA: you can't make suggestions without people feeling compelled to follow them. Especially on a wedding invitation.

Does anyone else feel like this thread is Groundhog's Day??

I asked if I could say it in a way so that people would feel free to ignore it.

No.

NYCMercedes · July 2013

Where is that "Don't feed the trolls" sign?

PrettyGirlLost · July 2013

manateehugger · July 2013

NYCMercedes said:

Where is that "Don't feed the trolls" sign?

But, but, we just like to have fun.

Peledreamsofrain · July 2013

Aww nuts!

MuppetOverlord · July 2013

why didn't my like just make your post highlight?

Peledreamsofrain · July 2013

Post hightlighting has been broken for a few weeks now. So sad.

TKzilla · July 2013

So I'm going to do my best here...

If your wedding is "fall-themed", I'm going to assume it's in the autumn season when those fall colors are popular in fashion anyway, so you'll probably wind up with guests dressed in the colors you'd prefer. To be honest, I can't tell you WHAT my guests wore with the exception of my cousin's beautiful powder blue dress that I'm still trying to find in my size. The pictures o f the guests will most likely NOT be the ones displayed in your house forever, so don't put too much time and effort into worrying about that.

If you decide to wear a white dress, take comfort in the fact that most people will avoid wearing white/cream/ivory/champagne colored dresses to weddings out of respect for the bride.

If you choose to wear a coloured dress, hopefully word will spread about your totally awesome offbeat choice in wedding attire. "Did you hear she's wearing a blue dress? I know, totally awesome!"

manateehugger · July 2013

mrsridings061513 said:

@PDKH, that song is now playing in my head. LOL
SOWWY - Cyndi Lauper just can't be contained.
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libby2483 · July 2013

Okay, at this point, I'm pretty sure you're a troll because I have a hard time believing anyone could be this obtuse. Several ladies on this board, myself included, have given you clear etiquette advice. Rather than say, "Okay, got it, it would be rude to suggest what my guests should or should not wear" you continue to pick apart people's use of the word "dictate" versus "suggest" and other such minute, insignificant details. I have tried to be kind and give genuine advice in this thread, but I can't devote anymore time or effort to someone who seems to be deliberately missing the point.

mmdonnelly · July 2013

@MuppetOverlord Thank you for your advice

@CourtaniaLynn Thank you for answering both of my questions.

@mrsridings061513 I was asking rather it was okay on the invite, the look for the wedding wasn't a concern. As I said before, I do agree with the point that it would be too much so thank you.

Thank you again to anyone I've already said thank you to. And to anyone new to the thread, my 2 questions have already been answered.

lisabeats · July 2013

Clus.Ter.Fudge.

southernbelle0915 · July 2013

Did this just happen?

NYCBruin · July 2013

I feel like I stumbled upon a crime scene. What the hell did I just read?

Peledreamsofrain · July 2013

Post removed due to GBCK

NYCBruin · July 2013

Peledreamsofrain said:

I feel like I stumbled upon a crime scene. What the hell did I just read?
Madam, can you tell us where you were between the hours of 2 and 6pm yesterday? Was anyone with you that could confirm this? *writes notes suspiciously*

Ha! Sadly not participating in this clusterfuck. Definitely would have been preferable to studying for the bar exam...

*goes back memorizing the hearsay exceptions and crying on the inside*

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