What To Do!! Bridesmaid Jewelry!

sdove13 · August 2013

Maggie0829 perhaps you should go to the Nest.

Maggie0829 · August 2013

sdove13 said:

Maggie0829 perhaps you should go to the Nest.

Yes and leave you and all the other crazy bridezillas here to give such "wonderful" advice to the brides who are really asking for help.

MobKaz · August 2013

And, yet another "first time poster" with a hot topic thread..........Testing....testing.....1,2,3.........

itzMS · August 2013

mobkaz said:

And, yet another "first time poster" with a hot topic thread..........Testing....testing.....1,2,3.........

It's amusing, and so obvious.

I didn't think she was a troll at first. But her responses escalated to LEVEL 10 dramarama like instantly.

southernbelle0915 · August 2013

@maggie0829 - I feel sorry for your husband. Stop giving good, experienced advice to entitled, etiquette-clueless brides to-be and go to The Nest

southernbelle0915 · August 2013

@sdove13 - tell us more about your wedding..

Maggie0829 · August 2013

@southernbelle0915 I feel sorry for him too. I just do not know how he lives with such a know it all!

**slamming the door and making a bee line for TN** LOL! Just kidding! I am here to stay. No troll can shut me up

southernbelle0915 · August 2013

Maggie0829 said:
@southernbelle0915 I feel sorry for him too. I just do not know how he lives with such a know it all!

**slamming the door and making a bee line for TN** LOL! Just kidding! I am here to stay. No troll can shut me up

Is it allowed to asking someone to make a bee line for The Bee? Maybe their ideas will get validated there...

[Deleted User] · August 2013

@Sdove1 Just sent you a message.

sdove13 · August 2013

@KnotPorscha I replied Back to you

sdove13 · August 2013

I would appreciate only non rude and helpful answers on this thread please. Thanks. And I will tell you more about my wedding, Inbox me directly if you like and Id be happy to!

astimmel · August 2013

We would appreciate it if you read all of the not rude, helpful answers we already provided. kthanx.

NYCMercedes · August 2013

This was copied and pasted from 3:49....."Buy the Amazon ones. That is not their gift, you know. It is part of the costume you're requiring. You need to buy them a gift."

MobKaz · August 2013

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EbY0vuNt-Q

Hmmm....Choose the Destructor.......

More curiosities.....

SDove gets a PM and responds back. Now there is a post asking for only non rude and helpful answers. She is also asking for posters to send PM's. I feel like I am being asked to choose my destructor.

sdove......rude is often in the eye of the beholder. Helpful answers, and validation are two different things. And, rude and helpful swings both ways. Your original question asked for help deciding what your BM's jewelry should be and how much should be spent. You were given answers but "screamed" back at posters with , "Its my WEDDING so there gonna wear what I want".

It would appear you have answered your own question.

sdove13 · August 2013

Go on another board if your gonna bother me because i dont want to deal with it

astimmel · August 2013

sdove13 said:

Go on another board if your gonna bother me because i dont want to deal with it

* you're
* I
* don't

And we are not bothering you. We're trying to get you to understand that your question was already answered:
- If you want them to wear specific jewelry, that's ok, but it's your responsibility to buy it.
- The jewelry cannot be your gift to them. Your gifts to them have to be personal and thoughtful, picked out for each girl individually. Your gifts should reflect your appreciation of their friendship and the time, energy, and money they have committed to your wedding.

sdove13 · August 2013

Well then we have different opinons on that because i do not think that you have to get BM personal gifts they should be just fine with the pearls

MobKaz · August 2013

sdove13 said:

Well then we have different opinons on that because i do not think that you have to get BM personal gifts they should be just fine with the pearls

Clearly, then, your time, as well as ours, is done now.

OliveOilsMom · August 2013

mobkaz said:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8EbY0vuNt-Q

Hmmm....Choose the Destructor.......

More curiosities.....
SDove gets a PM and responds back. Now there is a post asking for only non rude and helpful answers. She is also asking for posters to send PM's. I feel like I am being asked to choose my destructor.

sdove......rude is often in the eye of the beholder. Helpful answers, and validation are two different things. And, rude and helpful swings both ways. Your original question asked for help deciding what your BM's jewelry should be and how much should be spent. You were given answers but "screamed" back at posters with , "Its my WEDDING so there gonna wear what I want".

It would appear you have answered your own question.

Always remember to pick Mr. Stay Puff!

OP, you have gotten great advice that you are refusing to listen to. Maybe your should read how most people gave you the same response and realize that your gift idea isn't a great one.

Viczaesar · August 2013

sdove13 said:

Well then we have different opinons on that because i do not think that you have to get BM personal gifts they should be just fine with the pearls

Your poor bridesmaids.

artbyallie · August 2013

sdove13 said:

Well then we have different opinons on that because i do not think that you have to get BM personal gifts they should be just fine with the pearls

In this case, you should really get them the $700 ones. And include a gift receipt. They deserve that much for putting up with you.

Also, are you clicking 'love it' for all your own posts?

AddieCake · August 2013

OP, you need to relax. I suggest margaritas and masturbation.

vk2204 · August 2013

Get them whatever pearls you want. But please get them something else to go along with it. Personally I would be totally bummed out to get a necklace as a gift. Even if you pair it with a bottle of their favorite wine, a gift card to their favorite store, or something small they will appreciate it.

itzMS · August 2013

Marshmallow22 said:

Secondly, I'm going to go against the grain for a minute.. the whole "shop for them like its their birthday" has to be one of the most irritating of the new trendy wedding "etiquette" ideas. I have been in 4 weddings now. I have always gotten the same necklace or engraved flask or set of earrings that the other girls have gotten. Not once, NOT ONCE, have I been disappointed, unhappy, or unappreciative of the gift. You know why? BECAUSE IT WAS A GIFT. IMO, the only "rules" when shopping for bridal party gifts should be find something of good quality, within your budget, and you believe they'd like. Again, IMO.

I think you missed the point.

It's not a "new trendy wedding" thing to buy your best friends a gift that reflects them as an individual. This is common courtesy in life.

No one here said they would get upset over a matchy-matchy bridesmaid gift. We know it's a gift. Have the zillion matchy-matchy clutches and jewelry I've received gone straight to Goodwill though? Yep.

It's about stepping outside the box as a bride and treating your bridesmaids as the individuals they are...no matter what the past precedence in other weddings has been.

KeptInStitches · August 2013

@Marshmallow22, the difference is you know your BM's tastes and know that they will love their jewelry. PP are talking about things that are part of the BM costume - it doesn't matter if they're small pearls, feather headpieces, or massive statement necklaces if they're not in the taste of the BM's. Those things aren't good gifts.

sdove13 · August 2013

artbyallie No Im not, some people can actually agree with what I'm saying!

sdove13 · August 2013

However I think I have a better Idea as to what to do, I have been really thinking about what every one has been saying, The rude and non rude ones. As I do not feel I have to get them an extra gift and their jewelry I give them to the wedding should be good enough I decided to not give pearls. I found these initial necklaces on the same site of the pearl sets. I think that there so cute but I just haven't ordered from www.evesaddiction.com before so I don't know how there stuff is?

An to whoever mentioned esty I checked it out they do have some nice things, thanks for that HELPFUL input!

astimmel · August 2013

Marshmallow22 said:

@itzMS Nooo.. I don't think I am. There were a couple of you talking about how disgusted you were with receiving the same gift as someone else -

"It's like saying "I got you this jewelry so that you'll look the way I want you to for my wedding. But you can also wear it for other stuff." Trust me. I was on the receiving end of the jewelry and it was kind of a slap in the face."

and

"To her face, I said they were lovely. In my head I thought how inconsiderate to purchase me jewlery she KNOWS I will never wear again."

Of course, I completely agree, if you want your BMs to be in something costume-y like, i don't know, a feather headpiece, or say a massive statement necklace, yeah, you probably shouldn't consider that a gift. But I'm have only 3 BMs, they are all getting high quality charm and pearl necklaces, that I know for a fact they will re-wear, I don't think that's "inconsiderate" or "a slap in the face" because I was thinking about all 3 of their styles when I picked it out in the first place.

To be completely honest, if I was in a wedding, and the bride gave me a "Barnes & Noble giftcard" (as a PP suggested) I'd be more "disappointed" (actually Id be weird-ed out) than if I got a piece of jewelry or a clutch that was picked out with me in mind.

Wow, did you miss the point. But that's bound to happen when you don't actually read the entire post. Don't take my words out of context. I NEVER said I was "disgusted."

I didn't care that we all looked the same for her wedding. I was hurt that her "gift" was something to make my outfit complete for her wedding. I didn't even get a personal thank you. None of the BMs did. It hurt that she didn't acknowledge our friendships, our dedication, our energy. She got all of us the exact same thing, when we all have vastly different personalities. She got us something to wear FOR HER, not something for us as friends. Or even individuals.

Not only that, but in my case the earrings were actually identical to the ones she got me for my last birthday. And I've never even worn those because they aren't my style.

So stop putting words in my mouth and try reading posts all the way through.

LDubHawksFan · August 2013

sdove13 said:
However I think I have a better Idea as to what to do, I have been really thinking about what every one has been saying, The rude and non rude ones. As I do not feel I have to get them an extra gift and their jewelry I give them to the wedding should be good enough I decided to not give pearls. I found these initial necklaces on the same site of the pearl sets. I think that there so cute but I just haven't ordered from www.evesaddiction.com before so I don't know how there stuff is?

An to whoever mentioned esty I checked it out
they do have some nice things, thanks for that HELPFUL input!

Honestly I hate initial things. I got one as my will you be my BM gift recently and I will never wear it again. People are just saying to find things you know your girls will like. If you think they will all like pearls, or these new ones, fine.

itzMS · August 2013

lwoehlk said:

However I think I have a better Idea as to what to do, I have been really thinking about what every one has been saying, The rude and non rude ones. As I do not feel I have to get them an extra gift and their jewelry I give them to the wedding should be good enough I decided to not give pearls. I found these initial necklaces on the same site of the pearl sets. I think that there so cute but I just haven't ordered from www.evesaddiction.com before so I don't know how there stuff is?

An to whoever mentioned esty I checked it out they do have some nice things, thanks for that HELPFUL input!
Honestly I hate initial things. I got one as my will you be my BM gift recently and I will never wear it again. People are just saying to find things you know your girls will like. If you think they will all like pearls, or these new ones, fine.

I agree with this. I find it incredibly hard to believe that 10 women would all like the exact same necklace (or exact same anything) and that the same necklace would fit all 10 womens' personal tastes.

But hey, maybe the OP's 10 friends are clones...you never know.

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