So, 3 weeks ago my fiancee and I were sitting behind our laptops, going through wedding cake toppers. It was one of the few things so far that he actively participated in, giving me his own choices. He didn't want a couple that stood stiffly next to each other, he wanted it to actually show: This is us, we love one another, that's what we're celebrating here today. We had a great evening on this, laughing hard with some of them and finally concluded the evening with ordering our own.
Two days ago it finally arrived and we loved the result. That evening when his parents and his grandparents came to visit us my fiancee showed it to them.
Grandma's reaction? It's lovely sweetheart, really, it is! But I really think that it's not appropriate. According to her it was way to promiscuous. Why not a normal statue like hers or his parents? He could even borrow hers if he wanted to. His parents said it was a lovely statue but that we had to calculate in that other guests might react the same way.
After they left we were a bit dissapointed to say the least but decided that a small statue wasn't something most people would fall over or even notice and that we wanted the statue to be in our living room next to our union candle which was something we would have to look on for a very long time. So we decided to go with ours and went to bed. Next morning we were getting ready for work when grandma stood at our door, bringing her own cake topper which is in a horrid state! Pieces are broken off, it's turned yellow and it represented everything we didn't want it to be.
I'm a bit ashamed that my biggest issue is over a cake topper but still, we'd just like to use our own. How to tell this politely? Because the one grandma brought is of course a family heritage.