I recently asked a very close friend to be a bridesmaid, she wasn't excited at all and immediately came up with reasons why she might not be able to be apart of my special day. When I approached her later to tell her that I understand it is a big financial and time commitment and wouldn't be hurt or offended if she couldn't participate in that way, she said she absolutely wants to be a bridesmaid but just needs time to think about it. She hasn't spoken to me since and I really need an answer since there is another girl I was thinking of asking knowing that my friend is making me feel she isn't interested and couldn't give me a solid answer when I gave her the chance to back out on her own. I don't want to hurt our friendship but I do want a bridesmaid who is 100% committed, how do I find out why she can't commit?
UPDATE: Thanks for everybody's opinions. I appreciate your responses and will focus on other aspects for my wedding right now. Moving on...