I hang around Wedding Wire (though I don't know why, I just end up fighting with a few of the brats on there) and came across this:
Now, I totally understand laughing with your husband or SO about really strange and out there gifts. But bitching about only receiving $40? That behavior is repulsive IMO. What happened to accepting gifts graciously? I guess that went right out the window at the same time properly hosting did.
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
Re: Anyone else find this horribly offensive?
Officially hitched as of 10/25/13
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
Eta
Oh. $40 between 6 people. Well, that might perplex me if all 6 were adults with jobs, I wouldn't complain about it online where people might find it.
I ask because if this:
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Somewhat offensive as not everyone has money to burn on gifts. Some just flat out funny.
Honestly, I think the only time the bride and groom have the right to get pissed at someone over a gift is when a groom's family member who doesn't like bride and vice versa gives the couple divorce/annulment papers "in case you change your mind" with their information already entered!
I think the last time with a PPD the user (classyashley) that made the thread got banned. It did get out of hand but it started similar to this.
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I'll admit I lurk way more than I post & this comment is not touching on the gift thing so I'm sorry if it ruffles feathers. My question really is if the rules about calling out posts or people has to do with cyber bullying then shouldn't it not be ok to do it to anyone, regardless of who you think you are bashing? That's like saying cyber bullying is bad but it's ok if you don't do it to my friends. If you are a moderator I hope you consider what that outlook may do to the knot bc this is a wonderful place & I'd hate for this to be what it becomes.
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Well, the good news is that if I'm unemployed, attending alone, from PA, the couple are just family friends, and I need to buy an international plane ticket for an informal wedding on a weekday, my gift only has to be -$185.
I think every bride who checks her gifts with this calculator should be required to cut a check to any guest with a negative suggested gift amount.
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I've done lots of research on this since I went to a DW last year. Most of what I read says yes, gifts are still expected. I gave a "regular" gift at the bride's shower and a very small gift with a card for the wedding.
http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/were-famous/cd933acdd72a419f.html
Ps. Alycia, in case you didn't read through all 10 pages of this one--you have been voted off..again