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Second Wedding - Dress etiquette

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Re: Second Wedding - Dress etiquette

  • brideedirbbrideedirb member
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    Wow, this is exactly what I am going through!  I'm self-conscious in general but our stories are so similar! 

    I've been hesitant to use the knot again since it's my second wedding and all.  I've been hesitant about a lot because it's my second wedding. I had someone say to me recently, "you aren't wearing a veil, are you?" 

    I know this post went in one direction about the dresses, but I can't help but process a little bit of my second wedding on here!  I looked at the Second Wedding message board, but it's kind of depressing!

    It's great you picked the right guy this time!  Are you worried about something similar happening to you again?  Do you think your last marriage ended because he cheated or he cheated because the marriage was ending?  Do you feel like you were too young and just wanted to get married?  Sorry if I'm prying but I wonder all these same things when I reflect on my past!  Don't feel like you have to answer!  Young marriages are so tough!  And you don't always get to process this stuff with people!

    I'm sure you will look beautiful in whatever dress you pick!

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  • AllyIdoAllyIdo member
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    brideedirb said:
    Wow, this is exactly what I am going through!  I'm self-conscious in general but our stories are so similar! :)

    I've been hesitant to use the knot again since it's my second wedding and all.  I've been hesitant about a lot because it's my second wedding. I had someone say to me recently, "you aren't wearing a veil, are you?"  Lame.

    I know this post went in one direction about the dresses, but I can't help but process a little bit of my second wedding on here!  I looked at the Second Wedding message board, but it's kind of depressing! I totally agree!

    It's great you picked the right guy this time!  Are you worried about something similar happening to you again?  Nope. Do you think your last marriage ended because he cheated or he cheated because the marriage was ending? The marriage had just started, so... and cheating is cheating.  Do you feel like you were too young and just wanted to get married? Nope. Sorry if I'm prying but I wonder all these same things when I reflect on my past!  Don't feel like you have to answer!  Young marriages are so tough!  And you don't always get to process this stuff with people!

    I'm sure you will look beautiful in whatever dress you pick! Why thank you ;)


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  • brideedirbbrideedirb member
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    edited August 2013
    You are so right, cheating is cheating!  Have you ever seen him with his "new wife"?!?!
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  • AllyIdoAllyIdo member
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    I have seen them from afar but we've never had a real run in. Friends of mine have run into him and it's been awkward. We only live 10 minutes away from each other. God I hope I'm not jinxing myself.

    Thanks to Facebook, Foursquare and Instagram I'm able to snoop. I've cut back on that big time, but I can't help but look. My girlfriends want to kill me!
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  • brideedirbbrideedirb member
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    edited August 2013
    We live in different cities now so I am lucky!
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  • crunchymamaof2 crunchymamaof2 member
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    NYCBruin said:
    @CMGr thanks for the info!  It's now on my (ever growing) to-read list!

    @NYCBruin could you share the name of that book? I'd love to add it to my list too

    After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!

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  • shilotony2012shilotony2012 member
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    edited August 2013

    Hell, this was my third marriage. I never had the big wedding, both courthouses, and it was also DHs third. I only had one person say anything while she was trying on her BM dress. My mom told her since I never did the big wedding, I was doing it now.

    Had a wedding party, 6 on each side. I had a bridal shower a bach party, and everything in between!!! And I wore a full on white wedding dress!!!

     

    I was glad I didnt have a full on wedding with either of my exes. I think I was saving that experience for the one, and i have found him. He was just hiding in my past, lol.

     

    So, do what makes you and FI happy, and ignore the crap.

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  • PhoneCardLadyPhoneCardLady member
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    Don't forget to get on the Vegas board for any questions that you might have.

    Also remember that you see a lot of ladies in wedding dresses on the Strip!
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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    allyscud said:
    Hi All,

    I got married when I was 27 years old. Had a big, fluffy wedding. We got divorced a year later, and my ex is now happily married to the woman from work I caught him cheating on me with. Excellent!

    Fast forward five years and I'm 32 and getting married again. I picked the right guy this time! I'm now starting to look at dresses, and I'm wondering what the "rules" are about my dress the second time around. My thought is to steer clear of anything too poofy, too bridal looking, but I plan to wear white or ivory.

    More than half the guests were not at my first wedding. I don't want anyone to think it's tacky of me to be in a white dress again, KWIM?

    I should also mention that we are getting married in Vegas. 50 people, hotel chapel ceremony, fancy dinner and big night out afterwards.  I wanted to wear something long so I'd feel like a bride... but a Vegas bride, something with some bling!

    Any thoughts on the etiquette of second wedding dresses? Thanks!
    Congratulations - Since you're getting married,you can wear whatever you want. This is my second wedding,I'm having a full wedding and wearing a fancy dress....for some reason, I didn't want to wear a veil though. So, so far...no veil in my plans. My mind might change.
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