Hi everyone, my name is Katie. I am in a bit of a jam and am looking for some advice.
My fiance and I are two different religions, which we are both totally fine with. I am wiccan, and he was raised Christian although he leans a bit more toward agnostic (Definitely religious, he just doesn't really recognize himself as anything particular). I am fine with having a Christian ceremony, which is what he wants, and he is fine with having a Wiccan ceremony. We would love to have both, something that my family and our intended venue are completely fine with... The issue lies with my fiance's family. He was raised in a Protestant household, and I know his family tends to be a bit judgy. Having both ceremonies is something that is very important to my fiance and I, but his family does not know of my religious beliefs.
My fiance just wants to keep it hidden and have someone distract his parents at the start of our reception while we sneak away to do the Wiccan ceremony. Our reception and ceremony will be at the same location. I'm not entirely comfortable with this, though. I don't want to be hiding something so huge from them, and the possible drama of his parents finding out is a stress I do not wish to deal with, especially on our wedding day. I would much rather talk to his parents about this issue, and calmly explain that two ceremonies is what we both want. My fiance is not comfortable with this, though.
I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this before, or if anyone might have some advice for us?