OP, we ARE helping. We're telling you this is a bad idea so you don't embarrass yourself in front of your friends and family. And even if you're just REQUESTING people do it, it's still just as ridiculous as demanding it.
What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
Thanks I know that now. To any of you who have been flagged I apologize as I said I tried to remove the only one I actually did flag which was from the first person who commented after my first post. Im not sure about anything after that.
OP-Look, here's the bottom line, cutting past all of the syntax or other elements that may have gotten in the way of the message that you need to understand:
If I got an invitation to your wedding that said 'We REQUEST that guests outside of 30 minutes away stay in a hotel nearby so you won't be late to the wedding', I would immediately decline. We get what you're saying, but it's ridiculous to think that fully grown adults aren't able to show up to an important event like a wedding on time. It's insulting, to be perfectly honest with you. Feel free to go ahead and REQUEST this of your guests, but be prepared for a lot of people to decline because honestly, this is just unreasonable for you to ask.
I actually only flagged one post and that was before I read the rules I was just looking for a way to remove the user. If their are other flags they didn't come from me.
To be honest I stopped reading before I got through them all.
do you think you own this board and you can just pick and choose what answers you want showing on it?
WW had a post where a woman wanted to know how she could let people know that she wasn't going to accept someone's RSVP until she had confirmation that they booked a hotel room. All the same thoughts are processing through my head right now.
The fact that this idea processed your brain and didn't immediately exit is beyond me. You committed the question to a message board and asked people not to be dramatic about their posts and told them to leave when you didn't like their responses.
What answer are you looking for, exactly? Serious question because the only responses I see provides excellent feedback.
@muppetoverlord. Let me guess, the women on WW all told her that it was perfectly fine for her to do that because it was HER DAY! And you can do anything you want on your day of course.
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
Most of you are generally awful. Since being polite is out of the question at this point I would like to invite you to re-read my post. I am not demanding anything, I said I wanted to request. I was under the now very misguided impression that we were here to help each other. Feel free to continue to comment and bash all you want I wont be returning. To those who tried thanks.
I do not agree that most of us are awful. People are helping you avoid an awful thing - it cannot be avoided if you take personally the way it was said.
"Requesting" this hardly makes it better. Just like you can't request guests to wear a certain color or do their hair a certain way, you cannot request that they stay in a hotel. If a guest wants to drive from 6 hours away and get there on time, it's their prerogative. Don't worry about it. I'm afraid you will make yourself crazy worrying about this stuff. Let it go.
WW had a post where a woman wanted to know how she could let people know that she wasn't going to accept someone's RSVP until she had confirmation that they booked a hotel room. All the same thoughts are processing through my head right now.
The fact that this idea processed your brain and didn't immediately exit is beyond me. You committed the question to a message board and asked people not to be dramatic about their posts and told them to leave when you didn't like their responses.
What answer are you looking for, exactly? Serious question because the only responses I see provides excellent feedback.
@muppetoverlord. Let me guess, the women on WW all told her that it was perfectly fine for her to do that because it was HER DAY! And you can do anything you want on your day of course.
Most of you are generally awful. Since being polite is out of the question at this point I would like to invite you to re-read my post. I am not demanding anything, I said I wanted to request. I was under the now very misguided impression that we were here to help each other. Feel free to continue to comment and bash all you want I wont be returning. To those who tried thanks.
Um, actually we are helping you with your generally awful idea so that you are not awful to your guests. Better to have us give you the feed back before you subject your guests to it.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you
marry a Muppet Overlord.
3 of our guests got stuck in traffic and missed our ceremony-- I still got married, I did not even notice they were not there yet; I was just happy that they eventually made it and stuck through the traffic to get there.
You are over thinking this; set aside a room block and guests can decide whether or not they want a hotel. People only 30 min away will most likely NOT get a hotel.
So unless you want to pay for all your guests hotel rooms, do not suggest to them that they should get a hotel.
To all of you who felt the need to reply rudely to this post, all my daughter was trying to do was find out how to word in the invitation that rooms will be available. The wedding she was referring to was actually me, and we did leave in plenty of time. The wedding was 11/2 hrs. away, and we left 3 hrs ahead of time, so for you to suggest that time management was an issue, was ignorant on your part. For you to make comments in the judgmental way that you are, is the reason why she said no drama. It appears that some of you have nothing else to do but bash other people on here. People post on this site for sound advice, not to be made fun of, and be called stupid. The fact that you couldn't reply in a dignified way says a lot about your character. Forgive her for being new to posting, and not wording it in a way that suited you. It saddens me that out of 4 pages of comment, I had to search high, and low for any useful suggestions.To those who left those, I say thank you.
Lots of people gave useful suggestions. 1) don't do this it's rude 2) you can reserve blocks of rooms and put that info on a website or an insert. Both useful.
I wish I could insert a helicopter gif here, but my technological skills fail me.
To all of you who felt the need to reply rudely to this post, all my daughter was trying to do was find out how to word in the invitation that rooms will be available. The wedding she was referring to was actually me, and we did leave in plenty of time. The wedding was 11/2 hrs. away, and we left 3 hrs ahead of time, so for you to suggest that time management was an issue, was ignorant on your part. For you to make comments in the judgmental way that you are, is the reason why she said no drama. It appears that some of you have nothing else to do but bash other people on here. People post on this site for sound advice, not to be made fun of, and be called stupid. The fact that you couldn't reply in a dignified way says a lot about your character. Forgive her for being new to posting, and not wording it in a way that suited you. It saddens me that out of 4 pages of comment, I had to search high, and low for any useful suggestions.To those who left those, I say thank you.
She needs mommy to stand up for her when she doesn't get the feedback she wants to hear?
Are you moving in with her and her husband too?
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you
marry a Muppet Overlord.
Marriage is for grown ups. Grown ups don't throw temper tantrums when their bad ideas aren't validated and they certainly don't have their Mommy come in to defend them on the Internet.
*I felt sorry for my husband before I met him. Take a number.*
To all of you who felt the need to reply rudely to this post, all my daughter was trying to do was find out how to word in the invitation that rooms will be available. The wedding she was referring to was actually me, and we did leave in plenty of time. The wedding was 11/2 hrs. away, and we left 3 hrs ahead of time, so for you to suggest that time management was an issue, was ignorant on your part. For you to make comments in the judgmental way that you are, is the reason why she said no drama. It appears that some of you have nothing else to do but bash other people on here. People post on this site for sound advice, not to be made fun of, and be called stupid. The fact that you couldn't reply in a dignified way says a lot about your character. Forgive her for being new to posting, and not wording it in a way that suited you. It saddens me that out of 4 pages of comment, I had to search high, and low for any useful suggestions.To those who left those, I say thank you.
I feel sorry for ALL of our husbands!!!!!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
What the fuck happened in here? Are we back in kindergarten where mommy needs to come to school and yell at the bully for stealing her kids milk money?
Nobody here has done anything but give sound advice. This however, is a new one on me. Maybe I should tell my mom to come join in.
You're the type of person I'm referring to. How childish! SMH
You'll need to be more specific. To whom is this directed?
These newbs. I tell ya, Addie, they just don't understand how important it is for us to add up and compare childish asshole points at the end of the day!
What the fuck happened in here? Are we back in kindergarten where mommy needs to come to school and yell at the bully for stealing her kids milk money?
Nobody here has done anything but give sound advice. This however, is a new one on me. Maybe I should tell my mom to come join in.
Someone's mom came on to scold us? I think perhaps the Internet is not for her.
If your child, grown or not, told you that people on the internet or anywhere else, were calling them dumb,and stupid, I'm sure you would be angry as well. The fact that you are calling yourselves bullies, meanies, and require scolding proves my point.
Re: Asking guest to rent a room.
do you think you own this board and you can just pick and choose what answers you want showing on it?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you seem beyond repair at this point.
@muppetoverlord. Let me guess, the women on WW all told her that it was perfectly fine for her to do that because it was HER DAY! And you can do anything you want on your day of course.
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/not-counting-an-rsvp-until-we-see-hotel-reservation/c799234c9f14845a.html
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
You are over thinking this; set aside a room block and guests can decide whether or not they want a hotel. People only 30 min away will most likely NOT get a hotel.
So unless you want to pay for all your guests hotel rooms, do not suggest to them that they should get a hotel.
I wish I could insert a helicopter gif here, but my technological skills fail me.
She needs mommy to stand up for her when she doesn't get the feedback she wants to hear?
Are you moving in with her and her husband too?
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Right...and having your mom take care of meanies for you when you are an adult isn't childish?
You'll need to be more specific. To whom is this directed?
These newbs. I tell ya, Addie, they just don't understand how important it is for us to add up and compare childish asshole points at the end of the day!