I'm sure there's been situations like this talked about before, so I'm sorry if this is a repeat!
(We'll call the Bride 'Big T' during this)
So Big T and I have been best friends since the 9th grade.. We are now 26. She just got engaged about a month ago, and I've since realized she isn't going to be asking me to be in her wedding. She asked her bridesmaids and such already. I hate to sound so selfish, but I'm hurt. I do realize we aren't as super close as we once were but, I do still consider her one of my best friends and I thought she felt the same. She was my maid-of-honor 5 years ago, too. While I didn't expect to be her MOH, I guess I did assume she'd have some sort of role for me in her wedding? I guess what also hurts me is that she hasn't even acknowledged to me she won't be asking me to be in the wedding. This is her day and I'm so happy for her & her fiancé, I really don't want to bring it up and make it sound like this should be all about me.
Is there any tactful way I can go about asking her about it without pissing her off/stressing her out/guilting her into finding a place for me in the wedding? I just am at a loss on what to do or say.. I feel very hurt but don't know how justified I am in feeling this way.