Guest List Problem - How many people does each family "get" to invite?

Re: Guest List Problem - How many people does each family "get" to invite?

• MandyMost member

  

  August 2013

  Why don't you you have your future husband make a guest list, and then sit down with his parents and say "Here's who I'd like to invite from our family. I did my best not to omit anyone or draw any arbitrary lines (like inviting one aunt and not another). I think this covers everyone who I"m close to in our family, as well as everyone who's in those same circles (like inviting the one aunt your close to, you also invite the other aunts because that's the "aunt circle"). Take a look and let me know if there are any glaring omissions!".

  
  

  If the parents come back and say, "Yes, actually, you forgot our 20 closest friends from church, and our 50 closest friends from our community center, and all 36 of your 4th cousins twice removed", your future husband can say "Oh, I'm not actually close to any of those people, and we're trying to keep the wedding to only the people we feel close to." Done.

  
  

  Essentially, don't let them make a list. Let them take a look at your list. 

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• kererie member

  

  August 2013

  @MandyMost - I love that idea...I will have him "present" his list to them once he finalizes it (mostly which friends/colleagues of his to invite) - he's got the family pretty much done.

  Creative suggestion and I like it.

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