Some people on here are pretty mean :(

Xstatic3333 · August 2013

Robloveshallie said:
Some of the "ladies" commenting on this thread sound like they need a tampon. Just saying.

Wow, nothing bugs me more than women throwing out "are you on your period?" at other women. You set us all back when that's your go-to insult. Not cool. I also maintain that, until that little gem, this thread was perfectly polite.

MuppetOverlord · August 2013

Robloveshallie said:

MuppetOverlord said:

Robloveshallie said:

Some of the "ladies" commenting on this thread sound like they need a tampon. Just saying.
Are you looking for a suggestion regarding where to shove one?
No but I'm sure you can give me some, you're probably an expert.

Why, yes, yes I am an expert regarding suggestions for tampon shoving locations:

Up your nose:

In Pie:

Bedazzled, on your finger:

In your pocket:

In the trash:

up your kid's nose:

or my personal favorite, up your ass....soaked in vodka

PrettyGirlLost · August 2013

Gah WTF happened with my post?! It's all funky!

MairePoppy · August 2013

PrettyGirlLost said:

Gah WTF happened with my post?! It's all funky!

NYCMercedes · August 2013

Yeah, it's definitely a funky post. It was over my Tarra-avatar so I first figure someone hacked my account.

MobKaz · August 2013

A few posters have been complaining about the use of gifs. Perhaps it is the new *cough* glitch-of-the-week *cough*.

thejucheidea · August 2013

All I can think about is Red giving Piper the tampon burger.

I think I've been watching too much Orange Is the New Black.

WhipIt76 · August 2013

Wow... just wow.

Number one, if you can't handle the mean people on the internet, if people who have no bearing on your life at all can make you feel bad about yourself or your ideas, if you don't have the self worth and self respect to look at someone who disagrees with you or acts a little holier than thou and ignore them or reply in kind without whining like a two year old (read: "Mommy she's mean to me make her stop") you should probably delete EVERY social media account you have and go back home. I also highly recommend not getting married as a good marriage takes a lot of maturity and being able to reasonably discuss things even when you think your spouse is being a douche.

Pretty sure I already posted the on Wedding911 but apparently it's common everywhere.

Pepper6 · August 2013

Robloveshallie said:

MuppetOverlord said:

Robloveshallie said:

Some of the "ladies" commenting on this thread sound like they need a tampon. Just saying.
Are you looking for a suggestion regarding where to shove one?
No but I'm sure you can give me some, you're probably an expert.

Are you not? How old are you? Awww...did your mom not explain how to use them when you started your period a few months ago kiddo?

Gustafson28 · August 2013

thejucheidea said:

All I can think about is Red giving Piper the tampon burger.

I think I've been watching too much Orange Is the New Black.

I watched the entire season already! I'm on round 2!

Simply Fated · August 2013

Guiz, don't you know that when a female has an opinion it's because it's her "time of the month."

I say "time of the month" because the words "period" and "menstruation" are taboo here in the 1950's.

Now, if you will all excuse me, I must go back to vacuuming the house while wearing my pearl necklace and heels.

ElcaB · August 2013

jlhart76 · August 2013

I've read the posts in question and can't find anything approaching mean until the op starts insulting people who didn't like their opinion. As for the example given above about the mall, you're a bit off in your illustration. Its more like you're looking around a shop and pick up a hunter orange floor pillow, then turn to other shoppers and say "I love color so I think this would go perfect with my pastel pink couch. I already bought some lavender curtains and a bright red rug. These will look great, won't they?" and when they tell you its going to clash you get upset and argue that they must have lousy fashion taste because you KNOW it looks good and all of your friends have agreed. Friends will be more tactful because they're your friends and don't want to hurt your feelings. Anonymous strangers on the internet are more likely to tell you the truth. Especially when you ask etiquette questions that have been answered a thousand times already, but you still ask because you have an exceptional situation and obviously people should agree that it may be tacky in every other situation, but for you etiquette doesn't apply. If you don't want to have someone tell you an idea is bad, don't ask in a public forum. if you can't handle criticism then don't ask for other people's opinion.

KeptInStitches · August 2013

@elcab, Why stop there? Celebrate EVERYTHING with yarn!

ElcaB · August 2013

It's about to be Labor Day weekend. Join me, Knotties!

ElcaB · August 2013

@alisonmarie658,

MuppetOverlord · August 2013

jlhart76 said:

I've read the posts in question and can't find anything approaching mean until the op starts insulting people who didn't like their opinion. As for the example given above about the mall, you're a bit off in your illustration. Its more like you're looking around a shop and pick up a hunter orange floor pillow, then turn to other shoppers and say "I love color so I think this would go perfect with my pastel pink couch. I already bought some lavender curtains and a bright red rug. These will look great, won't they?" and when they tell you its going to clash you get upset and argue that they must have lousy fashion taste because you KNOW it looks good and all of your friends have agreed. Friends will be more tactful because they're your friends and don't want to hurt your feelings. Anonymous strangers on the internet are more likely to tell you the truth. Especially when you ask etiquette questions that have been answered a thousand times already, but you still ask because you have an exceptional situation and obviously people should agree that it may be tacky in every other situation, but for you etiquette doesn't apply. If you don't want to have someone tell you an idea is bad, don't ask in a public forum. if you can't handle criticism then don't ask for other people's opinion.

My FMIL Demanded we go dress shopping for her in the summer for our fall wedding. I said, they are going to have summer dresses, we should wait a few weeks. We got there, and whadya know....summer, summer, and summer.

She got excited because everything was on sale. She put on a dress that was 2 sizes too small, made her look like Spongebob, and it was hot pink.

When asked what I thought, I was nice. I tried to avoid telling her she was too fat for the dress and focused onthat I thought it would look out of place being such a summery color. I said it would kind of look like someone highlighted her on all the photos and suggested that if she wanted pink, we could wait a few weeks and find more of a raspberry color for her. She kept asking me to forget colors and tell her what she looked like in it and I suggested a larger size. We went by the a few shirts that were fall colors and I showed them to her and she got all excited and said that color pink is exactly what she wanted.

She ended up telling my fiance how awful I was and how I didn't like anything and went out and bought them anyway. When she modeled them for others, they said the same things I did and asked if she wanted to look like a mother or an awkward standout guest.

But I'm the bad guy for saying it first. If I didn't say it, she'd be mad at me when the photos came back from the photographer.

Dreamergirl8812 · August 2013

MuppetOverlord said:

jlhart76 said:

I've read the posts in question and can't find anything approaching mean until the op starts insulting people who didn't like their opinion. As for the example given above about the mall, you're a bit off in your illustration. Its more like you're looking around a shop and pick up a hunter orange floor pillow, then turn to other shoppers and say "I love color so I think this would go perfect with my pastel pink couch. I already bought some lavender curtains and a bright red rug. These will look great, won't they?" and when they tell you its going to clash you get upset and argue that they must have lousy fashion taste because you KNOW it looks good and all of your friends have agreed. Friends will be more tactful because they're your friends and don't want to hurt your feelings. Anonymous strangers on the internet are more likely to tell you the truth. Especially when you ask etiquette questions that have been answered a thousand times already, but you still ask because you have an exceptional situation and obviously people should agree that it may be tacky in every other situation, but for you etiquette doesn't apply. If you don't want to have someone tell you an idea is bad, don't ask in a public forum. if you can't handle criticism then don't ask for other people's opinion.

My FMIL Demanded we go dress shopping for her in the summer for our fall wedding. I said, they are going to have summer dresses, we should wait a few weeks. We got there, and whadya know....summer, summer, and summer.

She got excited because everything was on sale. She put on a dress that was 2 sizes too small, made her look like Spongebob, and it was hot pink.

When asked what I thought, I was nice. I tried to avoid telling her she was too fat for the dress and focused onthat I thought it would look out of place being such a summery color. I said it would kind of look like someone highlighted her on all the photos and suggested that if she wanted pink, we could wait a few weeks and find more of a raspberry color for her. She kept asking me to forget colors and tell her what she looked like in it and I suggested a larger size. We went by the a few shirts that were fall colors and I showed them to her and she got all excited and said that color pink is exactly what she wanted.

She ended up telling my fiance how awful I was and how I didn't like anything and went out and bought them anyway. When she modeled them for others, they said the same things I did and asked if she wanted to look like a mother or an awkward standout guest.

But I'm the bad guy for saying it first. If I didn't say it, she'd be mad at me when the photos came back from the photographer.

That's okay, because:

MuppetOverlord · August 2013

I wasn't a bitch at all! I try really hard with her.

But......I do get stuff done. I ended up finding the dress she loves for $30

CookieD86 · August 2013

I understand both points of view. However, some responses on the message boards are rude. Disagreements are going to occur almost always on a board filled with women who have their own mind and are planning their own big event. But there are some responses that are more than just blunt. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being blunt, but when you go past that and actually mock someone's idea instead of offering constructive criticism, the comment becomes in fact rude.

Everyone needs the truth rather than lies on here, but don't beat the bride with a stick because you disagree.

Dreamergirl8812 · September 2013

MuppetOverlord said:

I wasn't a bitch at all! I try really hard with her.

But......I do get stuff done. I ended up finding the dress she loves for $30

^^^ True story.

thejucheidea · September 2013

CookieD86 said:

I understand both points of view. However, some responses on the message boards are rude. Disagreements are going to occur almost always on a board filled with women who have their own mind and are planning their own big event. But there are some responses that are more than just blunt. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being blunt, but when you go past that and actually mock someone's idea instead of offering constructive criticism, the comment becomes in fact rude.
Everyone needs the truth rather than lies on here, but don't beat the bride with a stick because you disagree.

Were you here before the Purge? If not, bless your heart if you think it's bad now.

MairePoppy · September 2013

@CookieD86 = The KGs gave in to pressure from oversensitive newbies and banned a few intelligent women who didn't mince words. They took with them people who value honesty and openness. That happened a month ago.

I notice your join date is Aug 21. Have you noticed, since then, that some community members are beating up on brides? Of course you can't name names or give links, but could you give some examples? I'm trying to gauge what you and some others consider to be abusive.

DaisyMaeMommy · September 2013

If you don't like the responses you get on a forum from STRANGERS, then......

FiancB · September 2013

I've been a forum poster for a long time and typically enjoy the posters that are more blunt. I don't like people being nice for the sake of being nice and like honest opinions, when intelligent and tactful. Most of the forums I post on are horse related, which are their own special brand of crazy.

I swear though, one could write a goddamn psychological or sociological thesis about this board.

Don't get me wrong. It's a great forum with a lot of people from a lot of different walks of life. But the obsession with tacky is getting kind of old. It's like a constant pissing contest to see who can find the "tacky" ideas first and do the bitchiest rundown of how it's tacky.

First of all, I think it's people trying to reassure themselves that THEY are having the best wedding EVAR. By pointing out others' tacky ideas, they feel a little bit more reassured that they are not tacky. The more you demonize others for daring suggesting having a cash bar, the better you feel about your wedding.

But then again, you don't want to feel like a bridezilla that is overspending, so you also have to attack people that are having a very expensive, luxe wedding. God forbid they're lucky enough to have someone that's happy to pay for it! Basically, if someone is spending more than someone else, they're a spoiled brat. If they show any sign of trying to save money and spend less, they're tacky. Motivation comes from either jealousy or wanting to feel like you're having the better wedding.

For all the hate that PPDs get, it seems that the only reason to get married is to have a Pretty Princess Day. It isn't about, you know, everyone having a good time and you getting legally/spiritually bound to someone you love. There are legal and financial reasons to get the paperwork done early but God forbid it doesn't take place on the same day as you going through this weird ritual of getting in a white dress and trying to impress everyone with your etiquette skills.

I have a friend that got married just recently in a gorgeous park. She (gasp!) had paper plates, which isn't looked upon to favorably around here. You know what? The food on top of the paper plates was really good and it was a fabulous wedding. In the same venue I would do the same damn thing. Nobody gives a rat's butt.

Weddings are out of control from what they used to be. Not that long ago it was normal to have a small, simple wedding with a quick cake and punch reception after and call it a day. Now if you're not having a full plated dinner omggggg how tacky!

Same goes for any suggestion of getting help with different tasks at the wedding. A lot of people do. That's what friends do. Friends are also understanding and forgiving but it seems any little BM drama is cause to not be friends with that person anymore.

So all I'm saying I guess is calm the F down and think about the real motivation you may have for tearing into someone else. By no means am I saying to agree with every idea out there and go "that sounds great!" but seriously, trim the claws.

MuppetOverlord · September 2013

FiancB said:

I've been a forum poster for a long time and typically enjoy the posters that are more blunt. I don't like people being nice for the sake of being nice and like honest opinions, when intelligent and tactful. Most of the forums I post on are horse related, which are their own special brand of crazy.

I swear though, one could write a goddamn psychological or sociological thesis about this board.

Don't get me wrong. It's a great forum with a lot of people from a lot of different walks of life. But the obsession with tacky is getting kind of old. It's like a constant pissing contest to see who can find the "tacky" ideas first and do the bitchiest rundown of how it's tacky.

First of all, I think it's people trying to reassure themselves that THEY are having the best wedding EVAR. By pointing out others' tacky ideas, they feel a little bit more reassured that they are not tacky. The more you demonize others for daring suggesting having a cash bar, the better you feel about your wedding.

But then again, you don't want to feel like a bridezilla that is overspending, so you also have to attack people that are having a very expensive, luxe wedding. God forbid they're lucky enough to have someone that's happy to pay for it! Basically, if someone is spending more than someone else, they're a spoiled brat. If they show any sign of trying to save money and spend less, they're tacky. Motivation comes from either jealousy or wanting to feel like you're having the better wedding.

For all the hate that PPDs get, it seems that the only reason to get married is to have a Pretty Princess Day. It isn't about, you know, everyone having a good time and you getting legally/spiritually bound to someone you love. There are legal and financial reasons to get the paperwork done early but God forbid it doesn't take place on the same day as you going through this weird ritual of getting in a white dress and trying to impress everyone with your etiquette skills.

I have a friend that got married just recently in a gorgeous park. She (gasp!) had paper plates, which isn't looked upon to favorably around here. You know what? The food on top of the paper plates was really good and it was a fabulous wedding. In the same venue I would do the same damn thing. Nobody gives a rat's butt.

Weddings are out of control from what they used to be. Not that long ago it was normal to have a small, simple wedding with a quick cake and punch reception after and call it a day. Now if you're not having a full plated dinner omggggg how tacky!

Same goes for any suggestion of getting help with different tasks at the wedding. A lot of people do. That's what friends do. Friends are also understanding and forgiving but it seems any little BM drama is cause to not be friends with that person anymore.

So all I'm saying I guess is calm the F down and think about the real motivation you may have for tearing into someone else. By no means am I saying to agree with every idea out there and go "that sounds great!" but seriously, trim the claws.

It is a fucking etiquette board that people post these topics on.

That's the only motivation for tearing into or advising against a tacky idea.

(edited for clarity)

RedJacks25 · September 2013

FiancB · September 2013

Aw, you can google up some GIFs. So skilled. Have a cookie, you.

If the only motivation is that it's tacky then I'm not sure why people get so deeply offended and are so vested in the interest in scaring away the tacky, since these are weddings of total strangers that you won't be attending.

arrippa · September 2013

FiancB said:

I've been a forum poster for a long time and typically enjoy the posters that are more blunt. I don't like people being nice for the sake of being nice and like honest opinions, when intelligent and tactful. Most of the forums I post on are horse related, which are their own special brand of crazy.

I swear though, one could write a goddamn psychological or sociological thesis about this board.

Don't get me wrong. It's a great forum with a lot of people from a lot of different walks of life. But the obsession with tacky is getting kind of old. It's like a constant pissing contest to see who can find the "tacky" ideas first and do the bitchiest rundown of how it's tacky.

First of all, I think it's people trying to reassure themselves that THEY are having the best wedding EVAR. By pointing out others' tacky ideas, they feel a little bit more reassured that they are not tacky. The more you demonize others for daring suggesting having a cash bar, the better you feel about your wedding.

But then again, you don't want to feel like a bridezilla that is overspending, so you also have to attack people that are having a very expensive, luxe wedding. God forbid they're lucky enough to have someone that's happy to pay for it! Basically, if someone is spending more than someone else, they're a spoiled brat. If they show any sign of trying to save money and spend less, they're tacky. Motivation comes from either jealousy or wanting to feel like you're having the better wedding.

For all the hate that PPDs get, it seems that the only reason to get married is to have a Pretty Princess Day. It isn't about, you know, everyone having a good time and you getting legally/spiritually bound to someone you love. There are legal and financial reasons to get the paperwork done early but God forbid it doesn't take place on the same day as you going through this weird ritual of getting in a white dress and trying to impress everyone with your etiquette skills.

I have a friend that got married just recently in a gorgeous park. She (gasp!) had paper plates, which isn't looked upon to favorably around here. You know what? The food on top of the paper plates was really good and it was a fabulous wedding. In the same venue I would do the same damn thing. Nobody gives a rat's butt.

Weddings are out of control from what they used to be. Not that long ago it was normal to have a small, simple wedding with a quick cake and punch reception after and call it a day. Now if you're not having a full plated dinner omggggg how tacky!

Same goes for any suggestion of getting help with different tasks at the wedding. A lot of people do. That's what friends do. Friends are also understanding and forgiving but it seems any little BM drama is cause to not be friends with that person anymore.

So all I'm saying I guess is calm the F down and think about the real motivation you may have for tearing into someone else. By no means am I saying to agree with every idea out there and go "that sounds great!" but seriously, trim the claws.

I don't think bad etiquette = tacky. I think bad etiquette = rude. Not the same thing, however a wedding can be both.

This whole rant is so odd. I have seen knotties tell people that it's ok to have a punch and cake recpetion (as long as it's not a meal time) and I don't recall them ever railing against paper plates.

arrippa · September 2013

FiancB said:

Aw, you can google up some GIFs. So skilled. Have a cookie, you.

If the only motivation is that it's tacky then I'm not sure why people get so deeply offended and are so vested in the interest in scaring away the tacky, since these are weddings of total strangers that you won't be attending.

I have attended two weddings with big etiquette no-nos. The first was a cash bar. The cash covered every drink except soda. I have to pay for water! I was extremely dismayed that my only option was to drink soda.

The other was no chairs at a ceremony. 45 minutes later it was over and a lot of guest's legs were sore. I know this because we spent the entire reception talking about it.

The brides in the above weddings didn't realize that they were against etiquette. I am sure there are other brides in the same predicament. We are just trying to help them.

Some people on here are pretty mean :(

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